Is he using me?

[Anonymous]

Hi guys, so i have a relationship of 4 years now. And my boyfriend always loved me working a full time job. I talked to him about this before that if we are married i dont want to work full time but part time. He doesn't understand why. I really like working but i get sometimes so overwhelmed that i feel like i need to take a pause sometimes like 3 days a week instead of 2 day weekend. When he tells me about how much he loves when a woman works it gives me a feeling of that im getting used or someting? I am maybe a little old fashioned but i maybe want a man that is not scared to take charge of the income even tho his wife is not making that much as she can. He also works a full time job but his income is not as high as mine.
Back in the day when i didn't make that much money i really wasn't scared of being used. But know i get confused.

What sould i do?

[Anonymous]

I agree with you girl that it's men jobs to provide financial stability after marriage..

But I don't get your point by he used you?
Did he use your money?

[Asker]

No, but in the way that he is scared of providing alone for a family. He know that i make more and when i say i dont want to work that much, he answers with: “but why?” He maybe doesn't feel like giving 100% in the way of working if his wife also does not work full time job. He would not even disagree if i told him that i wanted to work full time even tho if i had 2 kids. But i was not raised that way. I always believed that 1 parent should always stay home more than the other for the kids

[alance99]

I completely agree with your thought process and it isn't old fashioned at all, just straight away talk him about it and if he dis-agree with you then you need to hold marriage with him for sometime till you both are on same page