Why did my girlfriend laughed when I got punched?

[johnn34]

So i'm in a quite commited relationship with this one girl of 6 months now. we're in same classroom and everything prettly good till now But there is one guy in our class who's jackass and always try to hit me. Not in a bad way like he does'nt want to like fight or something. we're even friends tho at least he thinks that. so I don't know why but he's little immature and always hitting someone casually so since he became my friend. he started hitting me casually... sometime he''ll slap me sometime he'll punch my back and he does that very hard and it makes class laugh including my girlfriend yesterday we were all standing in queue for the bus and i was talking with my girlfriend and he joins us and we all 3 started talking and then suddenly he punched my stomach with quite good force and it made huge sound and my girlfriend seeing me get punched hard started laughing and tbh i was breathless because of that punch so i gasped a little and she laughed even harder and then said " awww, are you okay? " that was a taunt rather than a concern. What tf is happening?

[BullShark]

Sorry to tell you this my dude, but that guy isn't actually your friend and your girlfriend doesn't care about you.

If she really did, she'd see you getting hurt and do something about it, like come to your aid or tell the guy off for hurting you. Moreover, I've known people like that guy who think hitting people smaller and weaker than them is a fun little joke, but it really isn't. It's toxic and cruel, and what he's doing is, is basically flexing his strength over you. He's hitting you because he knows you won't do anything about it and laugh it off, so the first thing you need to do, is stop the cycle. This is straight up abuse and bullying and I'm surprised no ones called the guy out for that yet.

Next time he tries to hit you again, stay on alert and grab his arm or move away and tell him to stop it and that it isn't funny anymore. If he gets aggressive about it and defends himself by saying it's just a joke but continues to do it anyways, you basically just got your answer. If he apologizes and stops, you can go on with your day.

As for your girlfriend, like I said, it doesn't look like she cares about you either because she sees you getting hurt and going through pain and laughs along with it or dares to taunt you for it. I won't be surprised if the guy who bullies you does it to impress her and show her how much more stronger he is than you are and that they'd be a better fit, but he's obviously got her attention if she's in on it and thinks it's fun as well. My advice would be to talk to her alone and ask her why she just stands there laughing at you while you're out there getting your guts turned to mush. If she genuinely thought you were playing along and thought you weren't actually getting hurt, then there's probably some hope left for you guys and she was just clueless about how you actually felt. If she gets all angry about it over you and takes the bully's side instead, dump her right then and there and tell her to go date him instead because a toxic duo like that deserve each other.

I know this was a long read, but this is one question that really hits me close to home and it triggered me. I'm genuinely really very sorry you have to go through this every day but I wish you all the best and hope you make the right decision here. Step away from those toxic mofos and instead find people who truly do care about you and don't abuse you like this.

[johnn34]

So a little update - yesterday i was very furious and decided to not go along with it. so everything was normal in the beginning but he did try to hit me in the back and i warned him to stay away and he was like " what's wrong bro " and then i even explained him to avoid touching.
but in the recess when my girlfriend and i were talking he came and joined the conversation and i thought this time it will be diffrent but he purposedly punched my stomach again and even harder this time. My girlfriend again laughed but not that much it was like a small giggle. it made me so angry that i punched him right in the face and we started fighting and tbh i fought with all my power and we eventually got stopped by others but it was a good fight but i got little brusing (he got worse by the way) and my girlfriend was shocked with all of this and i explained everything to her as well and she seem to have understood. I don't know what to do next

[BullShark]

@johnn34 I'm really glad that you were able to stand up for yourself there. That was a really bold move and what you did was absolutely necessary. Now you know that if he really were your friend, he wouldn't have done a 360 and come beat you up for it when you told him to back off. I guess my thoughts were correct when I said that he was hitting you just because he thought that he could, and then seeing you stand up for yourself hurt his ego.

Just keep cool and avoid him from now on. If he tries engaging again, stay on your guard and tell him that you don't want anything to do with him anymore and neither should he, so it's in his best interest to let bygones be bygones and that he go his separate ways. If he tries fighting again, fight defensively so that it looks like you're defending yourself and don't let him catch you someplace alone either. As another piece of advice, look up some self defense techniques on YouTube as well, as those will really help too, and the right jab at the right time will be all that you need to put him down once and for all when he least expects it. One of the best places you can hit him when he's coming for the attack is a hard kick to the shins or a knee to the balls. That alone is enough to have him lying on the ground writhing in agony.

As for your girlfriend, I'm not sure how she's taking all this. You did say that she seemed to understand, but if she still feels doubts and is ashamed of you for hitting that guy and beating him up, then I'm sorry but she doesn't really understand you nor does she care. You were fighting to defend yourself and you were tired of his shit. Yes, friends can sometimes hit each other playfully but it's never purposely hard to hurt the other person and never in some place where you have vitals like your stomach, so she should know that. She needs to be on your side for this.

[johnn34]

@BullShark i had a talk with her and i told her how i feel humiliated when he punchs me and she justs laugh and taunt me sometime and she answered me with " i thought we all are friends and i thought you were okay and punches to stomach does'nt hurt that much " but then she said sorry for rest of thr day and said she loves me and will not do it again.

but i see it all around my school , some dude specifically target some guy and beat them if not casually and even in front of their girlfriends. why does it happen itt just so bad , humiliating and not good basically

[BullShark]

@johnn34 as I thought, there's nothing good or friendly about that. Whoever these guys are, they're purposely targeting the guys who are taken, humiliating them in front of their partners to come out as the more stronger and superior ones. Its horrible behavior

[Truthatanycost]

She doesn't care about you. She doesn't have your back, and she has zero empathy for you. But having said that, you need to enforce your boundaries with the guy who is hitting you. They only target those they consider to be weak so you need to stand up for yourself.

[Midgetmcwidget]

Dump her quicker than you crypto in coinbase

[Jacobbbb]

Doesn't sound good you better man up and start fighting back a bit or she's just gonna view you as a little pussy who takes hits from other dudes like it's nothing. Step up your game. That sort of thing can look pretty pathetic

[chicosuave]

I beat a guy like that when I was in school. he deserved then my friends and I jumped him when he wouldn't stop. We thaught him a lesson. Anyways yes your girl doesn't care about u

[KrakenAttackin]

This guy needs to chill the fuck out. You need to pull him aside and tell him, directly, to knock that shit off or you will fuck him up.

[Juxtapose]

You should dump her, it's obvious she doesn't care about you.

[landingout2]

you believe relationships are real

its all over youtube relationships are fake

[Guy13]

She was taunting you little boi

[Guy13]

Little sissy boi that can’t defend himself. Catch is arm, twist around behind his back OR as I have done catch the fist and the pressure points in fingers and bring them to one knee. You must hold firm as he pulls and falls away from you. One has to teach mules how to walk rightly.

[Avicenna]

You took the laugh the wrong way

[Dinosaursandanime65]

I wouldn’t dare allow anyone to treat me like that