Is it harder to find an attractive guy if you're older?

Question

I don’t know any attractive guys my age that are single unless they have personality issues, have serious health problems, or are both stupid and lazy

Moose304 · Accepted Answer

One of my cousins went through this about 5 years ago. Her first marriage was a disaster. Then she moved to Austin Texas and moved in with a guy there. Over time he gave her several STDs and she moved back to Dallas. She and I are very close to the same age. I think she is 63 and I am 64 today. She kept looking for "flash" through her 40s and gave up on men in general around 50. Then her current husband entered her life. I met him several times the last time at a family reunion. Her older sister and I spoke about him before they got married. She said he is not the most handsome man. has a bit of a chrome dome. Still, he takes care of what he has. Has a good income because he works hard. She settled down and married this guy. The last I heard is happy. I caution people male and female. Just as you don't judge a book by its cover, DO NOT judge someone solely by their outward appearance. You might let a diamond get by you!

Creampiekarl420 · Accepted Answer

What is a attractive to you :  a man who: has money is handsome takes care of you and your children  a man: who loves you and his children and would die for you

Pinay_ako · Answer

There are so many attractive older men out there and I know some… Who likes women our age! So yes there are! Older men have their hands full with making money, work, and if they’re divorced, time with their kids. But they too are looking for love like you. It’s just maybe timing. Good luck 🤞

Hulk30 · Answer

i think that really depends on how ya think what ya know and understand about men and what body types they find attractive and how ya live ya definitely gotta understand that men tend to choose women differently than how most women choose men however the way i see attractive is i think how fuckable someone is so if ya want an attractive guy from that perspective then you'd need to be your most attractive yourself so from that perspective it's definitely harder if ya want attractive men to just fall in your lap if your 30 and older and dont do the work so in that vein here's some women's fitness channels on youtube and sites for all the older women havin and hard time gettin attractive men like they want passion 4 profession tara stiles pop sugar fitness yoga with adriene tone it up body rock xhit daily fitness blender be fit sarah fit bikini model fitness crossfit zuzka light rebekah borucki-bex life jessica smith tv blogilates sceiencebasedsixpack. com thomas delauer the health site. com beauty iq amber martin vicky justiz get fit by ivana massy arias daisy keech kenicherie janaye penn tiffanie ray annabelle hayes renee mowatt abigail ekweghi mandy rose jane kate fitness the bk booty fitness roberta's gym hana milly bright side sonja lauren womens workout channel everyday bright nicolettaxo way and how cindy flores lumowell maryam hampton glamrs rebeca-louise womenshealthmag. com scottyoung. com stylist. co. uk glad i can help ladies peace and blessins

Hairylegs222 · Answer

Finding someone for you isn't easy... I'm still trying and won't give up. Life throws us curve balls when you least expect it. Keep your eyes open and never give up. It's worth it in the end to find that special someone.

Some guys (me for example) are picky and haven't found the one yet. I find attractive women to date but the personality compatibility section is the hard part. The initial attraction is easy, the personality part isn't. Also just because someone has good looks, don't mean they're all going to be taken or have horrible personalities when older. The time it takes to find the one is unpredictable. Different for everyone when that happens, if it does happen in their lifetime.

Adronicus · Answer

Some of us are blessed, I've never been more attractive than now, I'll be 42 next month. Cop guessed I was 26, lol. Even the younger woman show me attention although not interested in them in a romantic sense, they're too confused about what they want & that's unattractive AF, to me anyway. I'm in no rush to settle down if its not right. The way I see it is if god wants me lacking my greatest well of strength when I get to eternity, so be it. I'm not the casual type but recently been having second thoughts about that.

ThoseCognacEyes · Answer

“Unless they have personality issues, they have serious health problems, or are both stupid and lazy”

If that’s how you think, then an attractive man won’t consider being with you. Stop categorizing people and forming all these stupid preconceived ideas. People are individuals. Treat them as such.

Anonymous · Answer

There are many single older men. A person must be patient to find the right man. God has perfect match for all of us. Always kneel before God and ask for guidance for the right person to be shown unto you. I went to God 44 years ago and met a beautiful woman 4 years my jr. I had looked high and low from town to town placed place and could not find a match for me. That is when I kneeled before God and asked for guidance. He sent me to a university that is where I met my perfect match. One must always be patient.

Slartybartfast · Answer

The definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over and expecting a different result.

Only a tiny tiny few men get a chance at all in thier 20's , at thirty:

The women aren't as attractive and probably had the children they wanted already or had past relationships putting them at a completely different point in thier life then the men who wasn't able to get a coffee date without Olympic training level, easier to get a medical degree effort.

They have learned to suppress their desire for women as a subconscious ability and don't have the raging hormones pushing them 24/7

Have a lot to lose and have probably been taken advantage of.

Have already accepted a completely abusive one sided relationship due to lack of choices and are stuck there.

Have friends that have already opted out and feel it's now a welcoming and normal thing for men to be single.

TenderFantasy · Answer

Lol, I'm trying my best to debunk what you're saying but you've stumped me!

I guess I don't want to lose hope in that department, but at the same time, I am caring less and less about relationships the older I get lol. However, the baby having part, I may do IVF, or Sperm Bank or Adopt. Hey, it's MY money. 😉

Amy10223 · Answer

No, absolutley not. There are more handsome men around your age than you think. That's the age they look great, in my opinion. It's harder for me, though. However I have someone I recently met and he is pretty handsome, and about 9 years my junior.

You have to put yourself out there, join meetup groups in your area to meet people. You never know who you may find. Even a man a few years younger than you would be ok if you're both fine with it.

ZackBan · Answer

You forgot to add "single" in the title.
Because it's not that hard to find attractive guys but generally at your age they are past their adventurous stage and end up settling down.
So yeah the single guys you meet are usually the bums of society.

But it's not a golden rule.

If you're an attractive woman then the few single attractive men will be intersted enough in you.

Rab1901 · Answer

If you're talking about single ones, then yeah it has to be harder because there are less guys who are single when they get older, but I think there should still be enough. Although they might not look as good as they did in their 20s, there have to be some guys with redeeming qualities.

slatyb · Answer

Yes, it’s harder. It’s harder for men too, because many of the people your age are in long-term relationships. It’s harder still for older women who want to date a man close to their age. Men are happy to date younger women, so at 37 you are also competing with some 30-year-olds. If you are also set on marrying a serious Christian that limits your dating pool further. There are far more religious women than men.

RealMarek · Answer

In absolute terms, yes it is more difficult. Attractiveness declines with age. That said, one’s standards drop with age too, so there is some compensation for that.

You’re on to something though. An attractive, healthy, well adjusted man your age will not stay single for long unless he wants to.

Anonymous · Answer

It is definitely uncommon and it is harder.
But it doesn't mean you should give up or not try.
I for one, am 25 years old and I have a severe crush on a 35 year old woman. There are guys of my age that are done playing games and are looking for a woman that is mature, independent and understands well what a man needs.

Crankor · Answer

Depends on the area and where the guys are. Like some that are still single and more put together could just be used to their current lifestyle and not going around trying to pick up girls. Basically it's just really difficult to find them since they don't always make themselves easy to find

Bambalicious · Answer

Health problems do pop up as you age so that’s always going to happen as a way of life. But you and I may have a different meaning of the word attractive. I’m not just attracted to looks but also qualities. If I was single and was attracted to a man with great qualities I would be supportive while he faced a health problem that popped up.

KelleyNice · Answer

It it not only harder, it becomes almost impossible. During the Stone Age, and we still have our Stone Age brains, men evolved to be sexually attracted to good baby makers. That is, girls in their teens and twenties. Women in there 30s and above are poor baby makers.

normalice · Answer

you have to understand that as time goes on all the girls with good looking guys for partners are well aware of what the pool looks like if they exited their relationship. So there's not a lot of opportunity to land a rebound. But, that doesn't mean they are happy. If you wanted to be cutthroat about it I'm sure you could coax some men out of their relationships.

ShaylaOrf890 · Answer

I would say no unless your only viewing looks. To me, finding the right person is all about personality and who the person really is not really about how they look. We cannot control how we are born or anything so the best thing we can do is be ourselves and hope someone notices.

HighValue · Answer

The attractive good guys your age can often get much younger girls, so that is what they will likely do. Your best bet would be to go for attractive single fathers if you want someone around your age. Try for ones that somehow have no contact with any ex so you won't have to deal with so much drama. Maybe a widowed one or something like that.

JessicaEarl · Answer

Yes, because many of them will be married by then. Also as you get older, people generally become less attractive. It’s a numbers game

_Aragorn · Answer

So you mean "young and attractive"?

Answer:

No, it is not difficult to attract a young and attractive man, if you're investing in yourself: looking fit (sport, gym), body care, positive talks, well mannered et cetera. Years ago I was in a relationship with an older lady. She was awesome in many ways and she invested continually in herself (learning new skills, travelling etc.).

WhitneySnow · Answer

Wait till you get like ten years older. A lot of guys your age will be divorced. (I know this from my parents.)

litty · Answer

That depends on who you find attractive and where you are looking. You want someone that looks like Chris Hemsworth? Well, the best place would be the gym.

zagor · Answer

It is harder to find an attractive anything if you're older, because appearance generally deteriorates with age (past a certain point), regardless if you're a woman or a pony.

H8INCHES · Answer

It's the same with women. Their adults kids ruling their lives, they often think their size 14 body is hot and sexy. There are many women is there 30s that look older than me.
Age is hard on everyone and life is ever harder.

RationalMale · Answer

Logically yes.

1. As they get older, it's more likely attractive guys will be in relationships or married.

2. Older attractive guys will try to date younger, not their age.

3. younger women often like dating older guys. Such as a 21 year old dating a 30 year old.

dragoblack · Answer

The idea of what/who is "attractive", differs from person to person. So, unless you tend to go after young 20 somethings i think you will find plenty of attractive guys... now finding ones that are not insecure assholes... that's another issue.

AviatorTom · Answer

My SO easily found me... we were both on the same online dating site 😎

maximumpower · Answer

Based upon your question - for you, yes.
And with that attitude your chances are not likely to increase.
Consider whether your percieved "problem" is the available pool of attractive guys or their disinterest in you - and then consider why that is.

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

All I know is all my single friends 32-45 have removed them selves from the market and after hearing some of there stores I understand.

love_conquers_lust · Answer

Yes, and vice versa. Especially if you have traditional values. Don’t fit in with the slut culture.

peedy · Answer

Guys are just like women age or time takes a toll on a body we all are a little less attractive as the years pass so I would say yes both attractive men and women are harder to find as you get older

Wraven · Answer

I guess that would be defined by your definition of attractive

Anonymous · Answer

I got married to a super attractive/sexy guy when I was 39 years old. He also was the one to initially pursue me.

kangy · Answer

No but one must be able to maintain well in order to attract the attractive guy I feel

RuthlessAggression · Answer

technically yes. since women, as they age, start to lose their ability to reproduce. men too, but, it's worse for women

dophix · Answer

I'm not old but why is it harder for me to find straight attractive guy?😂

Gangactivities911 · Answer

Older people tend to just be less attractive and older men who are attractive are likely looking towards younger women so yeah I’d say

Silver158 · Answer

Technically yes, because all or most of the attractive ones will have paired up already. Same goes for guys

Avicenna · Answer

It is harder for an older woman (over, say 35), no doubt about it, but definitely not impossible if she has a lot to offer in a relationship.

TotallyAlmost · Answer

It's funny, I hear the same thing from single guys about women. Hmmm... lol

Shy_Steve · Answer

I feel the same, I don't know any Attractive Girls I know that are Single.

driven159 · Answer

Us good looking older guys get taken real fast

notwoke · Answer

sounds like you only want a top 10% man. These men at your age are on the lookout for 24 yr old women... because they can. Your simply not in tune with your market value. If you want a top tier man look for one that is about 50 years old

Zolly99999 · Answer

It's just as hard for us "older" guys too

Berethor · Answer

Yea, men prefer young woman. Men get old, women get replaced trope.

Alcoholic_Wannabe · Answer

"unless they have personality issues, have serious health problems, or are both stupid and lazy" That's an easy fix! Look for an atheist.

Bluethinker456 · Answer

I don't think so

BigMat · Answer

Not necessarily. It happens. Just gotta be more selective I guess

dolemite89 · Answer

not if ur pretty

chicosuave · Answer

It's all about looks for men. Sadly

Chukwu4673 · Answer

No, not at all, love is beyond that

Anonymous · Answer

It’s always harder when we’re older

Anonymous · Answer

Diddo with women lol.

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