How do emotionally unavailable men feel about emotionally unavailable women?

[Anonymous]

I think I’m emotionally unavailable.. actually I’m pretty sure I am as I’m not in a space for a serious relationship at the moment, or anything involving heavy emotions for that matter. I met a guy who I quite like, we spend maybe 2 nights a week together and he’s expressed that he’s also not ready for a relationship.
It makes me feel bad knowing that he can date and sleep with whoever he wants, but at the same time I also appreciate that freedom since I’m not in a relationship headspace. My question is, do you think it makes him feel bad knowing that I can do whatever I want with whoever? I went out the other night and he asked if any guys hit on me, which makes me feel like he may be a little jealous.

[JBlade]

Being emotionally unavailable sounds like an excuse for sexual/social freedom here. I’m emotionally unavailable too but if I was seeing someone I liked but we weren’t ready to sustain a relationship yet, I’d still be focused on that person and I’d make it known that I’m interested if I am. Not doing whatever with whoever. Anyways, can’t say he’s jealous but it does seem like he cares. Personally think you two should just be more honest with each other, sounds like an issue of emotional maturity.

[Asker]

More honest in what way? We have both expressed to each other that we’re into each other, and we both just got out of long term relationships so we’re not ready for a commitment right now. I’d say we are focused on each other, we’ve seen each other every weekend since we started talking, and sometimes he stops by after work during the week just to say hey. We just don’t talk all day every day and I don’t think either of us have expectations from the other.

[JBlade]

Basically your whole second paragraph from your post, why don’t you just ask him and you two talk about it?

[OlderThanILook]

I feel like if I met a girl similar to myself, I would instantly be attracted to her and want to be in a relationship, which is bad because my entire issue is that I stay away from people I like.

[TonyMetal___86]

Because the professor has added the chemical X 😂

[Asker]

I’m sorry?

[TonyMetal___86]

Sorry i was replying on another question but it was sent to you by fault 🙂

[Anonymous]

Sounds good to me.