I’ve been seeing this girl for 4 months, i always pay for dates since day one which is i do not mind , but after dates she takes me to the store to buy her some sweets , candies and choclates, beside that she told me we gonna travel and it is gonna be on you , also she got painting hobby and she asks me to buy her paints and stuffs she needs to do her hobby , also she wants diamond ring for our future engagement, she works with me we get the same salary , when i talked to her about this she told me i wanna be spoiled and i want to feel like you take care of me , buy guys i buy her things without she mention in but she keeps asking , im thinking about breaking up with her , what do you think guys?
I read your question after the update, you Did the right thing bro, don't be disappointed because she left you, she really didn't care about if her requests are too much or not, if she loves you she will try to not make your wallet empty, it's too funny that she did it because she want to feel that you care about her, like the only way to show care is bu spending money, and why she asked for a diamond ring? Specially she knows it will be too much for you, you did the right thing, I'm telling you she will come back and say she is sorry and she misses you, don't believe her, she misses your wallet.
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Good for you dude! I see you've already taken the advice I was going to give.
I can also give you a tip. Any girl who says that she likes to be 'spoiled' or 'like to be taken care of'... that's them telling you that they... are just like this girl. Worthless when it comes to dating/romance. Always avoid a girl who says she likes to be spoiled.
Sounds like she is using you. Is she financially stable? I mean if she has some financial issues, which you know about, it might be a different story, but then she should not be as needy as she sounds if she can't cover her own needs. I'd address the issue and eventually leave.
I think the way to know a girl is exploiting you is if she asks for things she does not need. I ask my millionaire relatives and cousins for things like phone cases when I’m in debt. I do not ask for necklaces cause I do not need that.
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You have made a wise move, except for one thing. Many people violate this rule, but you shouldn't date someone from your work place. Now that you have broken up, she may feel the need to get revenge by telling stories about you, and those stories may include some lies. Imagine the embarrasing things she could claim about you to your co-workers!
Wow dude end that today. She is totally using you like a sugar daddy.
It seems like she is using you. I would be out of it.
Yup, sounds like you are getting played like simp. she's a real piece of work, tell me at least you are getting laid, and she puts it on you like nobody has ever done before and she is an absolute freak in bed!!! Oh, please tell me this is the case.
The fact she had the audacity to gaslight you is a clear indication that you dodged a bullet.
These type of women bring nothing but headaches and pain. The "love" they have for you is never for you, but for what you do for them. And the proof is in the pudding how she discarded you as soon as you stopped letting her walk over you.
I'm happy for you that you got rid of that parasite. Now you have another chance to find a more genuine girl to share life with.
You started of the entire relationship by setting the theme of being a guy that pays for everything. This is happening because you've been programmed to pay women for simply existing. Do not give anyone anything they have not worked for. At your job... your Boss doesn't give you a salary unless you've done the necessary hours...
You need to learn from this. Break up immediately and stop placing any female on a pedestal.
Never be desperate! Never be a simp!
Where is all of that equality she has been fighting for?
Simple answer. Dump her. Especially if she isn’t even putting out or giving you at least some blowjobs. She may control the sex but you control the relationship as far as committing, marriage. You can do better than that. Once she locks you down w marriage or a kid it’s game over. She’s going to want to quit working. I mean she’s already depending on you for money, it’s only been 4 months. Tell her you’re thinking about quitting your job, if she would support you for a few months while you figure things out lol
in my culture if you are courting you even have to treat the girl's friends and relatives so it's not really usinh. even when married a man will even take care not just his spouse but the family of his spouse. women in my culture are actually not expected to work. we can have a nanny, a driver, a maid andno one will give a shit that we don't do anythinh. the man provides everything and not only that the salary of the man is given to the woman.
but i didn't like it and find it unfair so i didn't like the idea of my ex treating my friends. i didn't like the idea that when around relatives my ex has to overly soend or even spend if his money is limited.
maybe try talking to her because maybe she's telling the truth especially if she was born in another country and tell her what you feel and set some guidelines.Yup definitely taking advantage of you she is working on old sexist values where the guy pays for everything.
In the modern world I would expect the woman to at least offer to pay in these situations I usually say no I've got this.
Me, the girlfriend and her son went on holiday earlier this year and took it in turns to dip in our pockets to pay for things we did and noone said "your paying for this"I can see occasionally a asking for a box of chocolates but not every time; not even often. Otherwise, that seems to be a bit much. However, if you are having sex with her perhaps the sex makes it worth it.
I would not ask for anything extra; not even a box of candy but I am not going to have sex. Actually, that wouldn't be applicable to me since the guys I date are too young to drive and wouldn't have much spending money anyway.Yes and no. She has unrealistic expectations but this can be corrected. I don't think she's trying to use you.
Let's start off... yes a man should pay for his girls stuff.
But the flip side of this coin is she has to give up control of her money.
Ie both your paychecks go into your account and then you use YOUR money (which is all of it now) to pay for all her needs and treat her out.
This meets your needs of not being used and her needs of the man paying for everything.
You don't buy stuff to people you just met. Either they will feel force to reciprocate, or to take advantage of you.
Maybe you can invite her to dinner once, or some minor stuff, but that's it.
I don't let money interfere in my relationships.
Get out and don't look back. She's using you and probably thinks you're a simp and will do anything to keep a girl. I don't know how long this has been going on, but it seems like that is the case.
Run. Unless you are looking for a findom or sugar baby situation, run. Admittedly I only read the first few sentences but your situation immediately reminded me of a sugar baby I used to know who was all about having men (usually multiple without them knowing) wrapped around her little finger paying her way and buying her gifts she would sell until she bled then dry then she'd cut them loose.
Don't be one of those losers, run.
Yeah she’s using you. I only ask for a guy to pay for my food. That’s it, other things I usually cover
Dude Im glad she went away. Know she doesn't seem cool at all. You dont want to be with someone who will run away at slightest sight of disagreement. Time to find the one who is meant for you my dude. I wish you all the best my man.
Definitely using you. She has her own money n doesn't want to spend it that's a big red flag.
Yes, sounds like she's pretty entitled and using you for your money.
Tell her that you are in a relationship, it's not a courtship and since she works, she needs to pay her own way some of the time. You don't mind treating her occasionally, but she knows how much you make and you don't have unlimited funds.
Yea, your being used. Is everything on her time? And is she sleeping with you, and if she does, does it seem like she is not into it?
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