Are you intimidated by a strong sexy woman? Are you capable of appreciating the levels she’d go to to achieve success and happiness for herself and those she chooses to love? Or do you prefer a more submissive and “go-with-the-flow” type of woman?
I feel there so much that men and some women don’t understand about strong minded women. Yes, we’re a bit outspoken at times and sometimes we forget to take turns. However, being open-minded and self-reflective means consideration will be giving to all points brought to our attention. Strong, secure women are always evolving and aim to be their best. Sure, we can be a lot to handle at times but you’ll rarely ever be bored!!
If you’re with a strong-willed woman then understand that didn’t happen by chance. Of all the potential people she could have been with she chose you. Yes, you chose her too but what I mean is always keep in mind that her choice to be with YOU means she values you and sees great potential in you!!
Also, keep in mind that strong women don’t always need to be in control. It’s quite the opposite. She’ll find some much needed relief in a partner whom she can fully trust enough to finally release all control (sometimes). Not just in the bedroom, but that too!!! 💗 Women who are dominant in their daily lives don’t ALWAYS want to be between the sheets!
I prefer a strong sexy woman ♥️
I prefer someone more submissive 💜
I don’t have a preference either way 💙
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Are You Intimidated By A Strong Sexy Woman? Do you prefer a more submissive woman?
What a wonderful question! I love the way that you elaborated on the question. I’m not sure I’ve seen it described better. Over my many years, I found that while I like to be the head of the household - I prefer my partner to run it, and I gladly assist with her direction. a very balanced relationship. In the bedroom, I loved a woman who could take charge, wasn’t afraid to tell me what she liked, asked me what I liked, was daring and confident, wasn’t afraid to talk dirty, embraced her sexuality, and was willing to explore, and did not Weaponize sex. I think it’s wonderful so long as the strong and sexy part does not translate into conflict in the home, I think it’s phenomenal!
That was very nice of you to say and very kind. Honestly I don’t have much hope at this point. dating has become some thing I really don’t understand any longer. But thank you again, I appreciate you.
I love strong smart sexy women. They know what they want and aren’t afraid to make it known. For me that’s preferable to someone that doesn’t know or say what they want. They are also more enjoyable to be with outside the bedroom as they are usually passionate about their careers and interests, plus are excellent conversationalists.
For every type of person, there are people who are drawn to that type of person. It doesn't matter what the masses say. What matters is how you connect with your partner.
Some people feel energized by conflict. A good debate or argument is arousing to them. Others find this to be a drain on their resources. There are plenty of people who prefer a balanced relationship rather than one where one or the other tends to be above or below the other. We see more stability when people balance close to the center rather than at extremes.
Sexiness has nothing to do with strength or weakness. That's like comparing fish with trees. Anyone is capable of being sexy, and there are many ways to express that sexiness.
Make sure you understand the difference between strength and power. Strength is an what we use to accomplish our objectives. It is inside us and not necessarily obviously seen. Power is pushing that strength on others to maintain control. Confident people don't feel a need to push their agenda onto others. Insecure people feel their belief is made legitimate if they can convince others to buy into that belief.
A relationship doesn't need to be a competition. I've met many people who claim they need to win all the time. To do so, they need to surround themselves with losers, for they can't win if others don't lose.
Be observant, and then make sure the choices you make are as considerate of others as you'd like their choices to be considerate of you.
Men are not intimidated by "strong and independent" women - they are simply uninterested in them. Such women are generally seen by most men as having zero value as a relationship partner - they bring nothing positive to the relationship and plenty of negative, so most men simply avoid them.
Such women have BECOME the men that they want to date, instead of ATTRACTING the man they want to date with femininity. That's like, oh, trying to build a profitable restaurant business when you specialize in poop sandwiches - your customers won't be intimidated by your menu, just completely uninterested in it. And no amount of advertising, and no amount of trying to shame your potential customers into desiring poop sandwiches is going to help your sales.
Sure, there's a small percentage of submissive men who are into such women, but that's not who most of those women actually want.
Don't be confused that some men may still pursue such women for casual sex - if she's physically attractive, that will always happen, but such women are rarely taken seriously as relationship partners. Those are very different things.
Ok, first of all. Other people said it but I'll say it as well. I'm not "intimidated" by anyone. You could bring me a 2M (I'm 1.73CM myself), 110KG (I'm 70KG) super muscular woman and I could beat her at any time... So no, I'm not scared or feel like she's dominating me. Everything is about attraction.
Now, to answer your question, I don't have a problem with a "strong" woman. Hell, my mother is what I would consider a strong women and she's HELLA attractive (please, just don't make incest jokes...). The thing is that I don't want extremes! Normally, I like my woman to be cute and sweet (regardless of physical appearance). "Hello honey", "Welcome home dear, do you want dinner?", cuddles, kisses, etc.
Of course, the chemistry can be worked of. If she's physically bigger than me, that "Welcome home dear" can become "Welcome home baby (or sweaty)". And I can call her "mommy" (lol) if it works for her. My point is, everything can work if you put the effort but we must be able to "chance" our "style" depending on the situation.
But with that been said, here comes my trust issues regrading "strong women". I was grown to believe that EVERY woman wants a man that is stronger that her. I'm personally not what you'll call a "boy" but I'm also not what you'll call a "rock". So I don't believe that they'll be any "strong" woman that will want to be with me. It just don't work in my mind.
Another problem would be her personality. I do not want my girl to be confused about how she would treat me (and other people around us). There is a difference between "not taking any shit", "been strong where you need to" and getting work done, etc. and with setting your personality to be "dominant" and wanting to have control over everything. I want my partner to trust me and I want to be the one who makes the choices. I want my woman to sleep in my solders and by completely relaxed when she's with me. That's one of the most common complains you'll find by guys in regards of strong women. This also makes sense of women who work demanding jobs like a CEO where they need to be of control of everything and know everything. That's one part of your life. But can you be the cute wife when you are back on home and trust me?
Another thing is MONEY. The strong women most of the times have good jobs (not always as "strong" has to do with your personality but most of the times) and most of the times, we see them wanting someone who gets more. So would they want me again? To add on that, I just want a simple life with a simple job, a small house, a simple life (with some "excitement" here and there ;) and maybe a kid. I don't want to constantly "evolve" (words I used specifically because you used it in your post) and having to work harder and harder to make her respect me. I love getting a better person when it comes to my behavior and personality but not when it comes to my performance. ESPECIALLY when it comes to money. I HATE the competitive world that's out there when it comes to make money. I just want something simple and I want to have more time to enjoy my life and my family. So in the end, will I get respected or seen as less from my strong wife?
I am not intimidated by strong sexy women, actually I think they are more the type I am attracted to. I think that with more assertive strong women, there is more chance to play off each other because I am generally more reserved and throughout my life I have had pleasant interactions with more assertive women. I think with more submissive women, I just don’t feel a spark really because while with more assertive women they can be soft and submissive sometimes, I think I’d prefer the majority of the time to being more outgoing and assertive. I mean could be with a more submissive woman, but I would feel better having a stronger more assertive woman because they have more presence in my eyes. I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with submissive women, but they just aren’t really my type. There’s not much fun to be had trying to out-submit a submissive woman, but trying to out-assert a strong woman sounds like a fun game in a relationship. It’s preferred that I know she definitely likes me before trying that though, otherwise she may get the wrong idea.
The game begins with no doubt as to its final outcome, only the moves from initial challenge leading to the final throes of nirvanic, exhaustive satisfaction are left to the imagination as the possession of dominance of the dance exchanges from one participant to the other. Yes, there must be dominance, there must be submission, transferring between the parties involved as opportunity allows, culminating in such a crescendo of animalistic fervor that the participants exit from the encounter no longer themselves, but truly an amalgamation, having fused the best of themselves permanently with their mate, creating two entirely new magnificent beings, clearly intent on spreading their magnificence to ever more beings who prove worthy to be exalted to the levels of extraordinary carnal bliss.
Hmm, I'm sure you won't mind if I excuse myself for a few moments, would you?
I believe I require a bit of freshening up after that scenario unfolded in my mind and henceforth, upon the page.
Please, talk amongst yourselves as you await my return.
I don't want either one. A so called "strong independent woman" is usually anything but and is just trying to mask her insecurity and failures through a thin veneer of machismo, ironically being the very kind of "toxic masculinity" she claims exists and is bad. I also don't want a submissive, demure housewife, either.
Honestly, I want a woman who is feminine and girly, but also mentally strong and capable, and can handle her own. I hesitate to bring up her name, but @Aerissa_Jade on here is kind of what I mean by someone feminine, but still mentally strong. Of course, we're way too different and incompatible to have chemistry like that, but there are women out there who are still feminine without being "weak" or submissive, like so many insecure women think femininity automatically is.
So yeah, screw "strong independent women" who peacock as wanna-be "Alpha Males" because of their feminist paranoia about men.
And I don't want a weak damsel-in-distress, either.
In my opinion submissive doesn't mean apathetic. In my opinion, it sounded like that's what you were trying to say. And I also don't think the word "strong" is the correct word... I feel like by using that we put things into boxes. Humans are more complicated than that. And you express this in your last paragraph.
In my opinion, the post tells me more about how you think than anything. Submissive women can be sexy but you only attached that to strong women. And also in my opinion the strongest people (mentally) often appear the most submissive and the most submissive people appear the most strongest.
Even your description of a strong women, in my opinion, is not black and white. For example, you said something about strong women can be a lot to handle. In my opinion, that is not a strong woman then. And I think that is what @NerdInDenial was trying to say.
A strong women would be courteous and would not need to be handled because she can handle herself. Being with a strong women is peaceful.
A strong woman is submissive to wisdom. For example, "treat others how you want to be treated" A strong woman would treat/respond to a callous person with kindness and if she could not do so she would separate herself from that person without reacting. Those two examples are standing up for yourself, in my eyes. But many people I'm sure would say being strong is retaliating.
Thanks for commenting. Yes, my post speaks of how I think. That’s why I’m asking how others think so I can remain open minded! And I’m truly interested in how other people tic!!!
Submissive can be sexy, I never said it couldn’t. I did say that I welcome the opportunity to have my turn at being submissive sometimes. But that I must first trust another person enough to temporarily relinquish all control.
Strong secure women can at times to certain people be a lot to handle even when they’re compassionate and deeply understanding. Some people are so insecure and indecisive they can’t comprehend the sacrifices it sometimes takes to stay determined true to one’s self and one’s morals.
Keep in mind, there are also some men that prefer their women to follow them without questioning. To each his/her own but I’d like to see if that old school type of thought still actually exists. I’m for total equality. Offer, accept and repeat!!!
Yes. I would honestly prefer that. I want my relationship to be built on love. Not a woman who can’t do anything for herself and I have to walk around with a bad picking up her poop all day and wiping her ass.
I would also appreciate the levels she would go through to be happy and successful and not expect me to do that for her. As well as also help me in life.
Now. Not that I would date a woman for money. But it’s also kind of a plus. I don’t know why some men refuse to date or marry a woman with more money if she’s giving him a chance.
If a woman out of my league in any way wanted me… that would be a ego boost more then anything. I know that does not sound good either. I have my own flaws in life.
I like a strong woman. It’s attractive. NOT a controlling woman. Not a leftist woman who says stupid shit but isn’t really. But a woman whose legitimately strong. As well as sexy.
It’s a true honor when someone’s totally independent and wants you to be apart of their life. They need you because they love you. Not because they want you to pay the light bill and their expensive shit.
As far as being dominate and submissive. I think this stuff gets into mental retardation at some point. Everyone has their own preferences to what degree of that to go one way or the other or if they want to at all…. But this is another subject.
I believe in soulmates. I think everyone has one perfect person for them.
Does it intimidate me sometimes? Yeah. But in a good way lol.
It’s about love, respect, and trust. A woman like you explained is someone much better for me.
Would I have preferred a submissive woman? You ask that as if sexy and submissive are direct opposites like tall/short, easy going/high strung, thin/overweight... etc.
Submissive has nothing to do with sexy.
I'm sure most men prefer submissive women... whether they know it or not. Most women want to submit... whether they know it or not.
Meaning, men are naturally leaders and most women want a strong man they can count on and lean on and who makes decisions. They want a voice and for him to listen to her and conceded to her from time to time if she knows better in some area or if she feels particularly strong about something women don't want to have to wear the pants and make all the decisions and lead a relationship. Women want strong men who lead and make them feel safe and who they can lean on and count on.
On the same token, men are attracted to femininity and they aren't attracted to masculine energy. A loud, ball-breaking, competitive woman who always wants to take control and lead the dating relationship isn't attractive to the majority of men. Women are naturally more agreeable more than not.
I'm not sure why you pose it as if a woman is either sexy or submissive as if those two things are tied together and are direct opposites of one another.
I'm gonna make something very clear. If a man rejects you, it's not because they are "intimidated".
See, I'm a man who is both assertive and confident. I'm a dominant man and I take charge, that's just how I am. It will not make sense for me to go with someone who is equally as disagreeable as I am, because we WILL clash, and someone will have to concede. Believe me, that person will not be me.
Therefore, to save everyone the headache I will go for someone who is more agreeable and teachable, because it becomes major decisions become smoother and easier to make, and every strategic move is considered through a discussion rather than a debate. That does not mean that a submissive woman is an airhead that doesn't have her own opinions, and she is very capable of communicating her opinions to me so we can discuss them. However, she understands that the final decision that precedes the discussion is mine to make, after hearing her side of the story and she accepts that. It could mean that I can hear her out and change my mind, or stick to my original choice after rationalizing both and coming to a conclusion that my idea was better. Regardless of that, she understands and accepts my role is the head of the household and does not try to argue.
The word "intimidated" is used to shame men who are unapologetic about their preference for women who are agreeable. Strong men are not intimidated by any woman or man for that matter, they are simply not attracted to women that have masculine features. If you want a man who doesn't have a problem with the way you behave, I would suggest that you go for men who are more passive and less assertive and you would not have any issues.
Haha. I really hope this post is a joke. The final decision is yours to make. Hahahahahahahahahahahahahjahahahahahjajahjajajajajajjajajahajahh too funny!!! Have a good night! And thanks I needed that laugh!!!
Side note…I don’t get rejected…I only establish a connection with someone who is mutually interested. If initial magnetism and chemistry is lacking then I define them only as a friend. Rejection is for those who chase another person, but that’s a waste of time in my eyes. Either you connect at first meet or you don’t and your friends. End of story!!! Take care!!! 💗
Also, I hope you don’t think it’s acceptable to start a conversation with a woman with “I’m gonna make this very clear”. Hahaha.
1) Are you my father? Because adults do not speak to each other in such a manner. Welcome to the modern era. 2) Are you King of some island I will never ever visit? 3) You can not actually think that highly of those you so called “love” if you treat them more as your pet that your partner.
You’re only 20 and already think you’re decisions should over rule that of a woman’s. Why, because you have a cock? Wow!!! Rights are earned not premature ejaculated. Haha. Life has some much needed lessons in store for you!!!
What I expected. See, we call your tactic S. I. G. N. language (Shame, insults, guilt and the need to be right). You have not attacked the argument, you have attacked the person behind the argument, which tells me you have thin skin.
I brought up my decision-making and decisiveness as an example of qualities than can be reliable for a leader, and you brought up my penis? How dumb can one really be to go from one to the other? I'm not gonna go over my personal life, but let's just say I'm happy with where I am and constantly improving on the daily. Yes, I'm 20 which is why I'm not looking for a permanent relationship before I'm settled, but I will carry the same principles with me when I'm ready, so your argument has no merit.
Same could be said about you. You're almost 40 and out of your prime, and out here talking about "strong and sexy women". Oh please, are you trying to convince yourself or other people with that nonsense? This notion has nothing to do with not being for women's rights, since I never stated that a man should force a woman to submit, rather selectively pick a woman that is willing to follow him in his journey. That goes against women's rights? So women do not have a choice to be submissive then? Are they not the "right kind" of women if they are? Ma'am you need to grow up and start acting your age already, 7th grader insults do not work in a debate.
Very well thank you. Your answer shows your age. I think a mail order bride or a blow up doll would suit you well!!! Adam and Eve is having a sale right now…. would you like me to send you a link? Lol
You ladies need to stop using the term "intimidation" in this context. Men are no more intimidated by "strong" women than women are intimidated by effeminate men. It's about attraction and desirability, not intimidation.
Most of the characteristics you think of as "strong" are naturally masculine in nature. I know that will ruffle some feathers but it's a fact of human nature. And most men are not attracted by masculinity.
And what do you envision when you think of an effeminate man? His personality is soft and feminine, right? Do you find that attractive? Chances are you don't, because you are attracted to masculinity, not femininity.
I know this seem to be a hard pill for modern women to swallow, but you can't redefine masculinity and femininity to suit your needs. You can't fight against mother nature and expect to win.
Most men prefer feminine women. That doesn't mean we are intimidated by masculine women; we just don't find them desireable.
There is something so beautiful about a confident happy smart intelligent calm woman with a very beautiful heart who can also be soft innocent and can smile with her eyes the body her facial expressions and her smile they know who she is and what she wants and has the confidence in the will to do it and do it with your mind or body your soul her spirit her energy and she so very peaceful and giving and she knows where she comes from and she holds it all close to her heart and doesn't push it on anyone but in who own way teaches with love
I prefer a strong sexy woman that doesn’t feel the need to be outwardly strong all of the time but has no problem putting anyone in their place. I am dominant by nature in the bedroom and more passive in a casual setting. I am ok with a woman being smarter than me or more extroverted and even more successful. I have found that ultimately most women whether strong or submissive like to be dominated. Maybe take control is a better way of saying it but either way it’s best when you can give them what they want even if they didn’t know it. Sometimes it’s about being sensual and passionate and sometimes it’s about lusting for each other.
The issue isn't Strong Sexy Woman. Some women that slap the strong label on themselves think it means acting like a bitch. So they end up a lot like many guys walking around calling themselves Alpha Males. They both can wind up a very, very far ways away attempting to present themselves as.
I agree too many toxic women and men write their overbearing personalities off as strength and determination.
There’s nothing wrong with being strong-minded and strong-willed as long as long it’s coated in self-awareness. Being strong means standing up for what you believe in but never at the expense of others.
I am sure not an amazon chaser, but I find a strong woman interesting, a strong woman can be intimidating to her man's ego, because a man usually prefer to be stronger than the woman that he date, otherwise he might feel emasculated. I think that both strong women and submissive women have advantages and disadvantages, with submissive woman usually being a safer bet for a man.
I think that I don’t have a preference either way as long as the strong woman is not too strong for myself. Strong women tend to be less needy, so yea it might be seen as more of a feat if a strong woman is interested in a man. A strong woman might not want to be in control in bedroom? where's the fun in that? yea it not uncommon for strong women to be 'aggressive submissive', I am aware of that.
Being willing to set and achieve goals doesn't intimidate me. But it's not enough to keep me excited. A submissive woman is nice, provided she isn't useless outside the sack.
For me, it's attitude. If she's an achiever, but kind and humble, I dig that. If not such a successful go-getter, but she builds the home rather than destroys it, I can settle for that.
If she's an insufferable bitch, I don't get intimidated. But let's just say, my bratwurst turns to string mozzarella, and doesn't revert until I get away from her.
What would get me intimidated, is if she suddenly starts acting completely batshit crazy.
Nobody is “intimidated” by strong women. That’s just an excuse some women tell themselves to explain why they can’t make friends and get more than casual sex. Ell oh ell! When a man can’t get some, he’s an “incel”. When a woman can’t, she’s “intimidating”. Hahahaha!!! No, she’s still an incel. We just have some kind of bizarre aversion to admitting women can be jerks just like guys. If you don’t know you have a problem, you can’t do anything to correct it. Stop blowing smoke up people’s booty holes! Ell oh ell!
Hmmmm…. I’m a strong woman and have never had a problem getting a date.
My guy friends always tell me they’re in love with me and it’s so sweet but also kind of sucks. I love my friends immensely, as I should since I’ve known many of them for over 20 years. I want to see them happy so it bothers me when I don’t reciprocate the love they feel in the same way they feel it.
I have a motto that I tell my children often. “Be the hero”. I think some people are intimidated by someone, a strong woman or man, that constantly takes on the burdens of others without breaking. What would overwhelm many acts as fuel for the strongest to be stronger. That’s quite the set of shoes to fill and yes that can be intimidating for some, especially those with a “good enough” approach to life.
That being said…I have many friends that appreciate and admire my strength and determination! I have always had the capacity as well as any opportunity I chose to pursue a serious relationship. Casual sex is not really my thing.
I think you should associate with more strong-confident women before placing judgement. Strength is beautiful and positive!!
I read posts like yours without irritation, just confusion and concern towards your close minded outlook.
No! I will welcome and appreciate the challenge knowing that her level and capabilities enhances and being out the best in me in being the man I ought to strive to be.
As the saying goes behind every strong guy is a strong willed woman...😁😁
I chose C; I really don't have a preference. But I'm not intimidated if she is strong and sexy. A woman with confidence, direction, purpose, and knowledge of what she does and doesn't want is a wonderful thing.
As a strong woman, myself.. Of course I'm going to go for that option.. When I met my partner, I think that he thought that he would prefer a more submissive woman, but he's coming to love who/how I am.. And I love that about him!! 🥹❤️
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