Is it normal to feel as though you’ve reached a point in life where you just don’t give a fck about women and dating? What do they even have to offer?

[WhiteBoyChill]

I‘m just tired of their constant bllshit and drama and lack of maturity and honesty these days.

I don’t want to invite more problems into my life.

My life is already stressful enough as it is with college.

And I don’t care about just “hooking up” either. I’m perfectly fine just jerking off because you don’t have to arrange it and it’s a lot less effort, and you still get the release out.

So what do I have to gain from dating women?

Seemingly nothing. Based on the options I have its just dealing with the drama they manage to create on a daily basis for themselves.

I mean at this rate, I’m literally surprised when I see a woman my age attending church. And that really isn’t asking for much either.

Like my only literal requirements are just be a good person, don’t be manipulative, be honest, have your shit together, and don’t seek out attention from other men.

But apparently that in itself is hard to come by and I still see most chicks seeking affirmation and attention from other men on a daily basis. 🙄

And yet you expect some guy to be your personal cuck just so I can get sex?

What makes YOU any different or any more valuable than the 95000% of women doing the EXACT same thing?

[lightbulb27]

I was in similar place and so I bailed out of dating for quite some time at your age. That all makes sense.

most people are not mature nor confident, will play games to hide their deeper inner truths, etc. etc..

You also can't turn off the hormonal drive of life which is to find mate, make offspring and that's your purpose... love and lust. draining the pump can delay it.

If you are running from your deeper inner wounds, frustrated because you don't understand women... then welcome to the club of life:)! And continue working on yourself. Dating and relationships are hard and work until you understand yourself better, understand others and can sift through the piles of trouble to find what you want or is good.

if you continually look under the same rock to find a diamond and just get a snake, make changes and look somewhere else. Yes some girls go to church but doesn't mean they are in good shape either. Some people are and some aren't... are you attracted to the good ones and filtering them out? Wounds attract... opposite energies can draw to each other. So understanding how things works helps a lot, the rest is a go fishing contest.

The more standards and expectations you have, the narrow your opportunities.

women want something, you want something... not everyone is the same, and most everyone has their "damage" from life. accept that... figure out what you want and plot a course to achieve that.

[ConspiracyTheorist]

Man I am right there with ya just about because it seems like a lot of females have problems with honesty these days but that goes both ways I imagine but it seems their are a lot of folks these days that like to manipulate and play games with people's hearts and after that deal has been hurt enough times it's like well I know the ol hand isn't going to scar me emotionally, I don't have to spend any money on it, we won't fight for 3 days because it caught me looking at some other females ass, it's gonna be here for the good times and the bad lol

[WhiteBoyChill]

Ya man exactly. Its much easier to just use the hand than deal with women

[HighValue]

The majority of women are immoral, dishonest, disloyal, hypocritical, greedy, selfish, and promiscuous. They are often worthless as a partner.

My advice would be to focus on yourself, your health, and learning employable skills for a while, then move to a more conservative state/city/area because most of the ones in other areas are completely unfit for a good relationship.

[WhiteBoyChill]

And that’s precisely the matter bro. Even up here in Maine its not really conservative. Even if there are a good bit of the state that votes Republican

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

Sure , I can understand your frustrations at times but it’s just not true for all women. Trust me I’ve met some women who are absolutely absurd with their dramatic unhealthy habits then I’ve met some gorgeous yet compassionate and down to earth women.


You’re going through it, just keep your chin up and stay in the fight bro

[WhiteBoyChill]

Yeah. Its just the effort it takes to get there just doesn’t seem worth it.

It’s not that I’m butthurt, it’s just that I’ve run out of patience

[Truthatanycost]

Forget about dating and focus on your purpose instead. Spend that time building your life, finances and discovering your purpose so you can be financially effluent and retire early into a life of pure freedom. Chasing tail is an utter waste of time and too many young men fall for the same crap. Chasing your purpose should be priority along with building up your physical, spiritual, mental and financial self.

[Jamie05rhs]

Lol. I reached that point about 10 years ago, brother.

[WhiteBoyChill]

So women don’t get any better as they age?

[Jamie05rhs]

@WhiteBoyChill They supposedly become more mature. But it takes a long time. I'm tired of waiting for them to catch up.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Oh word. I guess even by the time they’re 30 they still act like they’re 20

[Jamie05rhs]

@WhiteBoyChill Pretty much.

[Anonymous]

Turn gay then. Problem solved! Then us women don’t have to deal with you either 🥳

[WhiteBoyChill]

No thank you. I’ll die alone then

[MiseriaCantareAFI]

kids

aren't you white boys, all about "preserving the white race", right?

by the way, im white

[WhiteBoyChill]

Uhm. Not with h*es that are a detriment to our racial identity

[MiseriaCantareAFI]

Like i said, FUCKING RACIST

[Twalli]

Because you can find a girl that isn't like most of the other women if you bother to look.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I don't know. Seems like too much effort. I dont have the patience

[Twalli]

You're probably looking in the wrong places.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, dating under 25 sucks ass lmfao

[WhiteBoyChill]

Well. That’s where I’m at rn

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly as you describe it is exactly how I remember it too. It might be that you're looking for more mature of a relationship than most of the others in your peer group, which isn't surprising given your age

[WhiteBoyChill]

I am only 20 years old tho. Would older women (not like 35+) actually have any interest in such a young guy?

I just feel like it would be better dating them because there would be none of this playing games, wasting my time, and flirting around type stuff

[Opinion Owner]

I wouldn't sweat it so much. Focus on yourself. Some day, some woman is gonna float into your life, like a beam of light on a cloudy day, and knock your fucking socks off. Just focus on being the best you that you can be

[WhiteBoyChill]

Yeah. That’s what I figure is best.

[Fuentes]

I got 99 problems & a BITCH ain't one.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I mean, you are making bank tho apparently so I’m not surprised

[Fuentes]

I live in So cal it speaks for its self

[WhiteBoyChill]

Ya but doesn’t So cal also have east LA neighborhoods where black people live in cardboard boxes in their piss stained clothes and shoot drugs and shit?

[Fuentes]

That's not East LA That's DTLA in a section of Skidrow & most those homeless are white lololol and all on drugs. That's just one neighborhood. of course every city has its ghetto. But i don't live in LA or near any crime or homeless, I do however live near LA.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Oh ok. Ya bro I was just trynna say that there are other black people in SoCal that aren’t exactly living it up lol.

Having money isn’t a requirement its just….. you kinda got have money to be able to not sleep in a cardboard box….. LOL

[Fuentes]

I'm still wondering what others have to do with me? Lol

[WhiteBoyChill]

You were acting as tho everyone in SoCal had money as a basic requirement.

I was just saying there’s other people that look exactly like you who can’t say the same

[Fuentes]

Lol yes because I didn't start out here dummy, you can't just move to SoCal or even Cali from low waged shit states just cause., think about that then slap yourself. Also nobody looks like me dummy, im one of a kind.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I’m sure you have black buddies somewhere….

[Fuentes]

I didn't grow up in California are you dumb hahahahha

[WhiteBoyChill]

But there are other black people in California tho. Its not like you’re the only one

[Fuentes]

Again what does other people have to do with me? Lol are you stupid

[WhiteBoyChill]

I was just saying you can still make friends with other black people bro. Cuz I thought that’s what black people do

[Fuentes]

No just because someone is the same race doesn't mean we're friends stupid. That's like me telling you that you should know other whites but you don't cause you don't go outside. And every black person I do know is high caliber and not broke. Look at California's demographic before you talk in the richer cities in LA and the IE and even OC you have to have money to live in certain parts of LA and the IE and OC especially you can't live in OC broke hahaha so if theirs black people there they obviously have what? More money then you will ever see in your life.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Yeah but I thought most black people still knew other black people tho.

I find it weird you don’t seem to have any black friends

[Fuentes]

Lol I just told you the blacks I know are all high caliber dummy and I'm half Mexican so I kno2 alotta Mexicans too, I don't know no gangsters or hood folks or poor blacks out here or Mexicans haha. Your tryna told me I know poor black peoples I don't that what makes you dumb.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Ya bro but why aren’t you more accepting of all black people tho.

I still get along with broke white people even tho I’m not broke

[WhiteBoyChill]

And why you pretend they don’t exist doesn’t make any sense.

Its like you feel superior to them bro

[Fuentes]

I believe I'm more superior then most people buddy. Even you and your whole family combined.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Well if you believe you’re superior to that many people, than why do you bother defending black people when I exhibit similar feelings towards them?

[Fuentes]

Lol your immediate family is not the size of a Whole racial group of people. What drugs are you on?

[WhiteBoyChill]

You literally just said “I believe I’m more superior than most people”

[Fuentes]

Yes I didn't say a whole race of people dummy

[WhiteBoyChill]

Well of course. And I didn’t either. There won’t ever be a day in my life where I can claim to have done better/done more than Terry Crews

[Fuentes]

Yeah but you said why should I have a issue if you do it?

[WhiteBoyChill]

Because whenever I refer to “black people” I am not speaking for every black person but offering generalizations.

You seem to believe that the general character of most black people is “good” which is where I tend to disagree.

And contrary to your long-stated belief, I did actually grow up around black people.

I attended a school system that was 20% black for all 12 grade levels. I have enough experience with them to say they left a bad taste in my mouth.

But I’m surprised that hasn’t been your experience. Pays to be extra-wealthy so you can avoid those people.

But what I will say though is that poor white people don’t usually behave like them.

[WhiteBoyChill]

You’re simply unaware of the realities of what most black people are because you haven’t been exposed to it.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I mean weren’t you the guy who said you grew up around primarily racist white people and then moved to some wealthy part of SoCali?

How much experience do you really have with these things?

I get the impression it isn’t much

[Fuentes]

@WhiteBoyChill are you mentally challenged I said 100 times I grew in poverty and around gangs and drugs and prostitution and heavy crime around blacks but also whites. I grew up in the NW in a predominantly white city. Do the math and check the statistics for such a high crime City was 90% done by ad you explained broke white people. Anyone from that city will tell you It's mostly whites commiting the crimes in that city so yes broke whites commit crimes. Clearly you got bullied in High-school and girls ignored you for the black dudes lol and that hurts you.

But I escaped poverty so I pay yes to never be near it again. So I don't know what drugs your on but today in my current state I am better then most people. Lol

[WhiteBoyChill]

Dude. You said you grew up in Spokane Washington. And that doesn’t necessarily scream black people being prevalent to me

[WhiteBoyChill]

How many black kids were in your school? Maybe like 3 besides you?

[Fuentes]

Lol no like 50 or 60 it was just a predominately white city that city is called Spokane look it up. its a price if shut gang infested, drug infested and Aryan nation infected too look it all up its there

[WhiteBoyChill]

Alright fine. Then what was your impression the poor blacks? If it was only the whites who were the racist ones……

[Fuentes]

Lol cause it was blocking people of color from jobs is systemic racism so instead of staying their and bitching & being broke I left & I was poor and anyone as a man who refuses to leave a poverty crime filled City where crime is the only option are dumb & anything they do is their fault.

[maximumpower]

Welcome to the paradigm of the modern adult male.

[WhiteBoyChill]

You’re 38. It still doesn’t get any better?

[maximumpower]

I'm actually 58.
Have a load of experience with women. Some good, some bad.
They're not all bad and without virtue; however, finding one worth a damn is a crap shoot.
Sound advice is that - first and foremost - marriage is a big deal invented by women, for women. Consider how much and for how long they fixate on every detail, where the guy just rents a tux and shows up. After the first year or so it's all downhill. It's not "forever" anymore - it's for convenience.
Many in long-term relationships find that not marrying is a way to keep the relationship "real."
Given the current push for equality and rise of rabid feminism, would say that marriage is actually outmoded and little more than a "shelter" for future income when she decides to sue for divorce.
Look around you. Consider the percentage of men who are miserable and single and compare it to the percentage of men who are married and miserable. THEN ask yourself if it's really worth it.
You can still choose to have kids. If you do, raise and support them as a man should.
If you do decide to marry, seriously consider a pre-nup.

[WhiteBoyChill]

So in other words, marriage just ain’t all its cracket out to be

[maximumpower]

Correct.
It's a sham - nothing more.

[MikeInHawaii]

I think I got there twenty years ago.

[KrakenAttackin]

Absolutely.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Lol bro. All they’re good for is pump and dump