Nobody’s perfect. But what makes a person a potential and ideal partner for you?

Question

Guys, what is your almost perfect woman like? Ladies, what is your almost perfect man like?

ObscuredBeyond · Accepted Answer

Shares a similar passion for things in life, not overly materialistic, common faith, not shallow, slow to pass judgment, honest, humble, only takes charge when necessary, not overly controlling, organized, faithful, seeks to find the heart, despises superficial things, won't tolerate corruption, will risk alienation from society for the sake of standing for what is right, won't back down from doing the right thing, can stand on her own but chooses to stand by me anyway, will not let others shame her for association with me, won't stash me, has learned from past mistakes, etc. I may not be her first, but she's not about to let that stop her from being the last I will ever need.

I see video titles on YouTube saying "only a virgin can ever truly love you," and my own life experience replies: "horseshit!"

I'll take a kind, faithful, abandoned, used, trashed, abused woman with a heart of gold in, clean her up, and make her my queen light-years before I'll have anything to do with some overgrown brat that treats me like garbage, and acts like my failing to look like her vision of Prince Charming justifies it!

What use have I for a woman whose vagina is uninitiated, if her heart is a festering sewer of pettiness and cruelty?

And if I face scorn from some institution for confronting the virgin's hypocrisy, and for taking my chances with the woman I rescued from the scrap heap; then their failure to look at the heart only makes me treasure the rescued woman that much more.

Of course, one has to be careful when dumpster diving for a date. Some women are thrown out justifiably!

I can only play a role in the redemption of a woman who genuinely seeks it. Otherwise, she cons me. That won't change, no matter how much resentment I still have for the hypocrites who mistreated me in the past.

NottaNatty · Accepted Answer

Loyal!!! At Least mildly attractive, empathetic, willing to compromise, NOT so materialistic, respectfull to both me and herself. I guess thats about it, it's not hard to become a 10 as long as your not an unloyal and disrespectful brat.

RosieMelts · Accepted Answer

Omg I never connected on such a spiritual level to a meme before! 😂 got me to my red and yellow core!

There was a time I would just eat McChickens for lunch every day, I swear lol it was a true love story 😂😌

Also.. my ideal man:

(I guess it’s literally unhealthy to even entertain the thought, but eh 🙃)

~ If he could connect with me on a true emotional level. On times where I was sad, where he’d just move the hair away from my eyes/face and stroke my hair. He’d hug me and would be playful with me. He’d be down to do all those kid-like things with me.. running in a field with no shoes. Riding on the back of my bike or him riding and me holding on. Even something as mushy as sharing a milkshake. One glass; two straws 😂. Probably a lot of other “stuff,” but I wish he’d be the one to offer those things or go along with it, and understand why I’d be wanting to do them.

Connecting on an *emotional level*

otherwise.. we’re just two adults who have some fun here and there. Good sex. Good conversation. Brainstorming amazing things. Being involved in the media/society and what they say is “expected.” And so forth. 🙃

Ba-da Ba BAH BAHhhh… I’m Lovin’ it! 😊😝 🍟🍔

AsaKyo · Accepted Answer

They just have to be nice and bring me iced caramel coffee everyday for breakfast

DizzyDesii · Answer

Straight/male-born male (not bi/trans), Close in age (preferably 0-3 years), 5’7-6’3, Lean to average build, Shaved or Low-cut hair, Little to no Facial Hair (unless trimmed goatee patch), Cute face, No hairy chest/hands, Goofy, Respectful, Sweet, Nurturing, Caring, Patient, Determined, Driven, Talkative, Good listener, Courageous, Protective, Faithful, Humble, Believes in God, Doesn't smoke ANYTHING, Hardly drinks, No piercings (unless eyebrow), No tats (but small and meaningful if so), Casual/Street/Sporty Dress Style, Nice smirk/smile, Wants kids, Virgin OR Body count under 5, Fluent in English, No interest in anal, All-genre movie/music lover, Not a huge gamer, Hardly talks politics, Not gun-crazy, Rarely sarcastic, Major Creative Thinker, Hopeless Romantic, doesn't have No Indoor Pets, and enjoy Theme Parks.

To sum it up, I want someone with similar morals, values and interests. But I also need him to be attractive in terms of both looks and personality, know what he wants, and has my back because I’d have his. I need for him to be himself at all times. And if I don’t like it or if we’re not for eachother, lets part ways cause its too many options out here ya feel me.

Nobody’s perfect. But what makes a person a potential and ideal partner for you?

Shadowrunneruk · Answer

I think it depends.

What I like and don't like is rather fluid. Not in a sexuality way, but what I look for in a lady and what attracts me to them.

I've been out with hardcore metalheads and 'Barbie' girls, bookworms and athletes... I just love getting to know people, I love helping, and I love establishing a connection. I find the whole process really fun, mostly.

Sure, it's really upsetting when I see someone I really like and make an effort with and it falls flat on it's arse but I pick myself up, realise she doesn't owe me attention as I don't owe others attention, and carry on my way :)

However, I love kind and caring women. I love women who are honest and straightforward- who say what they mean and do what they say. That is surprisingly hard to come by, in my experience. There's this prevailing rule girls are taught from a young age- "don't act too keen, keep him chasing you- don't tell him how you feel as you'll scare him off, etc."

Don't do that. A good guy will just stop after a while and you'll get upset because you think he was leading you on. The truth? If you're not reciprocating, then the guy is going to worry about coming off as a creep and that you don't want to stay in touch. In an effort to ensure your wishes are respected, he will just stop. It's happened to me SO MANY TIMES where I've stopped and then had a really horrible message later that broke my heart.

Other things I love? A sense of adventure. Not just wanting to go travelling- adventure comes in many forms! Maybe she loves writing and creating world's to explore? Maybe she plays RPGs Curiosity is a really exciting one for me.

Other than that, I just love meeting new people :)

BUTIMRIGHTTHO · Answer

ONLY 2 THINGS!

1) Kindness - ability to make other feel comfortable AND included!
- So many people do not do that. So many. I don't mean just for me. I mean kindness for everybody she comes across.

2) Courtesy - Control of selfish and to consider others feelings and situations even when you don't understand them.

I'm pretty good at both in real life (not online lol). But I'm going to start working on it online as well. It has to be condition-less. It can't just be toward people you like or who treat you well or who did a favor for you. It cannot just be when you are happy.
Obviously I cannot expect her to be such if I am not and I know that my influence will influence her. If I'm not carrying these qualities on that level she is going to follow... Then I want to dump her and it is my fault for not being what I'm preaching. Lol. We all do this too. It's so dumb. But I'm very nice in real life. Online I wen through a trolling phase. I'm coming out of it though.

Sandeeppingping · Answer

You're my perfect woman.. Seriously though, it'd go along the lines of her being loyal and honest, doesn't play games, doesn't act crazy (especially in public or if we're arguing about something), she's smart that's very important to me (I was talking to a 9 and I wanted to shoot myself because basically all she knew was what others we're doing her makeup and her outfit), she'd trust my judgement, I personally don't care if she's a virgin or not as long as she's true about it, what else... Takes care of herself, likes my sense of humor, that's basically it along with the fact she'd look like a 10

ohsheeT · Answer

Someone who is confident someone who is Happy smart intelligent can see and feel things through other people that other people might not see being honest is the most important not only with herself but with everybody does not have to build herself up to be somebody that she's not that is beautiful somebody who understands who she is and works on herself all the time and a roundabout way because she just wants to be a better person she has to have a beautiful heart she has to be a great lover and kind to kids and pets if she's happy I think that's the most important and if she has a beautiful heart

petitedollbabee · Answer

If they know how to express their emotions in a healthy manner, if they know how to communicate properly, if they respect my boundaries, if they understand my struggles and are supportive of my progress with my health, and finally if they have a healthy relationship with their mother or father (if they choose to have them in their life, it’s fine if they have cut their family off). Too many people that I’ve met have their mothers or fathers controlling their lives and their romantic relationships even though they’re grown ass adults and don’t need mommy or daddy managing their every step.

Ukrainianbuddafly · Answer

Honest, faithful, good effective communication, respectful, affectionate, reassures me, supportive emotionally and mentally, wants to work together, won't make me question my place or feel like I'm competing with other women, involves me in his life, doesn't seem secretive or private, will not act ashamed of me.. I can go on.

ARWINGx1 · Answer

Well, it's hard to say what my perfect woman is like... (that is, IF it was even possible for her to "check" on ONLY the positive end of my list, and none on my negatives, and still keep me from feeling suspicious.)

but 2 of the more recent ones that I can mention, is that she'd be one that doesn't follow the "rule/guidebook to love" either.
What I mean by that, is that when "we" are together, others wouldn't assume that "we" are in a relationship to begin with, 'cause of how "we" define love.

Oh, and that being a (high-functioning) autistic person wouldn't deter her.

macjets007 · Answer

I'd say someone who I have genuine connection with who is really funny. Obviously there has to be mutual attraction, but I need to find my best friend!

Looks wise, I'd say someone who's very pretty, but it's not a deal breaker if she's just super cute.

I definitely love confidence, but not hubris. Also, it seems as if women are "calling the shots" or try to; and don't let a relationship be 50/50 so to say. Most dudes just accept it, and it's almost ubiquitous in today's society. Ideally, I'd want someone who is willing to compromise and not have a my way or highway attitude (which is the norm in nyc at least lol).

MCheetah · Answer

PERSONALITY:
1. Kind/positive
2. Loyal/faithful
3. Classy/ladylike
4. Accepting/nonjudgmental
5. Open-minded
6. Intelligent
7. Strong sense of humor
8. Strong work ethic
9. Patient; not easily offended or bothered
10. Respectful
11. Politically moderate (not too liberal or conservative)
12. Strictly heterosexual and monogamous
13. (Optional) Artistic
14. (Optional) Nerdy; into video games or superheroes

PHYSICAL:
15. Tall: 5'10" to 6'5"
16. Curvy; big boobs, big booty, thick thighs, etc.
17. Feminine style
18. Great smile and good teeth
19. (Optional) Redhead
20. (Optional) Between 20 and 34 (23 to 30 is ideal)

Rania05 · Answer

My perfect man is extrovert, gentle, knows how to read the atmosphere, books and movies lover, adventurous, a bit of a clean freak, considerate, non-replusive of communication, willing to teach me or give me tipsabout things he knows like cooking or writing, lean bodied, a little shorter than me, he can be talkative but with the requirement of a good listener and has a sweet tooth while also liking spicy food.

VIVANT · Answer

Cliche’ but — compassionate respectful honest warm smile listens and wants to be heard asks and answers questions directly without getting irritable. Enjoys outdoor activities learning new things can share knowledge without being arrogant. That’s my perfection.

NathanDavis · Answer

if she's smart... (there's many different ways to be smart, and intelligent)

if she's interesting... (there's also many different ways to be interesting)

and if she's funny... (particularly smart humor, if she has that wit)

to me that is much better than her being an idealization of "perfect"

Thepumpkinhead · Answer

Perfect man is a man with a nice mother and nice family, no sister lmao. With high respect for people and no rudeness

RavVid · Answer

Appreciative. I've noticed in good marriages the partners always express appreciation and thank each other.

With one girl the first time I brought her flowers she was happy and made a fuss of putting them in a vase. The second time it was like 'oh bloody flowers again, that means I have to find the vase again and put water in it'.

I should have dumped and moved on at that point because the unappreciative attitude became a real problem.

Light909090 · Answer

She’s gotta be an Introvert She’s gotta be Fucking beautiful 😍
Nice Ass Nice Titties sexy Pussy
She’s gotta be Real submissive she's gotta be a Petite Female She’s gotta tell me that I can fuck her whenever I want even when she’s asleep I’d love to Fuck a Girl when she’s asleep but would never do it Unless I had consent 💤 she’s gotta Be Masochistic likes pain but not too much pain she has got too care about herself and her health and she’s gotta care about Knowledge and growing in intelligence she’s gotta Be Interested in Working out and building muscle she’s gotta be interested in the tv shows I’m interested in she’s gotta like the books I like and she cannot have any physical problems and no problems with her emotions

nomandik · Answer

I'm pretty sure I know what I'm doing but every woman's/ man's body it's just a little bit different so I would prefer no matter how much I know you to tell me because if I'm not doing something right or you're not doing something right wouldn't be better if somebody said something rather than being quiet I sure we both want to have orgasm

Phoenix98 · Answer

Can cook because I like to eat good way to my heart is through my stomach.

aside from that someone’s who funny and who I connect well with and who I’m comfortable enough with to be myself and who connects well with the real me. And who is at least a little clingy because I do like physical and verbal affection a lot.

Berethor · Answer

Good looks, virginity and a girl that not lack a maternal instinct like many feminists nowadays.

BlueScorpio · Answer

My husband 😊 He always buys me food, pays for most of our meals and he took care of me when I was sick with covid. He's great hubby, I love him very much. He in going to bring hin a cookie or Starburst today cause he likes those 😆

EaterPeter · Answer

Have a check list. Match values. Agree to disagree. Aboit 65% th8kgs in relationship has no solution for identify those things and discuss how to deal with other things. Debate in civil manmers. Guys are requested to increase their vocabulary. Have bachelor's degree

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Born again Christian woman who deeply loves and fears the lord Jesus Christ above all and loves the Bible is the most important thing for me.

Other than that, she must be latina, smart, honest, loyal, submmisive to me, good at sex and respectful.

I don't ask for much except that. 😚

nawtee_me · Answer

Expectations can leave you holding the bag. Every girl is my perfect girl until she isn’t. If I only look for a certain type then I miss out on those that might be better than what I think I want. Half the fun is getting to know her, even if it doesn’t work out.

Chrysantenum95 · Answer

Lmao, i can't stop laughing with the meme.. Food to the rescue will be the top, followed by gentleman, have sense of humor and outdoorsy like me

whistlingwh0res · Answer

A woman who clean and cook home waiting her husband arriving and then do the dishes and go to bed with full make ups and perfume on,

a man who bring flowers home and give her kiss. He drives luxurious car and buy her expensive jewelry and give her orgasm like a horny dog.

Aerolyn · Answer

I'm simple when it comes to this stuff. Just an average looking girl who's in relative shape that also has similar interests as me and has thier head on straight. That's literally it.

Firesparks · Answer

Girly girl if possible... sweet. kind, loving, generous, good personality , loyal, ( dresses ( just above knee or slightly shorter) hose n heels) , beautiful voice, smile, long hair, eyes that sparkle in the light... hugs n 💋 kisses...

DancingQueen16 · Answer

I actually already found my dream guy his name is Alex he's smart, funny, sweet and a gentlemen

JosyJosy · Answer

When he can put up with my crap and I can put up with his, but at the end of the day that crap isn't at all enough to call it quits, because we love eachother just that much.

Sour-rose · Answer

They'll put up with my insecurities, weird victories... and not be a piece of shi or abusive. <3

Andres77 · Answer

Humility…kindness…patience…forgiveness…quiet …

LindsayR07 · Answer

I'm perfect! No, but seriously, I need loyalty, intelligence, and I prefer he be well above average in the manhood dept.

watercolor_lions · Answer

Well they'd need to meet my list of requirements: be a good person and what not.

But we also have to "click", like when someone gets you. That chemistry where you just know you can be 100% yourself around them.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

For me it personality I've dated beautiful girls with bad personality an date over quik but ito me its some one you have a lot in common with an great personality I've dated ones with great personality an had a great date even if you only have a few things in common

Sixgunsound · Answer

A girl who is a great at kissing will get VERY far with me.

44of69years · Answer

Her sence of hummer and her personality Next is yes her looks as I need to be attracted to her

DEXTER_LIVES · Answer

I think she would have to be considerate and thankful for our love, lol.

LogicBomber · Answer

A girl who has dignity and doesn’t expose herself online or in public for cheap sexual attention and a girl who doesn’t have a Body Count in the double digits.

clampfan101 · Answer

A good Christian with similar interests and wants children some day. That’s all I need, and yet I’m having trouble finding anyone. Online stinks and I’m particularly shy offline.

thatrandomguyagain · Answer

at this point? anyone that doesn't treat people like shit while expecting to be treated like royalty, would do.

Raaj4you · Answer

A girl who can cook and clean. Sweet, classy, feminine, well behaved, loving, caring, respectful, submissive, supportive, god fearing, religious, etc. Good in bed.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

She exists, she takes care of herself, she treats me like a human being, and should at least try out my interests just as I would try out hers.

Guardian45 · Answer

My potential or ideal partner LOVES Purple, sits on my left, fits under my arm easily, loves pasta, ramen, walks & movies. And MUST have a WICKED sense of humor!

Methis · Answer

Adventurers soul. Decent attitude towards trying new things. Smart, sweet , able to act like an innocent woman in public but lustful and erotic in private. Loyal and a decent cook doesn't hurt

TroyDT · Answer

She is biologically female, adult, we are not related, we have some overlap of interests, and she adores me.

YoogurtBro12 · Answer

I want some one visionary, act a/c to the law God has created. If she is loyal and could live with me in castle or hunt which i cloud provide.

Havthrills · Answer

Kind, honest, some kink, fun to be with, know how to have fun, open, playful

Likes2drive · Answer

One that actually shows interest and is caring, plus I need to feel attracted to them

Still-alive · Answer

my two big ones are sense of humor and empathy ;)

Lincoln33 · Answer

Woman that does not talk too much, with a nice character and beautiful

Twalli · Answer

She's my girlfriend. I didn't know this when I asked her out, but she checks almost every box.

johnboymuscles · Answer

BJ's and cooking. Plenty of BJ's and full mouth of food cause too much talk is bullshit

Zolly99999 · Answer

Sweet , kind. Loyal , someone I'm attracted too,

dolemite89 · Answer

a cutey with a booty that has an amazing sense of humor 😍

FilmGuy93 · Answer

A sense of adventure, a delicious smell,

jimmy2 · Answer

One that connects to me. Forgives me, talk plainy to each other

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

She doesn't kill babies, she's not a FEMINIST, she's STRAIGHT not bi, FEMININE , knows how to cook and clean n knows how to take care of herself, no fatty my way, and is FEMININE

interstellar · Answer

Here you go

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Think of it this way, if she supports abortion on demand, than that really says something about how much she overvalues herself.

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