Did I self sabotage?

[Anonymous]

So I just ended it with this guy I was talking to. In the beginning he made me feel so happy and special and reassured me. For the past month, I’ve been fighting a feeling of him not being consistent. He stopped tagging me in relationship based posts, he wasn’t direct with compliments, I told him I missed him and he didn’t say it back. I addressed to him twice already that the way he was treating me was off. He basically said he’s not changing him but he doesn’t have any changed feelings towards me. Fast forward to this week, me and him were supposed to go on a date this Saturday and not once did he bring up the date the whole night. I decided to end things because I felt like at this point I’m being taken for granted. Did I self sabotage?

[Anonymous]

I don't think you should second guess yourself. If he made you feel that way, you have every right to feel that he is taking you for granted. You voiced your concern and he didn't try harder that's a sign he wasn't worth your time. You have him that chance to change and try harder and he didn't do it. You should have a guy in your life that tries. If he acted like that barely into the relationship I can't imagine how it would have been further down into the future. He sounds lazy and a lazy guy will always be hurting you and being inconsiderate with your emotions. I say forget about him. You made the right decision. Make sure to do a lot of self care during this time of healing. Don't blame yourself but also try to forgive him if you can and then eventually move on. Good luck! :)

[Asker]

You are absolutely correct and I left him behind for good. Gave him everything back that was his including everything he gave me during our memories

[DevikaButts95]

Didn't we talk about this on a different question?

You convinced me by the end he was not giving you the energy you need back. I don't really think you could've done more, so it's not self sabotage

[Random_g]

Maybe, because what seems for us girls that them "changing" can be just them "getting tired" after trying to fit in with our energy to please us so maybe it was this case with him and he just needed some rest and spoiling but instead you pushed more pressure... Or maybe your sixth sense is correct and he is not into you anymore, only you can tell.

[watercolor_lions]

It doesn't sound like you self-sabotaged. It sounds like you just recognized that he was losing interest and instead of waiting around, you took initiative. I don't really blame you.

[dustybiker]

Sounds like he was wasting your time. Or cruising. This choice frees you up to find someone better.

[Guy13]

It seems like it.

[DevikaButts95]

The fuck?

[Guy13]

@DevikaButts95 No one cares about you DevikaButts95-go away !!