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Is my boyfriend in love with his best friend or am I just feeding into my insecurities? (Page 2)
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I've had the same female best friend since kindergarten. People who don't know us think we'd be perfect together. We both wince at it, because we look at each other like siblings. Maybe he and she are the same way?
That’s what I am hoping for! Thank you.
i have a female best friend. i don’t do that shit. I think it’s disrespectful and he doesn’t realize it. I think his emotional attachment runs a little to deep. ans since she doesn’t stop it, hers does too
Do you think they are platonic ly emotionally attached? Do you think they view each other as siblings?
why is he not with her then?
also, in general i think he's too young and immature for you. dump him and you'll feel a lot less of a burden.
Maybe he loves her like a little sister? Why do you think he is too immature for me?
Feel better?, hell I'm in love with her now, got her number? It sounds like more brother and sisterly activities to me. It also sounds as if it could easily change for their better.
Change for the better?
She has her fair share of flaws, but I didn’t mention them because I was emotional when I wrote this, so I made it a little more dramatic. He has hid flaws too and can be extremely annoying at times.
I understand and I apologize for poking fun at it. Without knowing them better it's really hard to answer your question it sounds to me like at some point in their relationship they came to the decision they were better off friends and anything more but that's just the guessi don't really have a clear response to thisyou need to sit back and consider what you want and what if they suddenly become more then friends, can you handle loosing him. i hope this helped. I'd be happy to talk more, good luck.
Thank you for your help. Would you mind if I asked your opinion on a few other things that made me suspicious?
Not at all
I met a girl last night, 21, that looked exactly like the broad in the first pic. Hot as fuck but just as vapid and superficial, as most hot girls are. But if I was your boyfriend and had the opportunity to trade up with a hotter woman who's 6 years younger and exactly as you described, he'd be crazy not to do it.
You don’t know what I look like and you don’t know anything about me. Also she is not as perfect as I made her out to be, yeah she is pretty good, but she has a lot of flaws. I was just very emotional when I was writing this so I might have overdramatized things a little.
About the age thing, he likes older women.
Better talk to him. Let him know that u are not comfortable and you don't want to be a jealous girlfriend.
Have you ever thought to be friend with her?
I will practice doing this in the mirror for the next week lol. I kind of already am. We all hang out together, but sometimes I get so nervous and self conscious around her that it is hard to be in the same room as her. I’m embarrassed about how childish my feelings are.
Have u thought of approaching her? u mentioned she's open minded.. I think it's okay to let her know
I think I will probably talk to her first. I feel like she would understand were I am coming from better than he could because she is also a woman. Thank you for the suggestions.
Well if he is doing all these things maybe confront him
Ngl that first pic definitely looks either fake or a stupid Instagram model haha
lmk what u choose
That’s easier said than done. I don’t want him to be pissed or break up with me. The pictures are random pictures I found on the internet, and I agree that the second picture definitely looks edited.
Lmao yeah don’t piss him off but still
I will tread lightly.
Also I meant the first picture looks edited. Lol
Ya haha
well if I was you tell her he very sweet on her
and do things you know she can't, to keep him
or he may walk...
Do things I know she can’t? Like what?
Difficult to say but this does not sound ideal for you. The real question is - why haven't they gotten together? Maybe ask him.
Ask him why he isn’t with his best friend?
Yes. Ask him.
Wouldn’t that be weird?
It is not nearly as weird as leaving things as they are and always wondering.
Well he could only view her as a sister. He obviously wants to be with me since I am his girlfriend. And she is involved with their other best friend from childhood.
I don't think that what you believe is likely to be the truth.
Okay. Thank you.
Lol just ask him straight away. But sounds like she doesn't want him as a boyfriend
So you think he is interested in her?
He proposed to her so at one point he definitely was lol. Do u know why she rejected him?
They were only kids and it was with a candy ring. I forget what they are called. I don’t know whether or not she said yes or no. I’m assuming she said yes because there is a picture of her sucking on it.
Ah ok thats different then
Yeah lol. Is it stupid that I am still kind of jealous about it?
Yes.
Thank you for being honest.
He likes her more than you. I'm sorry. She is his priority.
You need to break up with him.
You don’t think he loves her as a little sister?
Nope. It's definitely more than that.
how are you so sure?
All of the signs.
He cares about her more than he cares about you.
oh okay
sorry to say it sounds like you're out of the picture.
But I’m still his girlfriend.
I don't know about him, but I'm in love with your best friend
you and about 100 other people are, hopefully my boyfriend isn't one of them.
I'm just gonna say that, if I were u I would dump him
He is not in love with you, he just time pass with you
Time pass for what?
To play game
What does that mean?
Sounds like they're dating tbh.
What would you do in this situation?
Lust maybe… hopefully not cheating on you.
You think he could be cheating on me?
It is odd how attached he is by your description. It makes me think something is up but you’re there 🤷🏻♂️
They have been friends for 20 years. Is it possible he is just protective over her and affectionate with her because he views her as his little sister. His older brother calls her his little sis.
You understand I’m not trying make you insecure and blow your relationship up, right ⁉️
Perhaps or he could be “under the radar” obsessed with her…anyway he can have some of her time works for him⁉️
If I know you severe something like this to prioritize a girlfriend both he and her also know this..,,🤷🏻♂️
I understand and I am glad that you are helping me.
But I don’t understand the last sentence you wrote.
Sorry. He and “Sis” both know their relationship changes. She moves to the back of the bus and waits for the bottom to fall out and help him pick-up pieces… I modeled 12-26 as summoned to jobs. I’ve been in this situation in “her” position.
Disappearing for three months at beginning with check-in texts every 10 days is what should be happening. I showed up when it was time to pick up the pieces of a crashed relationship…. Make sense ⁉️
Yeah I understand now. How did things turn out for you and your friend?
Good. We’re still good. Soccer ⚽️ volleyball 🏐 and 🍻
It’s over. Cut your loses. Relationships are fucked these days. So yeah
Why do you think that?
Social media & smart phones have made relationships practically impossible to have these days.
There are billions of people in this world.
And due to everyone having access to internet in their pocket.
They can find and come across everyone and anyone that they could end up finding better than you.
And this applies to both men and women, there ALWAYS is someone better than you.
And most people are straight up evil. They could care less about others and only do things for their own benefit.
Going back to social media, social media reinforces narcissism. Making people only give a fuck about themselves.
So honestly fuck relationship, this world is doomed
What about relationships in the Amish community? They don’t use social media.
Maybe that could work… but I don't know. It’s not just social media. It’s the internet, I don't know if ya’ll use the internet but. Yeah
I’m not Amish, but they don’t use the internet. They are only allowed to use it for business purposes.
No clue
You've thought WAY too deeply into this.
Ask him or move on. You're looking like a stalker.
How do I look like a stalker? He is my boyfriend not my crush.