My boyfriend and I are dating for a year and a half. In my interpretation things are going a bit rocky and my insecurities are coming out. I was diagnosed with Generalized anxiety disorder and called my boyfriend and we talked about it but still feel off about the relationship and his role in my life. He has been harsh on me lately and claiming that its his job as my partner to help me get better when I clearly said I dont need him to make it his mission just to love and support me. Anyhow we have some tension I say something he gets insecure, then I apologize and he tells me that should be owing what I say cause i’m too apologetic. I tell him clearly it made you upset and I wanted to apologize cause sometimes I run my mouth and say stuff very directly without filtering it. I brought the break up many times but i was frustrated with him trying to intervene and change me and told him that he isn't the right guy for me if he can't accept me. He got hurt and since then he’s been distant and not vibing as much. He refuses to talk to me about it. Last weekend when this happened we were on vacation and when we drove back we had to be in the car four hours with this energy. But we talked about it my side at least and apologized and asked me to meet me halfway and accept that im more introverted and reserved and he can't all of a sudden push me to be open and sociable more than I feel comfortable with. Today especially that I had to face myself and got diagnosis i really needed to meet and discuss and hug me and when I asked him to meet he said “no, i’m meeting my mother” and that hurt me cause it felt insensitive. He is a bit slow on reading the room which others brought up that he might have a slight form of autism. Anyhow its 4am and can't sleep im just overthinking everything and feel the urge to pick up my phone and write him this but I know that its best to just sleep as he advised me to get a good rest and be more loving to myself and I texted him that I will do so.
This relationship strikes me as extremely codependent and unhealthy. It's obvious that you need to be doing personal work right now to figure out how to handle your anxiety. You don't need your boyfriend thinking it's his job to be overbearing and forceful about YOUR treatment.
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That’s going to result in an argument and someone’s feelings getting hurt. This happened to me and my boyfriend last weekend because he had Covid and tested negative but my mom wouldn’t let me see him still even though it had been 2 weeks. I was having high anxiety and stuff for 4 days after that until we talked it out. If he’s not actively trying to listen to you he doesn’t want to fully understand.
If there is real animosity between you and boyfriend I would keep any diagnoses to myself so it won't be used or abused when he wants to blame something on you. I'm not saying he would but people in the tail end of relationships can say some pretty hurtful stuff
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Your relationship is done.
Tbh. When someone begins blaming outside reasons for why they mistreat you, it’s cause deep down they wanna leave you. But don’t because of the negative aftermath of leaving you.
For him, no pussyThat's fucked up. He should accept you for who you are and not try to change you. Everybody has their faults and their own issues and if he can't accept that then that's on him and not your problem and he needs to learn to grow the fuck up and be a man instead of a little boy
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