I am a 28 year old Indian guy who is sexually unappealing to most women and had been consistently rejected by every woman I was interested in?

[Anonymous]

I have took suggestions from people in general to improve what ever shortcomings I do have over the years and tried my best to overcome them but all every woman with whom I made an effort turned me down but most women don't even allow me to make an attempt that will keep there distance or cut short the conversations with me.

At this point I am 28 and considering going Gay, us this a terrible idea? Considering I am Indian?

Yes, Going Gay is a terrible idea

No, You should go Gay

Complicated - Will explain in the Opinion section

[WonderBell99]

Firstly, it is of paramount importance that you understand that sexual orientation is not a choice. You cannot change it as you wish. You simply cannot be attracted to someone you are not attracted to. You would not be happy in such a type of relationship. Although, if you are curious about your sexuality, you have to be direct with the gentlemen you go on dates with and let them know that you are only looking to explore. You should not lead them on and pretend that you are confident about their sexuality. You will be wasting their time and should they find out in the future, it may strain your relation.

You say that you are sexually unattractive. Why do you think that way? Your way of thinking and how you approach women might be the game changers here. I am well aware how much of a negative impact constant rejections can have on your self confidence, but you have to take that as a motivation and not give up. Are you physically fit? Most women would not want to date someone who is overweight or obese. It is not only unattractive, but also has many health risks and could endanger your life as you grow older. As slaytb mentioned, approach women after building a tad more rapport. Do not ask out women you have absolutely no established acquaintanceship with.

Your personality is a lot more important than looks. If you are looking for a long term relation, you need a good character with a lot of other important traits to find a good partner.

[WonderBell99]

Excuse me for the typo,
**confident about your sexuality**

[Asker]

It's not the sex part that's bothering me, I've always been alone felt like don't belong in most social spaces, I can barely pretend to be social butterfly to hold a job, but I faked to avoid unemployment.

I am more scared of loneliness than I am concerned about sex.

@WonderBell99, @Lowiu, @slatyb

[Asker]

@WonderBell99

[Asker]

Forgive me for the typos 😃

[WonderBell99]

I understand. However, you have to overcome your shyness and come out of your shell. You cannot be this way forever. I suggest you take baby steps, don’t rush into talking to people. Make slow, but steady efforts. The first step towards you becoming comfortable with people is you believing that you DO belong in social spaces.

Have you tried going to a therapist?

[WonderBell99]

Also, trying online dating is also a good idea.

[Little_Bumblebee]

You cannot just "turn gay" it's not a choice.
You're welcome to try to turn to dudes - with consent, if you wanna explore though, you might figure out you're bisexual.

But honestly, I don't really get why you want to force yourself to have sex with someone you don't really want to have sex with. It's not better than nothing in my eyes.
But hey, you do you, as long as you're both consenting adults, you go nuts (pun intended)

[Asker]

Is it hard to adapt?

[Little_Bumblebee]

Adapt to what exactly?

[Fireguy17]

It's a numbers game.
Since I have no idea who you were interested in, were they just after a billionaire, or a perfect 10, is that who you were after?
Maybe be more open in who you wish to date.
Have you tried online dating on sites where you have to pay to join?
I had great luck there, I'm out in the country so I had very limited choices, so that opend up a whole new world for me.
I met my wife ton eharmony.
I do EMS in some big venues as well as a major road course race track and after seeing a countless amount of people I am a firm believer in there is someone out there for everyone.

[Asker]

I don't know how their mind works, I've only gone for normal looking women not some super attractive girl who is way out of my league and don't waste my time on lost causes

[Fireguy17]

Just keep at it.
In reality finding the right person is a lot of work, pretty much like a job.
It's not like a hallmark movie.
I had endless first dates, hours and hours on the computer messaging back and forth.
It took me just about 2 years to find the right person.
We have been married for almost 4 years.
Keep at it.

[Asker]

That's nice 🤗

[slatyb]

It's not your appearance, it's your approach. Who are you asking, and how are you asking them. If you are approaching strangers and asking them out in the first minute, of course they will turn you down.

Do you have any female friends? Unrelated women you greet by name when you see them? If you have any close female friends, related or not, ask them for advice. Or see a therapist/dating coach.

[Asker]

🤔🤔🤔🤔

[Jacobbbb]

I mean if going gay is really what you wanna do then go for it. But if you don't feel attraction to dudes that's gonna be a difficult. There could still be someone out there for you just be hopeful man

[Guy13]

Sounds like you are on a bad streak. I’m sure it will improve soon.

[Guy13]

I have two Indian friends and both are high caste. Their marriages were arranged... Are you in that dynamic?

[Asker]

@Guy13 I am on the other end low cast

[Asker]

The lowest there is

[Guy13]

Got you. I am familiar secondary expense from work taking me in/out SE Asia... I do know a couple from India and he is a lower caste guy and government employee. His American wife eye's are noticeably soft when looking at him. It's a great energy to be around. It is possible to find it !!

[TheFlak38]

You live in a world in which women have a buffet of thousands of cocks to choose from. If you're struggling to get a girl then you're playing a rigged game. Give up. You will never be able to compete with what's in her phone.

[Avicenna]

Can't your parents arrange a marriage for you?

[Asker]

I don't think it would work if there is something wrong with you.

[Asker]

I believe arranged marriages in general won't work, you should have some idea about the level of compatibility you have with your partner before you get married, even if I say yes to them for my selfish needs, it may not last if I am not the kind of person she was hoping for.

[Avicenna]

Well, I am not an expert on India, but I have worked with Indians and been to an Indian wedding. It sure seemed to me like a groom's earning ability was what was most important to the bride's family.

[Asker]

Ya that's a second defining factor in arranged marriages, first being caste and I fall short on both of them

[Avicenna]

Which caste do you belong to?

[Lowiu]

You can't just go gay like if you're not attracted to guys that won't work out

[Hotboy_booblover]

Stop chasing... indian girls show attitude on being chased.. ignore.. u will find girls attracted to you..
Also be urself dont try to fake.. girls can catch that fast.. dm me if u need help

[DizzyDesii]

Go gay then. If that shit dont work, go asexual. Its whatever

[In_Trance]

If women are turning you down I would think that men would also

[landingout2]

1) did you start mewing

2) did you do exercise

if you didn't thats your fault

[EnglishEuropean]

Going gay sounds like a terrible idea but try shoving a cactus up your ass before you dismiss it out of hand.

[zagor]

If you think women can be catty then just hang with some gay men for a while.

[Anonymous]

There ya go, so gay it is!