When you meet someone do you go straight into a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Or do you become friends and court them?

I'm noticing that when I meet people, they want to jump straight into a relationship or put a title on us before we even meet. How can you say we're dating when I never met you? I always start off as friends and allow things to build. I don't see a problem being friends and hanging out from time to time if I know I'm not ready for a relationship. It's really crazy how people date nowadays.. what happened to traditional dating? If they are not trying to rush their showing nudes or talking about sex.. no kind of respect for what the other person wants. 😕 I don't entertain disrespect.. I tried to meet someone as friends and she made it difficult.. it was the craziest experience I ever had.. we were texting a month and a half no phone conversation and I asked her to send me a video recording of herself before we met and she was angry that she had to call me. I told her that I'm a traditional dater and this is how I date. Till this day I have no idea how she looks in person beyond 2 pictures she sent. It literally took me a month and a half just to talk to her on the phone.

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[NewYorkCity]

We are living in over-sexualized society, where people these days want to get things like food, rewards, sex, etc... not few weeks or months from now, but yesterday. We are living in a society of Here and Now. Unfortunately old fashion dating is for older generations. If you take a look around the world, marriage is not really a marriage anymore. Marriage became a Facebook and Instagram and everything in between statement for personal gain, whether it is monetary or social indulgence. Not only that, but physical appearance these days became EVERYTHING. That is why 85% of all guys are struggling to even find a G. F. and forget about them finding wife's and also that is why 80% of all women are angry and depressed, because all of them are trying to get those top 15% guys, but those 15%'s are not interested in long term relationship or marriage, because they know their value very well and there is no reason for them to settle down with one when they can get laid with 1000's.

[Asker]

I will not be dating anyone of this generation sorry and if o date I'm ok with overseas. I'm traditional and still believe in courting which this generation knows nothing about

[Asker]

I don't date modern people

[Asker]

I'm not changing who I am and my mate will have to be traditional sorry

[NewYorkCity]

I don't blame you and I also understand exactly what you mean, but it is what it is and unfortunately you just have to deal with what this life has present us with and do your best to adapt to it's changes whether they are good or bad.

[Asker]

I haven't dated in 11 years and I'm celibate- have been 10 years. I'm use to my partner initating everything and no I can't adapt to society of today. If I have to travel overseas I will or remain single / celibate as I have been 11 years

[Asker]

I don't online date and I understand that dating has moved too a virtual setting - I meet interact with people online , but when it comes to romance I prefer the old fashioned way

[Asker]

Maybe when I'm done with my studies I will get back out there to date and meet people face to face

[Asker]

I still believe in courting and dating with intentions of marriage

[NewYorkCity]

When you say overseas, what exactly do you mean, because countries like United States, ALL European Nations and even a lot of East European nations already have been compromised and perverted and countries like Japan and South Korea have also been corrupted many, MANY years ago. So, I'm not really sure exactly what you mean overseas. If you really want to find an old fashion man, you have to look not overseas, but in hardcore not Sunday worshipping churches, but True Saturday worshipping Christian churches, or a hardcore Jewish synagogue, because if you are trying to find a man who believes in nothing and you think he be loyal and respectful to you, you are fooling yourself.

[Asker]

Where I met my first husband overseas - anywhere but usa

[Asker]

I have no desire to deal with modem men or women

[Asker]

I have intentions of marriage with the right person- modern people don't value marriage so why waste my time and they text and talk on the phone all date doing 50/50 dates or Dutch dating no thanks!

[Asker]

I don't like that and I wish modern people would stay out of my space seriously

[sparklefairy]

Simple answer to question, pretty much.

[Beatrix7]

thats a mistake i made to much with me we both flew in to quick before friends so i prefee becoming friends and going for lunch a few times getting to know each other first before just saying yes lets be boyfriend and girlfriend nd fuck right away not my stile anymore

[Asker]

Right I wish people moved like that

[Beatrix7]

yeah defos

[warsevf]

I often think that but when its reality, I am picky and hence I will procrastinate and let it marinate, but dedicated to the same person nonetheless. I'm the other side of the coin where people poke me with stick and say "Do Something".