Do boyfriends usually ask their girlfriends to block her friends?

[merpppppp]

Ever since I've gotten into a relationship, I've lost friends not because I've been neglecting them. Everytime I tell my boyfriend about a friend I have he tells me to block them.. I now have no friends left or friends who don't talk to me because he has been taking up all my time talking about something dumb and everytime I go somewhere he needs to know. Is this okay? Please share your opinions as this is my relationship. 🙏🏼😊

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1 y

First relationship *

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1 y

Everytime I stand up for myself and say something to him he gets mad and doesn't talk to me

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Thank you all so much for your advice ♥️ I broke up with him a couple of days ago, feeling much better.

[HollyK21]

Not ok. I understand him not wanting you to have male friends, but it sounds like you’re blocking all your friends and that’s super unhealthy. That’s him isolating you, so that you only have him in your life to focus on and that’s not ok, it’ll get lonely and depressing, especially when you need some girl time or just to hang out with someone else. If you two were to breakup, you’d have no friends to support you. My best friend did the same thing right out of high school with her boyfriend. I didn’t talk to her for three years and she’d cut off all her other friends as well for him. Fortunately I don’t hold grudges but not everyone is that way.

[Changiis07]

No it's not okay. He is controlling and that is not healthy for a relationship. No guy should make you feel like you have to block every single friend and the fact that he always needs to know where you go is not good either. He sounds like he has a lot of insecurities that he needs to work on. It can become him getting overly jealous to the point of being physical. So be careful as he needs to respect the good friends you have

[merpppppp]

Thank you ❤️

[Kaneki05]

Of course not, he's been typically controlling. You may be letting things by because it's your first relationship so you are not quite sure what's acceptable but I can promise you that this is not.
Get out of it before it gets worse or harder for you. The more you the leave it the more lonely, bad, and overall trapped you will be. And always remember it's not on you, it's on him for been controlling like that. You aren't doing nothing wrong by leaving and finding someone else.

[sonic_fever]

Honestly it depends on your friends and the boundaries that you have set in your relationship. If it’s male friends I can see why but if it’s female friends it really just depends on why he doesn’t like them. I told my ex she needs to distance herself from an old best friend of hers because I spotted her fakeness over the years. If he refuses to communicate with you he isn’t meant for you

[BlueScorpio]

No it's not okay and very dangerous. That sounds like a very controlling type of relationship where the person isolates you from friends and family to have you all to themselves. It's okay to have friendships as long as you are respectful of your relationship, so there is no reason for you to ditch friends. How old is the person you're dating.

[merpppppp]

Thank you for your help ❤️ he is 16, a year younger than me

[BlueScorpio]

He's young and and sounds insecure, and bit manipulative. If your always standing up for yourself and he's

[BlueScorpio]

Gets mad then hestrying to punish/ gilt trip you for it. You need to drop him immediately

[kmg9150]

Leave his ass, manipulative malicious is exactly what he's doing. Research dark psychology and narcissists, it will all come to light once you start ready and realize it on your own behalf, aside from opinions. It should reveal different ways to end the relationship with the minimal chance of a bad outcome. Dont by into the bullshit he feeds you upon your departure, stick to what the research tells you. There are multiple reputable sources on youtube.

[Lliam]

Excellent response, kmg9150. I hope merpppppp takes your advice.
I immediately thought "narcissist", too. But your answer contained helpful information.

[kmg9150]

Word. I've been trying to point towards area that can further understand which isn't highly based off opinions. Appreciate the recognition.🫵🏼🪨

[NamerOfStars]

I'd've thought not; it seems to me to be horribly controlling to not allow your partner to even TALK to people, but some of vhat I've heard around here makes me think I'm just horribly old-fashioned.

But that DEFINITELY sounds like the kind of red flag I'd want off my lawn.

[Jacobbbb]

Nah that's super toxic and shows he's insecure asf, also a bit controlling. It's not a normal thing to do and you definitely don't have to put up with it at all. Either have a talk with him about it and hope he understands your point of view or just forget about him. We're entitled to friendships and if he's trying to take that away from you then he's not worth it. It really just sounds like to me he's trying to keep you ALL to himself and doesn't want your attention anywhere else 😴

[Lliam]

He's displaying narcissistic behavior. He's causing you harm. And, given his complete lack of respect toward you, he'll do more harm in the future.

You're not his puppet or pet. He's not your owner. You are the boss of you.

Get out quick. Don't get trapped.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

That isn't okay.

It's step one to controlling your relationships in order to isolate you and is a major red flag for an abusive partner.

Dump him before he cinches his net on you. And be careful - someone like is likely to turn violent.

[Ill_made_Knight]

Nope... anybody that wants you to end all your standing relationships because the King has arrived or whatever has serious issues... my advice would be RUN.

[PeteBy]

He's obsessive and controlling. If I were you I'd get rid of him quick sharp. By the sounds of it you're a nice person and pretty. In any case. you could easily find a man who trusts, cares and treats you with respect.

[TheMajesticKing777]

No, I can somewhat understand if a guy doesn't want a his girl to have male friends cause dudes can be toxic and a guy doesn't trust another guy, it's just the way it is but if he is telling you to unfriend all your friends then he has a problem

[BrookeAZ90]

Not even slightly normal and he's going to attempt to control every aspect of your life. RUN AWAY.

[Crafteroon]

That is some serious gaslighting prep work. Once you no longer have other friends he can start truly messing with you. Get away as soon as possible.

[TheoPfeifle]

Textbook manipulation... He's isolating you, to tear you down and build you into his possession. Don't just leave... Run, before it's too late. Missing persons cases can start like this.

[far2gud4u]

OK this sounds like a control thing and a huge red flag. Are they male or female friends? x

[Staximus]

Get rid of that control freak ass wipe now before he starts hitting and abusing you

[maximumpower]

Not normal ones.
Controlling and narcissistic ones will do it, tho - and expect you to comply.

[genericname85]

male friends or any friends?

[merpppppp]

any friends

[genericname85]

yeah that would be a hard nope for me. way too controlling. i would get away from that person asap.

[IveGotNoName]

Break up, this is the definition of toxic.

[LazerBean]

Not normal at all.

[sirderpsalot123]

Not normal.