Should I cut off my ex?

[Anonymous]

He broke up with me in January, the day after we spend New Year together.. he said he still had feelings but I hurt him ( i rejected sex, we were in the rltsh for 3 months.. i kinda led him on that we would have sex and then told him no as soon as we started).. i must also say this was our last chance of being intimate as he was leaving in a few days and will not be back until August.. I begged and pleaded more than im proud to admit but he didn't budge, asked me to remain friends but i refused. stopped contacting him and suddenly as of this past weekend he started reaching out. I asked to talk on the phone on Sunday.. he was very pleasant.. then after we hang up i asked him if he was sure he doesn't have to do anything with me ever again, he replied with I don't know myself, before that he would say i want to but i can't.. He wished me Happy valentines yesterday and put a kiss emoji to the text. I replied with thanks,. Happy VDay to you 2, he thanked me and that was it.. we haven't talked since yesterday Why he keeps contacting me.. i told him when we spoke on the phone thwt as nice as it is to hear his voice, it kinda interrupts my progress and yet he texted me again.. What does he wannt?

[MaazHussain]

It's difficult to say exactly what your ex wants, as everyone has their own reasons for reaching out to an ex. However, it's important to consider what you want and what is best for you.

If you still have feelings for your ex and want to try to work things out, then you could consider having an open and honest conversation with him about your feelings and what you both want moving forward. It's important to make sure that you are on the same page and that your expectations are clear.

However, if you feel that the relationship is not healthy for you or that it would be best to move on, then it may be best to cut off contact with your ex. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and not continue a relationship that is not making you happy.

Ultimately, the decision of whether or not to cut off contact with your ex is up to you and what you feel is best for your own mental and emotional health.

[Asker]

He was almost perfect. He came into my life at the perfect timing. He was respectful, introduced me to his sisters and met some of my family. I come from a conservative background, i am Albanian and he is Bosnian and we are both Muslim so maybe the fact that I wasn’t a virgin ( he knew this from the start) and not willing to give myself to him really bothered him. He said he felt worthless.. .. maybe he is coming to his senses ( i have had only one rltsh before him) and sees my worth.
For now, ill let him reach out first. I did try to have a honest an open conversation with him about getting back together before but he wasn’t budging.
This time when he responded with i dont know myself and i left him on seen
2 hours later he reached out again ( atypical of him) so I don't know

I told him i dont think he is worthy of my love last time we talked.. i didn’t think we will gall again but he congratulated me on valentine’s day..

My head and heart is finding million excuses as to why he may be acting this way, maybe he misses me, maybe he is strining me along.. maybe he is playing me and laughing behind my back every-time i respond..

The thing is i felt so safe with him, for the first time i had no doubts that i would like to spend the rest of my life with someone.

[MaazHussain]

It sounds like you have conflicting emotions about your ex-boyfriend and the situation. It's understandable that you're trying to make sense of his behavior, but it's important to remember that you can't control his actions or feelings. It's possible that he may miss you and want to try again, but it's also possible that he's just being friendly and there's no intention of getting back together.

At this point, it may be helpful to focus on your own feelings and what you want out of a relationship. It's important to set boundaries and communicate your needs clearly. If you decide to pursue reconciliation with your ex, have an open and honest conversation about your concerns and what you both want from the relationship. If he's not willing to commit or if your values don't align, it may be best to move on and find someone who is a better fit for you.

[Avicenna]

Not yet, try to set boundaries first

[Asker]

Can you elaborate please?

[Guy13]

I would be done with that for sure.

[Iron_Man]

You don’t have to cut him off

[Anonymous]

Why are you even talking to him?

[Asker]

Because i still have feelings.. im not reaching out though.. but it’s difficult to ignore him completely.