It's certainly not a relationship that should be including sex. He hasn't made decisions in his life and until he meets certain benchmarks there really shouldn't be another person. Not ready is not ready, Not ready for another relationship is the same thing as saying I am married. He can say he is not ready for a very long time leading you on and on. Love is everywhere, Love is cheap and easy. Sincerity is hard to find. He hasn't shown or proven any sincerity to you. I don't think he is being sincere with you.
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He has much going on. I assume that he realizes what a gym you are. I’m also assuming Business issues are truths or reality:
So: Business/Income flow, existing child responsibilities, and hot new lady friend. That’s a lot of rebuilding of a life happening simultaneously.
The only concern I would have is Friend time verse girlfriend time balance and the associated 7-10 day required release. You’re there and obviously both intelligent and intuit. I’m just guessing 🤷🏻♂️
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Probably not in a hurry to pull that trigger again. Doesn't sound like you are both aligned in what you want out of a relationship. Probably need to sit down and discuss. If he says all the right things but his actions are the opposite then it's time to move on.
I don't think he is being dishonest or misleading you in any way. This is a man who has lots of responsibilities. He just left a marriage an on top of that, he has four children. Loosing a job on top of that is a huge load for a person with that amount of responsibility.
I personally think you should focus on how you feel about him And what your next steps should be rather than stay in a state of assuming and guessing. Because you are not doing yourself any favours by doing that.
If your needs blinds you from understanding his circumstances, or if his circumstances puts you at a disadvantage, do yourself and him a favour. Move on.
Also, from what you have said, it seems like you have already had a conversation with him and he has told you where his head is. It seems you are just struggling with what you want to do next. You can, work with him, leave, or stay.Well I certainly get it with him being stressed out and not having the time to devote all that much energy to a relationship. Especially being in career turmoil at the moment. I guess it depends how long you might have to wait for his life to come together? And even then there is no guarantee that you'll still be seeing him at that point anyway.
Obviously it's not going anywhere, he just got out of a marriage he's been in for like 2 decades and then he rushed into another relationship, you are telling me he got over her in a month? Clearly not, he might just be using you for physical pleasure or who knows, maybe even mental health as well, you should've seen it as a red flag that he is moving so fast
If someone cannot give you time of day apart from when it is to get something they want, in my eyes that's using. I was seeing a girl over the internet for 7 months everyday I made an effort but most days would hear nothing from her I only hear from her when I gave her something.
It's 50/50 Women's main hobby is a relationship so its difficult for you to understand his side but a divorced dad w/ 4 kids an no job men's his time is spending finding a job, fighting w/ an ex an supporting his kids. There may not be enough time in the day to add you on. Sounds like he's managing his time as well as possible but it's an uphill battle. This is also another example of why guys shouldn't waste time texting or chatting on the phone w/ women.
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Yes its possible that work stress would push him into not quoting a relationship but it does seem like he is leading u on or more so he is happy where things are
I agree with you. But I am sure that he has a plate full with finding another job and 4 children to be a stable father to.
Only you know what is best for you!Stay single a F him and all his friends when you can. Who needs a marriage. A marriage doesn't plug your vagina up. Do your hoe stage while your young enough to still have a hoe stage of life.
He is using you and will continue to. His ex will get most of what he makes if he works so he doesn’t.
Doesn't sound good that is for sure. Excuses are never good.
I think you are wasting your time with this guy!
Things take time you don’t want to rush it
Sounds like he has you as a back-up plan.
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