What questions did you ask your date on the first date and what did you conclude about your date based on their answers?

[Bethany22]

Were the questions you asked just ones that you thought off the top of your head nervously, or did you come to the date with specific questions to see whether it was worth moving forward or not? In terms of their answers, did you just take their answers at face value, or did their answers provide you with more information about the person than they were intended to give (due to the person either being an over sharer or because you read between the lines)?

[abc3643]

You know, I never had a "first date", really.
The women I was with just sort of happened.

The closest thing to this though was a young lady that I fell madly in love with 32 years ago and wanted to marry. It's because of the conversation that we had that sparked my interest in her. While she was beautiful, I came to realize she was highly intelligent and not bitchy and that triggered me in a way I hadn't been since 1971.

[Anonymous]

I like to ask how they'd define the word "family." It's pretty non invasive, but I get a general idea of whether they are on good terms with their relatives (past tense "always"/heritage type answers), whether they have a close group of friends (chosen/loyalty answers), or whether they are already thinking about starting their own ("create" or "pass down" type answers).

[Guy13]

I never ask questions as that is what 4 to 11 year olds do. Drop a line or two and let the “Ball of Emotions” unwind itself with assistance of intuit company. 🍸 🫒 🍸:🫒 recommended dosage… If the clutch and gear shifting are moving in congruence then one more 👩🏻 🍸 for quality ride 🏎. 🏡

[Bethany22]

What do you mean questions are what 4 to 11 year olds do? I can't believe you're bragging about being a social retard

[AviatorTom]

Our first date was small-talk: Where do you live? What do you do for a living? What do you think about this area? Ask a couple probing questions, and their answers typically lead you to ask more questions?

[Lliam]

I never approached dates as if they were job interviews. All I was looking for was a girlfriend, not a hook up and not necessarily a wife. The possibility that our relationship might turn into a lifetime commitment was always a possibility, but reaching that point was too far off for me to worry about.

My idea of a girlfriend was a female best friend. We like each other a lot, enjoy each other's company, going places and doing things together, holding hands, cuddling, chatting and confiding in each other. We develop infatuation and become exclusive. Then, as time goes on, we get to know each other better and better.

Another factor for me was, I wasn't desperate to start a family.

I never had a list of prepared questions or interviewed anyone, male or female, before becoming their friend. If we got along, that was good enough. Our level of friendship might develop or decline in time, but that's just the nature of human interaction. I didn't treat dates/potential girlfriends any differently.

All I cared about was if she was pretty and we got along well enough on the first date to schedule another. Of course we would assess each other. I'd take in her appearance - hair, skin, taste in grooming and attire. I'd notice her voice, manners, quirks, sense of humor, wit and intelligence. We might talk about work, school, our parents, siblings, family life, hobbies, passions, etc. Along the way, we'd learn about each other's hopes for the future, as well as values. But that's just conversation.

I we continued to date and became exclusive, we would learn more about each other's families, past, habits, attitudes, behaviors, lifestyles, work ethic, sexuality, etc. l think two people have to be in a committed relationship for quite a while before they can get a clear picture of a partner.

I always believed that marriage was a one time thing, the most important commitment I would ever make. So I wanted to be as certain as possible about my choice. Engaging in relationships was the way I searched. I was also a way of learning about myself and gaining more life experience and maturity. Having girlfriend was certainly not a waste of time. Each one was a cherished gift.

The lives of many I know followed a similar trajectory, although almost everyone got married earlier than I did and started families. Many of those marriages didn't last.

After having several girlfriends, beginning at age 16, I finally met my future wife when I was 40. She is 2.5 years younger. We had both had full lives before we met. We've been married now for 26 years and look forward to spending the rest of our lives together.

[TroyDT2]

I just try to make her comfortable and get to know her likes and dislikes, what makes her "her." The questions are dictated by how open she is, but are always low pressure and geared towards seeing if we have potential.

[FunkyMonkee]

"What's Bill gonna say when he finds out we're fucking?"
"It doesn't matter. I'm divorcing him because he beats me!"

[ArtemisSilver]

I like to ask a few mundane questions and then sneak in something lewd in a flat tone very quickly to see their reaction. Then just segway quickly back to small talk

[Twalli]

So I only date friends. Therefore a lot of basic things are out of the way. Name, age, birthday, particular likes/dislikes. Because of this I usually don't ask questions on the first date. The second date is where I ask questions, and they're big ones.
1) Do you plan on getting married (not to me, just in general)?
2) Are you a virgin? (If so) Are you waiting for marriage?

[ArrowheadSW]

Funny I don't really ask all that many questions on a first date. Mainly just "talk" without asking questions. Maybe ask about their work or the hobbies they are into, if I do ask questions.

[Anonymous]

Lol, my first date talked so much I don't remember really getting 2 words in.

I try to take everyone at thier word. When someone tells you something, then another and another. And it's hard to swallow that's when you start to question them (non verbally). It's the old saying "if you lie to me once you've proven you're a liar, and then how can I assume anything you're telling me is the truth". Women who lie are a QUICK turnoff to me.

[DJB72]

The only question I remember asking was if she'd marry me.

We'd been in contact for six months or just over by the time we finally went on a date. We knew each other pretty well although I think I still surprised her

[Noahzaid]

I was really young at that time lol

It was the known “what was your favorite colour” type of scenario😂

conclusion isn’t something a kid would think about.

[Guardian45]

It's been ages since I was on first date, but as I recall, I am usually pretty smitten on the first date and I probably ask a LOT of dumb Qs!

[FunnyGiy]

I usually just like talking and seeing where the conversation goes.

[BJP21]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/jpvkUdMu60A

This ^^^^ LOL

[pizzalovershouse]

Intrest in music clothes food hobbies learn personality

[Hulk30]

i don't go out on dates with women until i fuck em first because dates are expensive and is a waste of energy and time on maybe connections

[Anonymous]

I asked her if she had a high sex drive. When she said "not really", I knew that was our first and last date. See ya.

[Jennz6]

I don’t date