Can you all give me some advice?

[Anonymous]

Last week I was hanging out with some friends at this club. I started talking to this really beautiful blonde (I'll call her Lisa, not her real name) I'd never seen before. Well after a few hours (not dragging out details), we ended up sneaking out to the parking lot and we had sex in her car. It was really great when Lisa left she didn't give me her number but I thought I'd just see her here again sometime.

Here is where the problem comes in. Yesterday, I went over to visit my older sister. She told me our cousin that we haven't seen in years is in town and is on his way over. When he got there he came in alone at first. Then told us he wanted us to meet his new wife, they had a small wedding with just their parents there a few months ago and he was moving them here cause he'd just started a night shift job a few weeks ago.

We were both surprised but when he brought her into the room I nearly passed out. Lisa who I had sex with outside the club last week was my cousin's wife. When she saw me her eyes got wide and she didn't know what to say. At first, my sister just asked all the normal questions (how did you meet, etc). As they talked there was a moment when my sister and my cousin were both looking away. I looked over at Lisa, she got a stern look on her face and just shook her head "no."

Now the problem is, I feel bad enough knowing I did it with my cousin's wife last week, but I didn't know it at the time. If she would hook up with me that fast, how many other nights has my cousin been at work and Lisa been out banging some random guy behind his back?

If I tell him she was cheating on him, he will want to know how I know. Saying I know cause she cheated on him with me is not going to go over well, to say the least.

Well, I'll leave it at that now, please no trolls.

[ManOnFire]

Well. If this story really is true, and I've heard ones like this before, you can do one of two things:

Keep the secret between you and 'Lisa' but don't have anymore contact with her (physically anyway).

Or, you could be brutally honest and tell your cousin that his wife had sex with you one night at a club but that you had no idea she was his wife until you met her. This of course will create massive conflict but your honesty would also save him from more heartbreak by letting him know that his wife is a cheater.

It's up to you.

[Asker]

I wish I was making it up. That is my main concern now, yes me and her talked for hours and I thought really bonded but I know now a lot of what she told me at the clubs was at most half-truths. (She claimed to be single, and she just moved to town cause SHE got a new job. She did get a new job here but only after my cousins.) The point being, at the time I remember thinking that was the fastest I had ever talked my way into a girl's pants. I never intended to hurt ANYONE, least of all my cousin, but what I have done is done. I don't know how to break what she is doing to him before he ends up catching her "in the act" or ends up raising some other guy's kid thinking it's his. (I'm not even sure she's not pregnant by me after last week.)

[ManOnFire]

Pretty bad situation, yeah. And from what you describe she is pretty slimy too. It's a hard case, but I might lean ever so slightly to committing suicide by being truthful with your cousin and letting him know what happened and that you simply can't live with yourself knowing she would hurt him like that. At the most you'll be hated by her, and maybe hated by him because he probably will be in denial, but at least you know your conscience is clean and if later on down the road she cheats on him again and he finds out, he can't say you were wrong.

[Guy13]

None of your Business. Move on and stay out of their affairs. you will be the cause of their demise and the family SOB. She had a ring on?

[Asker]

Thanks for the pointless attack, but to answer the question, no didn't have any rings on when I saw her at the club. The only jewelry she had on was a matching necklace and bracelet.

[Guy13]

Why ask you little baby. You're wrong to involve yourself in someone else's Business. You have done enough.

[Bethany22]

Keep it a secret. Maybe it was just a one time off

[Asker]

I hope it was a one-time thing. My cousin is a really nice person, I wouldn't want to see him hurt.

[In_Trance]

Move on