I’m a female that will be 27 this year. I am embarrassed about being single and never asked on a date. How can I stop being insecure and embarassed? (Page 2)
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Well, first of all, get that religious cult bs out of your head and just do what you want. Stop letting "traditions" and "religion" hold you back
Look for local clubs or coed sports teams to join. Something like coed softball or volleyball You’ll meet plenty of people. I joined a swing dancing club in my late 20s and then joined a salsa dancing club. Met all kinds of people.
If you haven't met dozens guys by age 27, your standard are much higher than you looks justify or else you are stand-offish and not friendly.
Dating is the least of your concern. Without self love all you're going to attract is people that don't like you...
Have you ever heard of Christian mingle? It's fellow Christians that are looking for dates and romance. Start there
I think the big thing is to realize that people’s romantic interests in you are more about who they are than about who you are.
Not quite sure what you mean.
You're feeling insecure and frustrated because you're wondering why men don't seem to desire you. What I'm trying to say is that you shouldn't feel insecure because those men wouldn't be a good fit with you anyway. You could be doing everything perfectly right (which, no one's perfect, but you get my point), but finding someone who can appreciate that is a difficult thing.
I see. Something I like to tell myself is “I’m just not their cup of tea.” And it’s true. I sometimes make weird facial expressions (especially when I’m uncomfortable lol) - at least my mom likes to remind me of that lol. Maybe I’m slightly autistic or something, who knows. At that rate, I will need a matchmaking service lol.
Well, you want to make sure that you're doing everything in your ability to be enticing to men too, lol. But yeah. It's not just about impressing the woman; she has to impress the men.
What has „being Christian“ to do with „going or not going to bars“? You should really broaden your horizon. As in, a lot. 🤔
Oh that’s fine you’re young yet keep your head up not a problem
Love is not that important. It's all media and fiction that's clogging your beliefs. You can be happy by yourself. (:
I never even kissed a girl `til I was almost 25!!
Wanna go out on a date?
That’s comforting.
And with all due respect, if you’re 55, I think you’re pretty much my moms age so you could date her instead.
Well, you can't say you were never asked!
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stop being anonymous... If you are doing that here what are you hiding out there? I don't mean you are hiding something from people but you are keeping yourself from being noticed by others...
Stop focusing on what you're insecure and embarrassed about.
What are you happy with? What are you proud of?
I’m happy with my job and my family and my art abilities - to paint and draw. And I enjoy my nieces.
Cool. What about yourself?
Are you talking about appearance wise or personality wise?
Most people say I’m smart and kind. I can code websites and I was valedictorian in high school. I can usually talk about anything, as long as the other person is interested in talking. My dad died at an early age and I had a prolonged stage of grief during my teenage years which apparently messed up my hormones big time. I’m still recovering from that, though they may never be normal. Maybe I would be less sad had he not died, but I’m trying to find joy in small things- like nature and spending time with family or friends.
You mentioned scars. And your nose.
What are your favorite features or what do you consider to be your best?
I guess I like my lips and my eyelashes. I also like my smaller waist, and kinda wider hips (sorry not trying to sound weird). Those are the only “curves” I have so I try to stick to clothes that show off my waist- and those clothes are hard to find nowadays. Everything seems to be either extremely wide large and baggy or a short tight crop top. I like my legs I suppose cause I’m taller.
That's good. Focus on those things
Just set up any dating account and within minutes you will have a flood of messages from men wanting to hang out with you. It’s impossible for a woman to be lonely. You already have guys in the comments here saying they want to be with you lol
Pick someone that you find attractive and ask them out...
How can you have a Jewish nose and be a Christian? Sounds like you have a Christian nose
You’re funny
Sounds rough, if you want I'll take you on a practice date DM
Would you please go on a date with me, I know your beautiful smart and sweet
Just go to a community events or charity parties to mestvsome nice guys
In the UK we have a saying: You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink.
Ask out someone in your congregation. Initive is a great personality trait.