I am 22 and I have never even kissed a guy, is that normal?

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I am 22 and forget sex, I haven't even kissed any guy yet, not even hugged anyone.. It's not that I haven't got approaches. I do get approaches but I don't go on a date unless I feel a strong spark.. I felt this spark with a guy who's well experienced, elder to me and has been with multiple women in the past. I went on a date with him and it was the first date of my life.. He was too hot and I was totally attracted to him.. We sat in his car, talked a little and then there was silence.. Even he didn't make a move to kiss me and I was very shy.. He later told me how he wanted to kiss me but felt shy, he felt that I was uncomfortable so he didn't make a move.. Later, we had a misunderstanding because all I could see was that he wanted to jump off to sex right away on the second date, whereas I being a virgin, did not want it so quick.. I surely wanted to kiss him, but not sex right away.. He ended things with me (of course) and here I am, single again.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

Yeah, as a older guy I don't get into virgins honestly. Lots of guys do, but not for the right reasons. As far I go there doesn't seem to be any good reasons for someone like me to date a virgin.

Honestly virgins have no previous serious sexual relationship experience. They just think things are supposed to be a certain way... and when reality catches up to them they tend to think it was all your fault, and nothing to do with their own perspectives on sex, dating and relationships, or lack there of.

So yeah, the whole shy girl... making you feel awkward because she's a virgin and possibly insecure over having sex. Well yeah it would of ended the same way, I would of wanted sex and when you said no I would of moved on.

You would of accused of only wanting sex, and that would not be true. I probably would of wanted more and I know for a fact I have no fear of committing to relationships. But I got no patience to hold a virgins hand and hand walk her through a relationship until I know its worth my time. See you got no experience in sex or dating. And if you want a guy like me to commit then I got to know we vibe together on a sexual level. It is super important.

No I don't expect to have sex on the first date, but if you're throwing off signs of insecurity about dating and sex, then I would probably wave off the whole thing. But by date 3 or 5 and you're still unsure if you'd have sex or not, I am got.

No its not true that all I want is sex from a woman... but I do want it. But if you think that's all every guy wants and that's it... then you are wrong and your just using that as an excuse to not take responsibility for your self, choices or actions. You just have this idea. And believe in standards... and not a lot of guys are going to put all that work in up front with out some encouragement.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don’t think he would of “jumped into sex” right away on date 2 unless you straight up asked him too. Even then he might of felt hesitant. Sounds like he was a decent guy and didn’t want to do anything to make you feel uncomfortable or worse.

If you want to make changes you need the following:

1) Communicate early and thoroughly about your situation. But also communicate you are interested in experimenting (kissing and maybe more). Also if you want a guy to kiss you just ask him. Seriously.

2) Be patient with the guy. I noticed some young women fantasize about men just “going for it” without asking for permission. Being swept off your feet. Most guys won’t do that multiple reasons. Especially nowadays

Anyway I recently encountered another young woman very similar to you. But she shocked me saying that she wanted me to just forcefully do it with her when we met up. She has a “rape fantasy”.

She is one of the most beautiful young women I’ve come across in years. Like a daydream come true. Sure it would thrill me to no end to do what she asked. But another part of me knows I will most likely not go that route unless she makes is plain obvious it’s okay in person. If it works out great but if it doesn’t there could be horrifying repercussions in my life. It’s risky af.

Not saying you are like that above. However you need to be more brave and forward about what you want. You can always tell a guy stop at any point.

babieg · Accepted Answer

Girrrl, you’re fine. I’m 21 & never dated, kissed, or held hands with a guy. I will probably stay like this when I’m 22 as well

Amoebaaa · Accepted Answer

Don't worry man. I am almost 22 and never even DATED anyone. At least you have dated someone

20yearsolder · Answer

Well I don't know if it's normal but it's fairly common. You seem pretty uptight to me. Have you ever taken into consideration that if you go on a date, even though you don't have that initial spark that once you get to know this person a little better that you start feeling that spark. You ever heard the saying you got a kiss a lot of toads to find the prince. I'm not saying go out and make out with every guy you meet but you got to lower your standards just a little bit. Give it a shot and go out with some of these guys that ask you out.

VforVindication · Answer

Lol ''is that normal''. What is the definition of normal? If you think it has to do with what others find normal then you must change your thinking process. Some have had sex at 13 and some are still virgins at 30. It really depends but i would rather be a 30 year old virgin than a 20 year old with Aids. Sorry, i got off topic. We are only talking about a kiss here, nothing else, right?

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Why are you girls always so scared of sex or pushed away by it. We guys in their late teens and 20s often just think with our penis. Girl always think they "have to wait for the right guy". Honestly I think its good to experiment at young age, learn experience about sex. Its too early to wait to commit already for a fix relationship

Sixgunsound · Answer

Nothing wrong with maturing at your own pace. Not giving it up to a guy who only wants sex is something I can respect. You will know when you are ready, that is something only you can decide.

Anonymous · Answer

It's much more common than people think and it only seems to get much worse after 25

Shy_Steve · Answer

It's still normal, It's just not that common.

Anonymous · Answer

it's normal and it's his loss for acting like a jackass

In_Trance · Answer

I don't think it's normal at all what are you waiting for?

Anonymous · Answer

you want the top 10% of men like the other girls good luck competing with 90% of the female population men just grape women

FilmGuy93 · Answer

It's extremely common, yes.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I never kissed a girl to I turned age 28

captainggaming · Answer

It's extremely common, yes.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Not normal but don't worry about it though.

_Roc_ · Answer

You missed your chance

BLP11520 · Answer

It's okay forget peoples opinions live your life

Juan4574 · Answer

Nope.

I am 22 and I have never even kissed a guy, is that normal?

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