If your boyfriend said something like this to you would you still believe he loved you as much as he says he does?

[Anonymous]

So we happened to have a disagreement and he decided to make the disagreement a big thing and get others around us at the time of the disagreement involved. Those other were family. Then he says “I’m an attractive guy I can get any girl I want.” That in itself was wrong to to say if you ask me because it was like he was saying he was only choosing to be with me but anyways I responded by saying well I’m attractive as well and I can say the same for myself, though I actually do love him so I wouldn’t put myself out there in that way. He got upset by the comment as if he didn’t start it and told me to “Watch myself” and then follows it with “Yea you’re attractive but good luck finding a guy who wants to do more than just f***.” you.” and as I said, we were in front of his family when he said it. As if my worth doesn’t go beyond that. As if he’s trying to make it seem as though he’s the only guy willing to treat me “Right” yet the same guy who treats me “Right” says something as disrespectful as that and it actually hurt.

[Guy13]

I am sorry but here it is straight: When a guy is physically attracted to you with no intent of dating you he will say, "I am an attractive guy and get any girl I want". To do this in front of friends and much more family is an intentional derogatory and degrading move.

His Mindspeak-Why did he do that: 1. There's a load full of hot women out there by the way. 2. And if you can not interact with me any better than to have a disagreement in the vicinity of my family... if that's respectful to you-let me give you a taste of it, B-... I told you to "watch yourself".

Guess what you can't do: Bridge Attraction, Good Sex, and No real Interest into a "wifey material" relationship. All that you have now is friends with benefits and if it more than that then his biggest Loss is going to be with Family. Guaranteed you will be one of two or three and a Toy for the dry spell.

Sorry for the tone but it is true

[Leslieles]

I’m not saying you’re wrong but we’ve been together for three years and it’s been the same ole thing. He apologizes just to do it again. He got up on the wrong side of the bed and woke up upset randomly talking about how I never post him or about him on my social media and it makes me seem single and he’s posted me/has me posted on his social media page, not all just one and he has even made me is profile picture before but it was never with good intentions. I have even seen messages in his phone, contacting other women through the same social media he has me posted on and that’s why I never post or brag about him on social media and I’m also more private than him. I don’t act single because I don’t talk to other guys even though he’s given me plenty of reasons to do so. The disagreement we had, he started. He even got aggressive and got in my face, got loud and that’s the reason his family even knew we were having a disagreement. So I didn’t start a disagreement in the vicinity of his family, he did and it isn’t the first time he’s done it and he’ll push my buttons and then tell me I’m the one being loud and disrespectful when he was being that way first. Also, it’s men that aren’t assholes and won’t treat you that way at all let alone in front of others and they’ll want more than just sex to. It’s all about finding whose for you. A good match and no matter how much I love him he shows me every time that we aren’t a good match at all.

[WaterIsland]

Really really weird to get family involved in arguments with your partner. Unless there is abuse or something going on and you need help getting out of the situation. No idea why he did that. That’s super weird on his part in my opinion.


But no. I wouldn’t tolerate that. I’d break up with someone if they told me that. Just not acceptable on any level for him to say that to you.

[HelpMe06]

I’m so sorry he treated you that way. That’s so wrong and in front of his family I can’t even imagine how hurtful that would’ve been. That’s not a way someone who respects their partner would speak to them. If I were you I would’ve responded to that last comment and said yeah watch me and then walked out. If you love him you need to have a conversation about how fkd up that was. if he can see it and admit his actions were disgusting and apologises then there’s hope. But If he tries to deflect it and can’t see any wrong doing then I think you should walk away from him. People like that only get worse. You deserve way way better.

[EmmaMary]

Personally I would have told him to sling his hook and said goodbye... Simples.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[Zandoval]

Lol. If he said that, he's probably just using you to f**k you and let his thoughts out. To him you're likely a piece of meat he can replace. Find someone else.

[Asker]

And that’s crazy because we’ve been together for three years and he still says things like that to me. It doesn’t matter how many flowers he’s gotten me, things he’s bought me, how many times he’s posted me on his social media, he’s done all of the above which most would say “Well that means he loves you.” But if they only knew that behind all those things he often says things like that.

[Asker]

And suddenly all of those things don’t matter and I don’t feel loved at all, just disrespected and like you said if he can say it, it has to be just hidden thoughts.

[Zandoval]

It's nothing more than like paying a hooker. Instead of money, he gets gifts. No partner should be saying that to anyone if they respect them.

[Dragonstarterplus]

... and you're still with him?