The weird thing is, it was him that initially texted ME asking if we can get together again soon. Should he confirm plans 3 days before her suggested date day, or is the day before her suggested date day enough? Even when my suggestion was given a whole week in advance, and I know he's seen the message?
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He probably thinks you're blowing him off. I suggest who text him and ask about those days you sugested and wait for a response. If he doesn't, move on.0
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Crazy the way so many of these guys today are being flaky like this, I've seen some other questions where girls are having the same problem as you. He's the one who asked you out but hasn't even gotten back to your message? That says everything wrong right there. People can say maybe something happened to him or he hasn't had time or whatever, but that's no excuse. Even if he needs time to think about it he could've easily said something like "Let me think on a time and get back to you."
This dude is flaking on you and you should walk away from that kind of situation. If he tries to hit you up again later on - and he probably will - you should leave him on Read. Don't let somebody yank you back and forth like that and don't wait around them.0
I would not hold a time for him, until he confirms I am free to fill it up with others or other things.
When someone takes awhile to confirm I clearly state, I am not holding this for you so the sooner you get back to me the more likely I will be available.
Last thing I want is to hold a spot and then have a no show.0
It sounds like he is not interested, excited, or serious about engaging in meaningful time together. Too bad he's missing out. Make plans for that date as it was your "free time" that you offered him. Then there will be something to measure against over the next month as it relates to his reaction, assigned Value, and behaviors across the board.0
You know what? I think those rules about how many days you should wait before doing anything for dates is ridiculous. And what ever happened to regular calling on the phone instead? It seems so robotic and nerve wracking to rely on texts and to also be unsure what to do.
Go ahead and text or call and ask, “ Hey, are we still on for —day”? And if he doesn’t respond or answer, we’ll either he’s busy or has changed his mind.0
Odd, maybe he has 2nd thoughts or lack of clarity how to respond. I'd think the later. Simplified:
"Ogu send smoke signal from mountain, but Zolu no respond. How long wait response?
Therapist: Maybe use telephone, give up on smoke signal?10
Yeah he should. I am always quick with replies when I am interested, so I do not see why he has not texted back by now.
by the way did you have your birthday recently?0
Re-text and ask him "did you get my previous text responding to you asking to get with me? Is that date and time good for you?" If he doesn't respond by 2-3 days before your suggested time, you're no longer available.0
He needs to confirm either way. If he doesn't confirm you don't go. I would never speak to him again. Communication is the foundation of any good relationship.0
Seems to me like he just asked for a hookup and not a date0
He should give you enough time before he makes suggestion for dating.0
Due to you reject him, he is now bored from you. So there is no possibility to get him back. You lost him. Sorry.0
Weird. Maybe he got busy and was checking his schedule? Maybe a follow up text is order? Hey, what do you think about that day and time?0
Don’t talk to him until he’s shows up in person0
No response is a response girl. Could have also drunk texted ig0
As many as you want to five him.0
I say no more than 1-3 days.0
Your guy sounds like a flake. Dump him0
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I think couple of days is sufficient to make sure he doesn't already have plans. You never know, he may be trying to get out those plans and wants to go with you. He could be waiting on other people to get back to him. Try to give him the benefit of the doubt.
Regardless, if he doesn't respond in a couple of days, I would make plans with a friend to go do whatever you were planning or just go yourself.
The old "snooze ya lose" saying comes to mind.