Should I tell my boyfriend that I was crying because I wish that we could get married and start our future already? (Page 2)

xJayleenx · 2022-10-19T16:18:49Z

I was crying for hours while I was right next to him in bed he was very sweet giving me hugs and holding me tight but I didn’t tell him why I was crying because I felt like if I told him it would be pressuring to him and I thought that maybe he’d think that I’m crazy or something. I was just feeling absolutely heartbroken because I want our future to start now I want to be married to him but I can’t because we both don’t have much money. And it made me feel even worse because it seems like I’m the only one feeling this way despite him telling me since the beginning of us dating that he wanted to marry me. We’ve been together for 2 years and 6 months now he is 25 and I am 21 he graduated from college and is working part time but I’m still in college waiting to start my new job. We both live with our parents still for financial reasons and we only see each other twice a week from 3 or 4pm to 10:30 . It seems like I’ve been going through the same cycle for over 2 years of having to sneak into his room to get any privacy at all and only getting a few hours of private time with him a week and worrying about his parents coming in if we get intimate and I’m a bit tired of it. I’ve hinted it to him that I’m tired of having to sneak around but I have not told him that I wish that we could get married right now. I feel like he is very comfortable the way that we are despite him saying that he is also annoyed by it and I feel like I’m the only one hurting that we can’t start our future together yet. I sometimes find myself just staring around the room that we’re in wondering when things are going to change and feeling sad but I don’t feel that he feels the same.

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TallAnon Follow
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Marriage ain't gonna change much, find other ways to enjoy life until then.

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- xJayleenx
  
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  Marriage is the only way out for us and the only way to move in together that’s why it’s a big deal. My parents don’t want me to get married until I graduate and it turns out this mf doesn’t as well 😭
  
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- TallAnon
  
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  Move out on your own first.
  
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- xJayleenx
  
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  I don’t want to live alone inflation is crazy
  
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- TallAnon
  
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  Irrelevant, just earn more.
  
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4eyes2mouths Follow
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This sounds like you want to get married just to live together. Which is an absolute terrible idea.

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rosemilk Follow
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don't expect anything if you do. you guys are super young and haven't been together that long. what's the rush?

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pizzalovershouse Follow
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In shure by now he jniqs that but wants time to grow into the idea

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- xJayleenx
  
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  Since only one month of us being together he promised me that he would marry me. He’s the only person that has told me that which is probably why I’m so hopeful.
  
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- pizzalovershouse
  
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  Give it a little more time usely guys like to wait a year at least before getting married
  
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- xJayleenx
  
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  We’ve been together for over two years now 2 years and 6 months. And he is 25 now still living with his parents
  
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- pizzalovershouse
  
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  Oh maybe he wants to get a better job to help him get a house
  
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Iron_Man Follow
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Yes, of course talk to your boyfriend I like your attitude, you want to have a relationship, you want to get married, you want things to work out. You want to have kids good positive thinking

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Monalisa77 Follow
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Sorry but ur too young u should be glad to have someone!

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Summeroflove Follow
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Maybe you should. But. If you want to propose. Just propose. See what he says.

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GoodGuyBreakingBad Follow
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I would tell him how you feel and take things from there

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Philyouup Follow
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darling, you are only 21. you have a lot of life ahead of you. enjoy your youth. leave your options open for a while. life can deliver surprises

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Levin Follow
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Why's he only working part time?
You're both not gonna get anywhere if you don't earn enough money.

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- Levin
  
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  by the way, I agree with Zariah. Part of having a mature relationship is about being able to communicate about the uncomfortable things and be open and honest together. If there are issues you should deal with them head on, be upfront with him, rather than hoping than marriage will solve everything. Relationships take time and maturity. A lot of people make the mistake of getting married early and if things don't pan out it makes things even more messy.
  
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Darine123 Follow
Xper 6 Age: 20

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I’m jealous of you, when I have a boyfriend he never be sweet , if he see me cry he will laughter n make fun of me or talk shit

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HoneyButterCup525 Follow
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He probly doesn't want kids. But if you do then leave him and fine a gyt that's serious for you.

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Skyros Follow
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Just casually ask him to see what he thinks. Asking can’t hurt.

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Staximus Follow
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Why don't you two just stop being bums and get an apartment together

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- Staximus
  
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  Tell that bum to go get a real job
  
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- Friendlybro79
  
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  Do you tell someone who's on life support to just stop being a bum and wake up? I'm not saying you shouldn't say this just wondering.
  
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- Friendlybro79
  
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  When reading your response I heard the voice of Mick from Rocky lol
  
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- Staximus
  
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  @Friendlybro79 Yes
  
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- Staximus
  
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  @Friendlybro79 Mick's voice is exactly what you should hear in your head when reading my response
  
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- Staximus
  
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  @Friendlybro79 When somebody is on life support, you tell them in Mick's voice "get up you bum, there's plenty of time to die later!"
  
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- Staximus
  
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  @Friendlybro79 https://youtu.be/LcgEoYH9nYU
  
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- Friendlybro79
  
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  Hahahahaha
  
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Debbie14217 Follow
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depends on how long you been dating

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- xJayleenx
  
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  2 tears and 6 months
  
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- Debbie14217
  
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  research says you should date for at least 2 years to get to know each other... which i believe is good... and i think you shoukd talk about it with him
  
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saffoler Follow
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Yes, you should talk to him about it.

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One thing at a time: the money first.

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spartan55 Follow
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I don't know why he would think you are crazy😳

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Someone's getting to clingy.

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