I’m only attracted to hot girls. What should I do?

[Hull6644]

This girl I messaged on Reddit across the country and we started talking and we exchanged photos but I don’t find her physically appealing that much though she has an ok body. She looks older than her age and I personally don’t want a long distance relationship. I told her I don’t know about something long term and I didn’t want to lead her on. She is disappointed… Visual attraction is very important for me and while I don’t need a model I want a girl I feel viscerally attracted to and i personally find pretty. I am 23 and never have had a girlfriend. Am I shallow?

[Adaeva]

You have a right to want what is attractive to you. That is not being shallow. However, if what you want is out of your league, you will never be able to date a girl that you are attracted to. In that case, you have two options--do without or lower your standards.

[Calculated_Guess]

Physical attraction is important or else it's really just a friendship.

You don't have to date women you aren't attracted to, but try to let them down as easy as possible. I used to say that I'm not ready for a relationship right now, or that I'm currently messaging with someone else. Anything is better than telling a person that they aren't attractive to you in my opinion anyway.

[LiamJHayden]

Not shallow, but deceived. Outer beauty fades. Inner beauty doesn't. If she has both, great, but otherwise an average girl with a sweet heart is far better that a "hot girl" who lacks depth and personality.

[Cassie88]

Yes, you're shallow, and with that attitude you'll remain single for the rest of your life.

[misogynistic_pig]

It's fine as long as you're not in a long-term relationship with one of those women.