Girls, quite a few of you have claimed you seem to have a lot of trouble getting a boyfriend. What do you see as the problem for this?

[FunkyMonkee]

[Bethany22]

Either men don't ask me out, or they do, but on the first date I find out that they're alcoholic or they did drugs in the past or that they have a mental illness or a bad past, or they're the wrong personality type for me, and I sense that it would lead to nothing but a trauma bond.

[FunkyMonkee]

Similar situation, here.

[AmyHew1tt]

For me personally, I matured super fast from fifteen to now to the point where I feel more reasonable and mature than most adults I'm around, so it's difficult to find guys around my age who don't seem like children, and unlike many people my age, my desire for a relationship is for the actual steady intimacy of knowing and loving someone, not the excitement of going on dates.

Also opportunity. I live out of town, with reason to go in only twice a week, and the town is small. The only things to do is going to the bookstore (tiny), which despite what is portrayed in YA novels, is a barren hunting ground when it comes to finding men; the library, which is usually full of older people or kids, and no one talks anyway, and the gym, which is full of boney guys ego lifting, or gigantic dudes who are at least in their mid-thirties.

Those two things combined make it very difficult.

[humanearth]

Not just girls, but I think today's youth. Is choosing "fuck toy" over a real solid relationship.

One or two things go sour and their out to dump each other.

And another thing I noticed, they don't know how to compromise.

But I think all young people kinda go though that. Its part of becoming an adult.

So why did I just say all this junk?

I have no freaking clue why

[FunkyMonkee]

I just mean, guys complain about how hard it is for them to find a girlfriend and then women come back with how it's not easy for them, either. Or, guys complain about it women say they have a much harder time of it than men do. I just can't see how women would have a hard time finding a boyfriend!! There's a LOT more guys out there looking than girls!!

[Sixgunsound]

The relative economic positions in the sexual marketplace change over time for men and women. But parents won't have this conversation with their kids anymore.

[Guy13]

Maybe they are simply not pretty or enchanting.

[Sixgunsound]

Men will put up with a lot in the looks department for other considerations. Obviously not all, but I am referring to emotionally mature adults.

[Guy13]

@Sixgunsound I’ve given up on stable emotions with women but I he’s you.

[Guy13]

hear you

[FunkyMonkee]

No, I've heard this claim quite a lot from very pretty girls.

[Guy13]

Oh, okay.

[Anonymous]

i think when it comes to western men i think it's because they find me immature and i also have ocd. i'm also big atm, not productive enoufh, not charminh enough, not tesponsible enough, not sociable enough, not even intelligent enough and i find that fair enough because at the end of the day i also get to choose if i really wanna be with them or not. i'm just a girl just a human beinh that if you keep makinh me feel i am not good enough i would think will i be happy with this person if hypothetically i will end up with this person? maybe i'm not the one who should be with this person maybe it's better if he would end up with someone else. if hypothetically we end up together maybe it will just end up in a disaster. it hurts me very much but you know that's life. also i've been through so much in life and most of all i have Jesus i knoe i am tough ican handle anything

[Paulalove98]

I’ve met too many guys who only seem to wanna have sex and not commit or make an effort anymore for a relationship.

[Anemone978]

Im too ugly, too fat or just my personality is warped because no one wants to date me...

[Anonymous]

The Internet.

[FunkyMonkee]

In what way?

[Opinion Owner]

Internet dating is so easy, that it's worthless. Nothing good in life comes easy. The top 10% of guys, get 90% of the girls. It's all about sex, but it's not billed that way. Internet dating is the grand illusion.
Funkster, it chaps my hide when someone says I'm lucky for being able to play classical guitar the way I do. Luck? Are you fucking kidding me? If you make a million bucks mowing lawns, was the money from luck? lol Practicing my guitar for 7 hours per day was luck? Lucky me. lol
Dating needs to go back to being hard, and if that happened, every guy would find his girl. The Internet screwed the pooch.

[Sixgunsound]

It's hard in different ways. Being bombarded with choices is not as good or positive as it seems.

[Sixgunsound]

10x the trash that you have to sort through in the same limited reproductive window actually made your love life 10x harder than it was in the 1990's.

[Opinion Owner]

@Sixgunsound

Online dating seems like the most brilliant thing since sliced bread. Imagine if you wanted a used lawn mower. Would you drive down side streets for hundreds of hours, or maybe just look on Craigslist? But dating and lawnmowers are a horse of a different color. I tell guys on this site all the time to go online and be a player. If they only want sex, then learn to play the game, and play it well. If they want the real deal, then get off the Internet. Ask me about Lisa. lol