At the start of sleeping with my boyfriend he used to take ages was it because he wasn’t attracted to me?

[Anonymous]

He’d only slept with overweight girls before me and I’m petite. I wasn’t into sex much either.

But he’d take 30-40 mins. He went to the gym daily and was super fit. He said he was trying to impress me since he knew I was out his league. He never tried to impress others.

Is it because he wasn’t attracted to me. Now he barely lasts 5 mins with me. He doesn’t go to the gym daily and said he’s not trying to impress me that much now. But he has to pull out to pace to that point.

Wasn’t attracted to me at the start

Something else

[DaveJord]

I really hate it when people say they are dating someone they believe they are better than.

You said he said;

"He said he was trying to impress me since he knew I was out his league."

I truly hope you and he both do not really believe that. But at the end of the day, it sounds like he might have had some self-confidence issues, and now maybe you have help him find his confidence. So, for me honestly, I think I am damn good lover, so when I was younger, I put a lot of effort into things, which means you do not want to be too quick... but at some point, you want to finish it off right. So, the longer you are with someone more sensitive you become to their needs, wants, likes and dislikes

Once someone starts talking about me being too good, or not good enough... it's a turn off to me.

[MrCommodore]

It seems strange to take that long if he found you super hot, it's usually the opposite, but he is probably telling the truth.

[Asker]

A friend years ago told me when they aren’t attracted they get it over with as quickly as possible and if they are into someone try to last long

[MrCommodore]

Well it can go either way, like the more turned on a guy is, the easier it is to cum. However if the sex is amazing, it feels great to prolong it.

If a guy goes for ages regularly without Cumming, he might be struggling to cum, suggesting he isn't that excited.

Depends on the guy

[Wise4myage]

Maybe he just felt like taking his time?