Why would people see you as a heartbreaker (if you don't flirt or have suitors)?

[LittleSally]

[jennifer_bloom]

I would divide this category into two categories: If you have suitors but do not flirt, people could accuse you of being a heart breaker for rejecting people that want to date you. If you flirt but do not have suitors, you could be hated for being a heart breaker because you are viewed as wanting to initiate conflicts. Also the top and bottom in dating are both endless. 300 pound girls might cheat on 400 pound guys. Genius surgeons might cheat on genius billionaires. So status and popularity does not protect you from being accused or guarantee you will be accused if you are attractive and elite. I know 300 pound women that are stalked for trying to date girls that other people like. I even know severely disabled women who can't speak or hear that are hated for dating guys that other people want to hog for themselves. And I know ugly millionaires that cheat on their attractive millionaire husbands. Status and personality are not part of the equation.

[BlueScorpio]

People usually say that cause they think someone is good looking or have a lot charm to catch People's attention.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

They say I come off as warm and cold. I laugh, smile and hug if the other person is comfortable, and I generally do my best to make others feel welcome.

I even compliment and flirt up to a point, but I put hard limits to that and never actually have the intention to do anything romantic - and this gives the impression I'm leading them on.

[coachTanthony]

Maybe you just looking their way is flirting to them.

[LittleSally]

Strange... but I guess it's possible.

[Chazmatazz269]

Depends on how you define “suitors”. Everyone has at least one person crushing on them in their lifetime; most likely many. The crusher ends up broken hearted more often than not. You don’t have to do anything or even know that they’re pining for you to break a heart. All you have to do is not return their affections. Unrequited love is among the oldest tales known to man. Millions of letters, books, poems, songs, plays, movies, TV shows and God knows what else have been dedicated to the theme.

[NathanDavis]

I have been called that before...

but that was just them idealizing something that was not even there...

and they were school days too, so immaturity for sure, on their part, that is...

[Agape93]

Because they want you and you don't want them, and they see that as a personal slight when it really isn't.

[SnowedIn]

This. Right. Here.

[UniquelyBasic]

They dont really know that you dont have any suitors probably.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Because it happens that they fall for you without you having to flirt, but you don't see them the same way so you reject them, unwillingly adding another broken heart to the jar.

[curiousjohnnstamoez]

People who have high charisma and confidence are just naturally attractive.

[dustybiker]

Maybe natural beauty with lots of confidence and single on purpose. Some would see that as a waste.

[Anonymous]

Not me personally but people who are generally very attractive are seen that way because they'll get a lot of attention and potential suitors and they'll have to reject most of them (hence heartbreaker).

[exitseven]

I am faithful to my wife so all the other women just eat their hearts out.

[Jamie05rhs]

Because you are. Lol. You're breaking everyone's hearts because they can't date you. (Not literally. It's just an expression.)

[AdithyaR]

They'd have to be delusional to think that about me.

[TrillXHippy]

Me being a heartbreaker is really funny. Never

[Shy_Steve]

Usually it's because they see you as Attractive.

[Iron_Man]

I’m not a heartbreaker