I prefer to be straightforward, it just happen that I don't want to regret something I didn't do even I have the capabilities of doing it so. So yes, I still want to undergo heartbroken over and over again. I won't hesitate on that.
Be more selective in what you try for and ask yourself are you presenting yourself as someone worth being with or as someone who will accept anyone just to not be alone, (aka desperate). If you want someone to want to be with you the be someone people like to be with. It's simple. That doesn't mean it's easy, the right way almost never is but it's always simple.
Listen katestar, I know it's not easy to move on. It's not supposed to be. If it was we'd never truly grow spiritually, or emotionally like we need to. The heart is an amazing thing. You can love someone with the entirety of it so that it's overflowing with your love of them. Love is all heart. No thought in it's makeup, and your love is a gift you give. A gift is only a gift if it's free. No price tag, No conditions, otherwise it's a deal or an arrangement. Like you can change the giftwrap on the gift without changing the gift itself depending on the occasion so too can the roles a person fills in your life change without changing your love for them. Now thought is used to decide the role they play and how you will express/share your gift of love with them.
Remember too @katestar somehow even if someone had all your love, your whole heart and they left with it you will always have that love for them yet miraculously when the right person comes along, bang!! Like magic your heart doubles it's capacity and it can be filled with love again without the previous love being lost. This is because pure love is unconditional and therefore if you are loving in the correct true manner it's the same love you have for everything and everyone you feel love for. One heart, one love. It's the roles filled and the expressions of it that differ depending on who it's existence is shared with and what role they fill in your life. Unconditional means no requirements, no expectations, no conditions needed to get it and have it. Yes you should have expectations and requirements for people filling different roles in your life but not on the love you give. Does that make any sense?
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I developed a system. I give, if she's not giving back, at a certain point I walk away. Call it what you want. 🙂
I prefer to be straightforward, it just happen that I don't want to regret something I didn't do even I have the capabilities of doing it so. So yes, I still want to undergo heartbroken over and over again. I won't hesitate on that.
That has never been the case. So not having her at all is better than potentially getting rejected? Living like that must be torture.
No. I just go for it. If she decides she doesn't want to be with me, or vice-versa, I move on.
No. I don't give a shit. I'd take the risk. I'd rather love then not love.
There is always that risk but how would you know if you don't try? I like to try and get to know the person before things escalate..
No just approach carefully don’t know how she react.
always i have been rejected and more than i can count
I've been there.
Be more selective in what you try for and ask yourself are you presenting yourself as someone worth being with or as someone who will accept anyone just to not be alone, (aka desperate). If you want someone to want to be with you the be someone people like to be with. It's simple. That doesn't mean it's easy, the right way almost never is but it's always simple.
It's not to me. It will be hard to move on from him
Listen katestar, I know it's not easy to move on. It's not supposed to be. If it was we'd never truly grow spiritually, or emotionally like we need to. The heart is an amazing thing. You can love someone with the entirety of it so that it's overflowing with your love of them. Love is all heart. No thought in it's makeup, and your love is a gift you give. A gift is only a gift if it's free. No price tag, No conditions, otherwise it's a deal or an arrangement. Like you can change the giftwrap on the gift without changing the gift itself depending on the occasion so too can the roles a person fills in your life change without changing your love for them. Now thought is used to decide the role they play and how you will express/share your gift of love with them.
I know that.
Remember too @katestar somehow even if someone had all your love, your whole heart and they left with it you will always have that love for them yet miraculously when the right person comes along, bang!! Like magic your heart doubles it's capacity and it can be filled with love again without the previous love being lost. This is because pure love is unconditional and therefore if you are loving in the correct true manner it's the same love you have for everything and everyone you feel love for. One heart, one love. It's the roles filled and the expressions of it that differ depending on who it's existence is shared with and what role they fill in your life. Unconditional means no requirements, no expectations, no conditions needed to get it and have it. Yes you should have expectations and requirements for people filling different roles in your life but not on the love you give. Does that make any sense?
What makes it so hard for you to move on from "him"? What happened?
I realized that 4 years ago. I've loved him since we were teenagers
It my dicision to away from them I know I will really regret whole life for it
That's exactly why i suppress every crush I have. Not worth the hurt.
Same bruv I usually think twice before doing said action lol
I sadly do hesitate, because i gotten my hurt broken by past loves and my family. So putting myself out there is scary.
Well to some extent yes... I may give subtle hints and see if the other person responds. Also, I do not want to jump the gun and loose everything.
All of the time, I'm in a relationship now. But if this doesn't work out I feel pretty much done with it.
Yes I do. I'm really scared 2 be with someone (don't want 2 be hurt again).
Really? I've never been heartbroken before by my guy friend.
@katestar Yes, my ex cheated on me and lied 2 me so..
Ouch. That hurts a lot.
@katestar True. and then I had 2 other girls (not a relationship, just a hung up a week, and they also let me go)
Wow. I'm sorry to hear that.
@katestar It's okay :) At least I have some lessons 4 life :) Would u mind 2 chat?
Sure.
When?
@katestar Now, in messages
Yep, when someone was out of my league. Really beautiful women want more than I had back then.
No i dont because they give me cues. I dont talk to anyone who act cold to me
I think that's everybody.
Hmmm the answers say otherwise
yes. right now I'm hiding my feelings and trying to throw away my love for someone
I know what you're saying. I'm doing what you're saying
Well this is the reason I never dated anyone
No. Women are just not worth pursuing. There's more to life than conditional love