How does a lady get a man to ask her questions about herself?

[Amy10223]

I met this really nice guy visiting from another state, and we met and hit if off pretty well. He was on a roadtrip and was passing through my statel. He was handsome, and we spent a few hours talking and getting to know one another.
This was last year, and because of Covid we did not initiate anything, although I really wanted to.
Anyway, at some point in the evening we had exchanged phone numbers, so after he left, the next day I texted him saying that it was nice to meet him, hope he has a great rest of his trip. We ended up texting quite a bit back and forth on his trip, him updating me where he was and what he was seeing.
Since then, texts slowly have become more sporadic, dwindling down to maybe a couple of days of texting here and there with a couple months of silence in between. And, over text he's mostly kind of... stiff? Like, he doesn't make many jokes, he doesn't really seem to get some of my jokes, and he also hardly asks me any questions about me. So I don't initiate texting anymore, but today he just reached out to me again. We've been having a nice back and forth, but again, besides the very first text he sent he hasn't asked me anything about me. He responds to my texts so I know he is not just making it all about himself, but like if I mention "I'm in the middle of 3 books right now" he doesn't ask what the books are, he'll just say "three at once is a lot." You know? Things like that.
So how does a woman get a man to ask her more questions about herself?

[Anonymous]

If I had to guess, he's being mindful of what he says. No disrespect, but there are a lot of VERY judgmental women online. You say one wrong thing and the conversation is terminated on their end. It's possible that you two are just not a good fit for eachother (him not getting your jokes). But it's also possible that he doesn't want to get too comfortable because that's typically when she yanks the rug out from under your feet and hangs up (so to speak).
Hope it works out for you both if it's meant to be. Good luck!

[Amy10223]

This wasn't online--it was in person.

[Opinion Owner]

You said it was over text. How is that "in person"?

[Amy10223]

If you read my content--you'll see we met in my state, talked, and then texted days later after that as well as recently. Do you see now?

[Opinion Owner]

Actually I see why he stopped talking to you... which is kind of why I'm doing the same now. Have a good day. 🙂

[Chazmatazz269]

Why put it on him? If you want to talk about yourself, then talk about yourself. Better mitigate your expectations though. There’s a chance he just doesn’t engage with people the same way you do or expect. There’s also a chance he’s just not that into you and believes he’d be leading you on to appear too interested, especially since he’s out of state. Lots of people won’t attempt long distance relationships.

[Amy10223]

Yes, but we were talking for several hours. I have no idea if he was into me or not, because I am very low key and easy going.

[Guy13]

He seems to be purposefully staying outside of the "Intimacy Zone". Guys have perfected Emotionally Inept... I don't see a way to pry an interest of you into him.

[Amy10223]

Do you have any feeling that he may be a little shy? I talk quite a bit, and some have told me I'd make a great writer because of the way I speak. I wonder if he felt a little shy and intimidated?

[Guy13]

Talkers and Nosy 🧐 tend to shut guys down quickly. Quicker than, “give me some money” does…

[Amy10223]

Yeah I guess you are right, only I just wanted to get to know him more, I wasn't being nosy.

[Guy13]

Are you trying to say that men are sensitive and difficult.-I didn't see that listed under Testosterone :)

[Amy10223]

No, why?

[Guy13]

I am teasing... in my own head sometimes.

[AviatorTom]

Tell him you'd like him to ask questions about you.

[Amy10223]

That's what I am planning. Should I wait for his call ot text, or call him myself to say this to him?

[AviatorTom]

@Amy10223 I think you know the answer to that? Why wait?

[Amy10223]

Good idea Tom. PS--pssst... this is for a friend of mine, and not me. She told me this and I am trying to see if I can get answers for her here.

[peedy]

By gently nudging the conversation in that direction, easier said than done but try it and keep typing it practice till your good at it

[driven159]

it better for a man to ask in person if you want him to know something tell him he might be shy about asking

[POSSY_HUNTER]

if he attracted to her , he will do it naturally