How many dates a year do you go on? Also, how many people do you actually date until you find someone you like?

[poneglyphs]

I probably go on like 1 date per year, and I rarely talk to any real women. The only women I talk too are people from work and or family. I still haven't been on any dates at all this year, is that normal 😕

All, I do is work, sleep, exercise when I'm not tired, and play games or go out with my friends. Doesn't help that I'm a weeb and a nerd. I do like going to concerts and eating outside 😋.

Am I just wasting my life by not dating or having relationships? I never had an actual relationship or a girlfriend? Also, still a virgin 🥺

[RealMarek]

I dated maybe four or five women, some once and others several times, until I found my match. I didn’t have sex with any of the ones I didn’t end up with, and I’m happy about that even though it was tough to wait for a few years post-divorce. I go on maybe a quick lunch date now and then and very rarely out during the evening because we’re pretty much tied down by the kids.

[poneglyphs]

Oh, really how did you meet them?

[RealMarek]

Through work and on a dating site.

[poneglyphs]

Oh. Well for me dating apps don't work and most of the women at work are taken

[OlderAndWiser]

Before I got into a relationship, I had one or two dates every weekend. Since my divorce in 2015, I have had at least a first date with probably 35-0 different women.

[poneglyphs]

Wtf for real 😳
I barely get responses or get dates.

[OlderAndWiser]

Maybe you are just going about it wrong.

First, online dating is different than meeting women in person. You need to understand the differences.

Next, you need a profile that sells yourself without being arrogant.

Then, you need approprate photos that show you as mature but fun.

Next, you need to know how to compose a message to a potential lady to get her attention.

Finally, you need to know when to push forward for an initial face-to-face meeting.

[poneglyphs]

Oh, well for me most of the time most women rarely talk to me online or only want me to subscribe to their Onlyfans. I rarely get dates online and been trying for years on and off 😕

Never really worked out for me

[OlderAndWiser]

Did you ever ask anyone for help?

[poneglyphs]

I did but it wasn't like I still gotten any results just more ghosting 😕

[OlderAndWiser]

Maybe you should consult a dating coach.

[poneglyphs]

Maybe but I don't know where to look for one or even if I will available for him. I'm working like 50 hours a week at my job

[OlderAndWiser]

@coachTanthony Can you help?

[coachTanthony]

Someone summon me? Lol

[coachTanthony]

My question would be... are you happy? If so then who cares what others think. If however you really want someone in your life then you need to make time for it as you do the gym and video games. Its' really a YOU issue and what you WANT not what others think.

[poneglyphs]

@coachTanthony how do I fix this issue then because I'm still not going on any dates or talking to anyone. I have just been working my butt off and getting home exhausted.

[coachTanthony]

Why are you exhausted? How many hours do you work? You can’t do much of anything if your exhausted all the time. Dating takes a lot of time and energy.

[poneglyphs]

@coachTanthony like 50 hours per week and other things I do around the house

[OlderAndWiser]

Thank for MHO!

[coachTanthony]

Dude you're 27 50 hours a week should be nothing for a youngster like you unless it's physical in nature. Dating takes time and effort. Can you make time? Do you want to put in the effort? Dating has to be more important then video games and these other things around the house. You will need to sacrifice some of this stuff in order to date and get what you want but I still haven't heard that you really want this... all you are saying is you're so busy. Can you elaborate a bit on why finding someone is so important?

[poneglyphs]

@coachTanthony i work in a warehouse environment and I do deal with lots of boxes from all sizes. I play games mostly on the weekends and sleep early on the weekday like 8 pm. I enter for OT at 5 am so I wake up at 3:40 am.

[coachTanthony]

@poneglyphs Is that not enough? Sounds like a fun filled life to me? I don't see where you even have the time for a girlfriend if you were given one as a present. Would you agree?

[poneglyphs]

@coachTanthony i see what you mean but I just want someone to talk to when I get home or on my day's off I go on dates. I'm just working a lot because I can and I'm doing it for more money.

[coachTanthony]

@poneglyphs I saw in another comment you said dating apps don't work. Why do they work for so many others but not you? Where is the disconnect?

[poneglyphs]

@coachTanthony I don't know 😕 guess I'm not pretty enough for them or attractive for them

[coachTanthony]

@poneglyphs Do you have a profile up now?

[poneglyphs]

@coachTanthony no a I deleted all of my dating apps. I stopped using them since march.

[coachTanthony]

@poneglyphs If you decide to get back on let me know and I'll be happy to take a look and see what might be the issue. Other than that I wish you the best of luck. Need to make some time for that dating dude. It's take time and energy!

[poneglyphs]

@coachTanthony thanks but I don't think I will besides I got tired of getting ghosted or stood up on dating apps

[Avicenna]

You shouldn't compare yourself to others- everyone is different. Just become the person you want to be and take up some hobbies women might like you for, like dancing or playing a musical instrument.

[poneglyphs]

Oh, really well, I feel tired and just sleep or shower and hop on my pj's after work 😴

[LazerBean]

I talked to 4 guys before I found one I thought was compatible enough to date, and ended up marrying him.

[exitseven]

When I would have a steady girlfriend I would have dates frequently at least every week. Otherwise it could be months apart.