Can't tell if he's still interested or not?

[Anonymous]

So, i've been talking to this guy for almost 2 months. He was the one pursuing me, giving me gifts and telling me how beautiful i am and asking me out. We went out 2 times but hooked up more in other ocasions we met. He used to call me every night, sometimes even during the day and we talked 1+ hour, texted me all day long and sended funny videos on instagram. 100% interested. But last week, after he did something a i didin't liked and i told him that and he understood and said it was ok but since then, never called me again, almost never texts and no funny videos. I'm very confused if he's still intetested but the minute a started showing affection he pulled away or if he just doesn't anything anymore. He's saying that he's been very busy. Plus: out second date was really great and he even called me right after, but then said he'll be too busy for the next 2 weeks. I just don't to be played. Right now he's sending some texts and pictures but not like before. Sorry about my English

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[Anonymous]

Sounds like he’s not interested in investing in a relationship, and showing this through his actions.

[Asker]

I'm starting to think that too. The minute a showed more interest in him, he pulled away. Sad

[Opinion Owner]

Well hey, it’s better to know now only 2 months in before you got much stronger feelings, because it would make it so much harder to walk away. I’m really big on consistency, so the fact that he’s switching up like this would actually make me lose interest in him.

[Trilinium]

What was the thing that you told him you didn't like?

[Asker]

I went to an event with him and his friends, ge treated super nice but we didin't kissed. By the end of the evening, his friends were deciding where to go next, a bar or a party. He didin't talked to me that moment to ask with a i wanted to go with them (i met his friends that day), so i went home since he didin't say a word to me. It kinda looked like he didin't want me to go. But the next day he asked me what happened because i was texting him in a different way. Since then, he's acting distant and colder. He said it was about his work.

[Guy13]

He seems to be playing with your mind. Not serious

[Asker]

So what should I do? Ignore him a little bit to see if he chases me?

[Guy13]

You scolded him like a dog. You will need to throw him a bone. "Meet me here"... get there, "I'm giving you a chance to but me a drink"... kind of thing. Pet him on the head.. Got It?

[Asker]

So, i kinda already did that. I asked him if he as ok (because he as always saying he was working a lot) and than joked "so i guess i'll only see you in Christmas" , and than he said "when i'm free we'll do something". But he is still distant and a little off. Plus, last two times i was the one asking him out but he had work stuff

[Guy13]

Don't take this the wrong way... I noticed this. You are a pretty aggressive communicator. I like that personally. He either thinks you are too high maintenance or nagging is my guess. It is common. Look, you responded to everyone here. That means you are probably... or probably have contacted him too much. My friends have said, :damn, I wish she would stop bombarding me." They have actually given me the phone and had me respond !!! I communicate too...

[Asker]

Well, it could be too. Even though i never called him, he was the one calling me. So, the thing is, i kinda like him, but don't want to look too clingy, what should I do in your opinion? Only reply when he texts?

[Anonymous]

He thinks you lost interest, so let him know you haven't.

[Asker]

I already did, in a subtle way, not to look to clingy. He started to like some instagram stuffs again, and send some random pictures, but never called again

[Iron_Man]

Call him and ask him what happened

[Asker]

I texted him and he said i was because of his job. But goes out with his friends ans is online all the time

[Iron_Man]

What a lame excuse from him maybe you should MoveOn

[Asker]

Yeah, i think i'm going to do that. It's so disappointing...
But thank you for your help 😊

[Iron_Man]

Sure