Guys, have you ever had single women flirt with you, pursue you, or make the first move towards you, in the dating world before?

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Regardless of looks, you being straight or gay, or you being single or married, have you ever had single unattached women make the first move on you, express interest in you first, flirt with you, or romantically pursue you before? Doesn't matter if it's for dating/a relationship, or sex alone.

I'm technically option B, but it feels more like option A, because besides one woman (the late love of my life), literally EVERY other woman who has ever expressed interest in me were bisexual, and I have zero interest whatsoever in being with a lesbian/gay chick. They're as much of a turn-off/dealbreaker/impossibility as the gay men are, and plenty of them have pursued interest in me too. I have the WORST f*cking luck, when it comes to dating, as you can see. All the queer people are into me, but not more than one straight female has ever pursued interest.

MystiKaL · Accepted Answer

Never. I've never been attractive enough for this to happen, unfortunately.

Lionman95 · Accepted Answer

No never happened. It´s what it is and I´m ok with that.

Avicenna · Answer

Yeah, are here are some observations: the more attractive the woman, the more subtle her flirting/first move is. The less attractive, the more personable and the more tactile. The older, the more comfortable they seemed with flirting and the more skilled they were at conveying it. Some younger women seem a bit reticent.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

It may have happened once a few years ago in the gym, I think.

Basically, one time, I were on the treadmill and some girl came on the one next to mine.

Me and her used to use the treadmill all the time.

What happened, was I were using a treadmill and her twin used one a space from mine and she came in between, right next to mine (almost like it was planned out) and whilst I were just focused on my cardio, I'm pretty sure she was looking at me and smiling (I could sense from the corner of my eye), as if she wanted me to initiate a conversation and I just stood there and focused on my thing, pretending like I didn't know.

Whilst I don't know for certain, I'm pretty sure she was trying to make a move, so if I were a gambling man, I'd bet that it was some kind of interest.

Despite that, I do think there's a SMALL possibility that she was just fascinated by me in general, because think about this:

I come from a Pakistani background and a lot people where I'm from are South Asian anyway, including her and I don't look or act like the stereotypical version of people of my culture, like I wear tights in the gym, I have long hair, I'm always doing the splits and I think she was kind of fascinated and talking about it with her twin when she first saw me do it or about me in general once or twice after that.

When I'm out in public, I do tend to get attention anyway, mostly because some people of my own culture are nosy, can't mind their own business and will stare at you as if they've never seen another person of their own culture before.

A lot of people assume I'm homosexual, because I fit the stereotype based off of how I look, like I get that I have quite a distinct look, but it's kind of rude to stare and one time some girl gave me a creepy smile when I walked past her (I looked away and then looked back and she was still staring).

Anyway, back to the gym thing, I kind of regret it, because who know what may have happened if I made a move on her or at least talked to her, like I don't even think the girl is the most attractive compared to others, but if I feel like someone is into me, I'm automatically into them or have some kind of fascination with them and whilst she's always doing cardio, I feel like I've potentially missed a good chance, but then again, I'm one of the few people of my race that isn't religious (Muslim) and she more than likely is and I have a long-term mindset, so it may not have worked out anyway.

Still though, there are certain days in the gym where I do see her, like 4x a week and I just feel comfortable knowing she's there, mostly because if I feel like some girl is into me, I'm more into her and it's been years since the opportunity happened and I doubt I'll get another chance.

Now though, she probably thinks I'm a homosexual anyway (still go the long hair, ears are pierced and eyebrows are thinner), because when I'm in the gym, I'm always wearing leggings and on two of the four days I tend to see her, I wear really short shorts, so it's kind of the nail in the coffin as if the coffin isn't already buried.

Effably · Answer

Your criteria is very generous, so cheers for making me feel attractive!

I'd say I have more often been pursued, approached etc than I myself have done that part. And besides I feel that even if I make the first move half the time she helped set it up anyway. I also recall from a little survey done back in my highschool, talk about scentifically accurate, that the majority of relationships here were initiated by the girl.

There is still an expectation for us guys to do things first but, I feel reality often disagrees with expectation.

Emiliamazing · Answer

It's interesting to read some of the gentleman's responses. The last time I was forward with a man, we were married a year and a half later. I'm willing to bet times have changed over the last 20 years. I feel bad for people who are dating in these times, you never know someone's intentions.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

I have had like 2 to 3 do so, but I think the reason that happened was because I showed intent and flirty banter to open that idea.

Some of the most beautiful women I have been with made the first intimate move after we went on dates and I invited them out.

Jdjfjcjj · Answer

It happens often enough I guess and it doesn't make me see them in some negative light. however, when when some of these women show too much interest and there is a large imbalance, I subconsciously lose interest even if I didn't intend to. The other situation would be where there isn't a large imbalance but Im feeling pressured to keep things moving fast

hahahmm · Answer

Yeah but a man should never let women control his actions so I don't agree with guys who think it'd be ideal if women did all the work/1st moves.

RealMarek · Answer

Yes, some have pursued me both for a relationship and for a hook-up. In my experience, even when declining their advances gently and politely, it is very common for a woman to not handle rejection well at all.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

Yeah I'm not very social but girls flirt with me and make the first move all the time and I had to turn down a few of them twice... and recently I learned that I had a few secret admirers on my last day in college lol

18Uma21 · Answer

I am in that very few women group. But I am not ugly. Whenever I say "I like you" the other person immediately replies "I like you too"
I got bored and stopped approaching. I will be the one who is being approached, otherwise I am happy single

OpenClose · Answer

I can think of about 5 girls and 3 guys who initiated in some way in college. After college, well, I have no idea how anyone dates after college. Damn near nobody meets each other it seems like.

TroyDT2 · Answer

A lot, but I know for most it was about my (inherited beach) house and not about me so I rejected them.

boobliker · Answer

yes and it was very odd feeling but nice at the same time she done everything I could dream of very odd

Fuentes · Answer

Yeah some woman persue, but I don't offer anything but dick.

mike5150 · Answer

Twice I dated a woman who made the first move. Both ended badly. Right now, I am married to a woman I pursued, and we have been together for over 8 years.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Had a few, both my exes  I mean a guy can't make an approach unless he's suicidal when the MeToo death squad turn up to administer his execution

Wwwyzzerdd · Answer

Nope. I don't get approached. I'm not attractive enough to be genuinely approached, in my experience women don't approach men. Every time I've tried online dating I've had nothing but scammers contact me, women don't approach men.

Heolurt · Answer

Hahahahahaha nope, never happened and never will especially for a guy who looks like a melted Jason Mamoa but like sloth from the goonies.

dolemite89 · Answer

ya I've had girls flirt with me and ask me out before, it’s rare tho for the most part they’re ungodly lazy in that department.

Berethor · Answer

If we don't count internet then it was less than five, but I might not noticed some women.

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