I'm the same as you! I told my boyfriend I don't want to do any more 'stuff' and would like to save those sort of things for inside marriage. He has found it difficult to stop and it has upset him, but he's finding it easier.
If a guy doesn't want to stay with you for a reason like this, then you know they aren't marriage material and you're wasting your time with them. (I always think of relationships as potential marriages. That way, if a relationship lasts that long, I won't end up with the wrong person).
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I know how you feel believe me! I think if he's the right guy then he will respect you and be patient with you...maybe he'll be as inexperienced too...u never know. And if he doesn't seem willing to stick around,then all the better actually...he wasn't a match for u.
A guy your age will want sex after about 2-4 weeks, even if he's thinking about it from the very beginning. Maybe if you find a guy who is a bit inexperienced or shy he'll be less into sex and moving right into that stuff, or aguy who's really into you
If that's how you feel, that's perfectly fine — but it would be best for all parties involved if you were very honest and up-front about that right from the start, so there's no mistaking your intentions. Otherwise, the guy may feel led on, or that you're not actually attracted to him.
I would. "Adult relationship" doesn't necessarily mean sexual. It just means they want a mature relationship with each other and are trying to figure out what kind of a future they may have with each other. But yes, what you have mentioned are the things that I'm into as well.
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I don't think it's impossible? If you do find the right guy who respects you enough to hold off on sex and focus more on what you love to do together then that's a relationship that could ultimately lead to where you want it to be later on. Find things you share in common, don't buy in to what other people say on if you don't have sex you're missing out. Sex isn't everything you know. I actually like your way of starting things out, people like to rush into sex but it's the things that lead up to it which makes it that much better. Talking, flirting, hugging, holding hands, eventually kissing. That's what builds anticipation for that moment. I wish you the best of luck on finding a guy, don't try too hard cause you never know he just might be closer than you think. Go with the flow.
I'm in the same boat as you, although I'm only 20. I think its perfectly fine to only want those little things since you don't have much experience with guys. But most guys are going to want to go further then that because at that age they expect a lot of girls to have the experience, whether it be true or not. A guy can handle a relationship like you want, but they have to know that eventually it will go further.
you should probably get a gay best friend, or a bi guy who leans to girls. because I don't know any straight guys in their early 20s that would put up with that. eventually they are gonna want more than puppy love elementary school style romance. basically find a guy who doesn't really like girls in that way
Honestly, at that age I don't think you're going to find a guy that only wants little kisses, to hold hands, and cuddle. I understand that you've never had a boyfriend, but most guys will be expecting to at least make out.
It's perfect in starting phase, shows that the girl is worth it and won't slut around with random people, but if you -never- gonna want sex, that's pretty much a deal breaker.
I personally think that sounds great. That is the type of relationship I would like to have. *starts daydreaming*
it can start out that way for sure. after a while though most guys are going the want the "adult" aspects of the relationship to come into play =\ but maybe by then you'll be ready?
well as long as you are an adult an you handle yours..all that other stuff should'nt be outta reach:)
That's sounds nice. I would enjoy it for a while, but I would want to eventually take it to the next level after we're comfortable enough to do so.
There are guys like that, but very hard to find, I recommend that you tell them this right whenthey "express a interest in you"
yeah I'm 24 and I don't have much experience with girls, I agree
i'm 23 and never had a girlfriend, suicide has crossed my mind because of it
i hate how people say it is never too late for a relationship, never too late for dating, I don't see the logic in that
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