What can a 5’3” man do to become dateable?

Question

It is my understanding that height is a big deal to women when looking for a man. As a 5’3” man I constantly hear or I’m told from women how they wouldn’t date a guy my height.

Is there anything a 5’3” guy can do to become a high value person that women want to be with despite his height? Not just despite it, but because she loves him and his height?

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

I was literally thinking about this today, regarding myself.

I don't want to Blackpill you, but the answer is "nothing. Literally nothing you can do." I'm not as short as you; I have eight more inches, but I'm still in the "Fail" zone and I'm in the same predicament as you.

If you're not six feet minimum, you are 100% SOL.

I could tell you to just make money and become rich, but we both know no woman is going to love you for being rich and all you'll get is gold diggers. Plus, simping ain't cool or masculine. If she can't like you for free, she'll never like you.

The best thing I can tell you is to move on with your life, stop being upset about something you were screwed out of, find a way to make your own happiness, without a woman. That's what I'm doing right now. Any guy under six feet is equally hopeless in finding love nowadays, especially with so many women out there being complete b*tches, gold diggers, lesbians, e-whores, or biological men.

This is how most straight modern women view men. They'll never admit it, though.

As tall guys have said on here (@chitown33, @hahahmm), even they find most women today to be undateable, selfish trash and compared it to having a key that unlocks a sewage plant, as opposed to us short guys not having the key, but wanting to get into the sewage plant anyway.

The truth hurts, but the truth can also set you free.

TL;DR: Dating is sh*t nowadays for men, even if guys like us weren't short, so move beyond it and work on yourself instead.

msc545 · Accepted Answer

you could get limb lengthening surgery:

https://www.healthline.com/health/bone-health/surgery-to-get-taller

But it is still unlikely to satisfy women who really want men who are 6' and up.

If you instead move to southeast Asia (like Vietnam) the women there are not as picky about this as Westen women are.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Find short women I guess. They're more likely to not mind. I'd date you if I wasn't taken and you weren't most likely across the country, and I'm short. But, for other advice, when I don't like someone, I usually end up liking them if they treat me well, show interest in me as person, and respect me as an equal, or a superior, but equal is probably a better choice. Having money and a good job does help, but you probably want women to like you for who you are, and not how much cool stuff you can buy them, I'd recommend pursuing financial goals for yourself and not for women. Money does help though. Personally, I don't care much about money, I just think it's kinda cool. Being physically fit also almost always helps. I would find a 5'3 man with a nice body pretty attractive, and very attractive if he has good hair, I don't know if that's uncommon though. Confidence, as annoying as that advice is, also helps. And, if you're confident, you can feel like you're good enough without having to date someone, which makes the wait easier. That's what I personally think, I'd find you dateable anyway, but I figured you want advice.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

At first glance, the tall guy will get my attention but there are things short guys can do that make them more attractive than tall guys. I will list some that worked for me

1 - One guy was very altruistic and confident and was always looking for ways to help others so I liked him even though he was very very short.

2 - One guy was very smart and compassionate. He had a phd from an Ivy League school.

3 - One guy was very funny and filled my heart with so much joy and laughter and I felt like I could trust him to never hurt or harm me.

4 - One guy was very honest and logical and was a very very very just person who defended my rights and would interfere with my desires if they contradicted the values of the business even though he considered me a good friend of his. Very honest guy.

5 - One guy was short but very hard working, and had a gorgeous face. Very considerate. He would ask for permission before eating in front of me because he did not want to be rude.

coachTanthony · Answer

Get some of those lifts to put in your sneakers lol. Get in the gym, make some cash, and be confident like a lion. Everyone has to play the cards they were dealt whether that is height, hair loss, bad skin, etc etc.

Avicenna · Answer

Develop talents like musical ability, foreign language skills or dancing skills that will make shorter women want to date you.

exitseven · Answer

5'3" is not an insurmountable obstacle to become dateable. your attitude about ti will be the obstacle. You are just as big as everyone else. I knew girls who were really tall, taller than most of the boys. Some of them would slouch and try to look shorter. One that I thought was really beautiful was proud of her height and would stand up straight and just love herself the way she was. You need to get it out of your head that you are somehow deficient. Be the best version of yourself that you can be and just know that you are just as good as everyone else.

JDAC092299 · Answer

The height in my area of men is like 6ft and above is average I’m 5’9 not that short or in that premium height range however I workout, have a progressive career and I like to think I’m a bit of a dick at times but most of the time I’m pretty decent and I don’t find it too hard to find partners. I think height is a factor but it’s not the be all end all. It is for some women tho and that’s fine I’m not after the 4ft chubby midget who wants a 6ft king I’m after the kinda women who see’s the bigger picture and connects with me. My best advice is do all of the above, Work on yourself, Work hard and try new hobbies that you’re interested in and someone will walk into your life eventually and hey if not your life should be fulfilling enough to boost your self esteem and let you enjoy life. There’s more to it than just searching for the one. I understand it gets hard and lonely at points but it’s all part of the journey. Strong adversity creates even stronger people who overcome them 👌

Anonymous · Answer

He doesn't have to do anything to change. He just has to find the right girl. I'm 5'4 and I would date a guy who's 5'3. Height isn't an issue for me I would date a guy shorter than me.

You need to avoid the shallow types, if they're shallow about height then they might be shallow about a lot of other things.

I just think if you are a good person and you treat her right, then that's all that matters. Height doesn't matter. Why do you need to change things about yourself to make you seem more dateable? Thats absured!

If you need to do that just to find a woman then i feel like she's not worth your time. Why be with someone you have to jump through hoops for to keep them interested? There are kind girls out there that don't care and I'll pray for you so you'll find her! Good luck and don't settle. :)

SpringValley · Answer

I read every reply, and I must say, there are some really stupid people on this site.

You know for a fact that height matters, so having someone tell you a lie, is a waste of time.

My friend, you have two choices in life...

1. Curse the darkness

2. Light a candle

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lightbulb27 · Answer

develop an amazing personality, wit and ability to emotionally connect and live with passion.

that will work... then go to places where the women dont like their options and would do anything to get out... and take your pick.

it ain't that complicated...

Angryfrog · Answer

Find women with a more mature outlook, instead of girls who assess you by your height.
Though you have to do your end of the bargain too, which is purposely not care about your height and tell your date how good she looks in her heels (even if she's taller)

Anonymous · Answer

You are screwed for life , no one's actually gonna love you for who you are. They may love you for your money though. Don't try the hobbies, smartness kinda way, it's way worse to women. Short and nerdy are killers. A lot of cool short guys still get women.

I am 5'6", have many hobbies , work hard , is very smart , have many artistic and intellectual hobbies , speak 6 languages. Still it never matters to anyone, all they say to me is that you are short , then they date men without any qualities but is tall.

I never had a girlfriend , I do get bad treaents from women all the time. What can you do? Life isn't fair. I spend a lot of the free time doing charities and helping people/animals , at least that what makes me happy. Those people are always greatful to little help in their life.

HighValue · Answer

Go for tall women that are taller than 5' 10". The tall men will be going for the short women, so you can decrease the competition by going for the tall women. If you don't want kids you could go for women 35+ since they have MUCH fewer options for actual relationships.

slatyb · Answer

Be nice, and funny as hell. Anne Bancroft (5-10) married Mel Brooks (5-5). Afyer getting to know someone we often find that that are more attractive than we thought when we first saw them. So be a mensch, and participate in activities that allows you to meet single women.

sheenagwapa · Answer

be confident... dress like a confident man. women wear heels men can also wear something to help with his height even if it's just a bit. but that's just optional

it's really hard to explain what a confident man looks like but i can tell whwn i see one

Wicked_Witch · Answer

5’3” is tall to me. It is a good height for me so I don’t have to look up so high. There are some women who would reject you for that and some who wouldn’t. All you can do is move on from the ones that do.
Working on yourself is the best thing you can do for yourself.

Anonymous · Answer

Become wealthy I guess. I understand what you are going through. I'm 6ft6 and women will date me regardless of anything, even the most liberal feminist will date and hook up with me because of my height despite me being a staunch conservative with views they consider as sexist. My current girl is 4ft10, she wouldn't consider ever dating a guy that's under 6ft

UniquelyBasic · Answer

I dont think height is as high a priority for women as some people think it is to a point. For you though you may have to be exceptional in other areas like money, looks and have a great personality.

rachel776 · Answer

i'm 5'3 we could be salt & pepper shakers

Berethor · Answer

Become rich and find a gold digger, but she would still likely to cheat with a tall man.

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

Stop thinking about people as if they have value based off trivial things. You're a human, be a decent one and have hobbies that's all people look for in the end

Anonymous · Answer

If it makes you feel any better: Tall guys aren't having much more luck in dating.

Besides being tall can be seen as a broken filter. It'll attract height diggers the same way money attracts gold diggers. These are the exact type of women I want to avoid.

It's good to be either height, so make use of it and whatever you do DO NOT see being short/tall as a curse. Buckle up, go out and slay. It's the only thing to do.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Date girls who are around 5 foot and you will still have an edge on them.

SaoirseS · Answer

My 5'2" - 5'3" husband sitting next to me says maybe find an undertaker with a couple of dogs.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Women who care about height are low value, they typically care about money and social status as well, and are looking to marry and then divorce.

suzzieQ · Answer

Be a good honest person, humble, confident but not arrogant, have a good sense of humor, drive, and integrity.

Anonymous · Answer

Coke into a lot of money or hope that his has a donkey dick or some good cunnilingus skills. Why do you think all them hoes are getting banged by Pete Davidson?

dustybiker · Answer

Obtain and hold onto an approachable and friendly attitude.

Random_g · Answer

I don't know.. Maybe look for girls shorter than him?

Anonymous · Answer

This again? A lot of women don't care!

John_Doesnt · Answer

Visit countries where people are generally shorter.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

There's nothing you can do really except going for really short girls...

Twalli · Answer

Not quite as short as you, but I got a girlfriend by being the type of guy every girl wants in personality, and meaning it.

Teriyaki70 · Answer

If you're not shitting your pants daily, or rude to everyone, or a drug addict you will find dates.

gerald5466 · Answer

i'm 6'2 and i'm not done growing so hopefully i'll hit 6'5 or 6'6

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

He needs to get rich, famous, or both. Or start dating midgets,

Anonymous · Answer

If he respects me I'm all good. His height doesn't matter.

Sour-rose · Answer

Be themselves. :1 that's for one tho

PizzaPieMamaBear · Answer

Grow half a foot

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Being interested in a 6'1 woman.

AsaKyo · Answer

Just be yourself

Anonymous · Answer

Find a women who’s -5’3

OfDeath · Answer

Win the lottery.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Attain a shitload of money!

notawomanagod · Answer

fuck me until i need an inhaler i guess?

Dkc123 · Answer

Don't date just rent

LiamJHayden · Answer

Confidence.

BJP21 · Answer

Be likable.

Oddi_211 · Answer

Date smaller girls

Anonymous · Answer

Get rich.

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