Did I catch him before he cheated and just played it off well?

[Cass510]

boyfriend of nearly 4 years when we first started dating he was not a fan of having our locations on, he said he lets me know where he is at all times it’s unnecessary. I have had trust issues throughout our relationship and I have had our locations on in my past relationship and he was still unfaithful so I suppose I was overreacting. So far he’s been an honest guy and he’s been faithful but this one night I turned his location on without him knowing, he drove him like 10 at night and he lives far and we were still in early months of dating so I seen on his location him heading to his house and then going the other way and heading up towards Milpitas area when he lives in south San Jose. I called and he answered and said he was driving home and I said well I have your location on you and your hella far and he said “wait you have my location and you let me go this far and not let me know I’m going the wrong way!” So he turned around and went home and was upset. Next morning he turned it off, this was the early stages of us dating and since then I’ve realized he’s absent minded when driving especially when tired. To this day he will miss exits and drive. Is this suspicious? Was he going to another girls house and just got caught?

[Charlesbrandonf]

I share my apartment and we are very friendly. But there is me and my life. Everyone will have some pages they don’t want other people to know. I don’t want my family business my relationship business my life’s business to be known by my roommates.




So when I need to talk to my family, or just need fresh air, or when I need thinking. It’s just my business if I drive around in the streets, I don’t want to be bothered by anyone, so I just drive around the streets. I do forget streets when I think.




He might be innocent and got upset that you’re spying on him without him knowing. Or he may be cheating. When you don’t know the thing for sure. You can’t blame him, that’s for sure. Also it’s your call whether you want to go forward with the relationship or call it off.

[Charlesbrandonf]

I’ve gone through you questions. It’s all about you trusting your boyfriend. Every single thing is a huge trust matter to you. You need to work on yourself and seek the help of a therapy. Because if you continue this way. You’ll always need words or actions of affirmation on day to day basis which is not possible. He is he, you are you. What if he is suspicious about everything you do. How would you react and handle the situation. Like what if he wants you to give words or affirmations, actions of affirmations on day to day. And get suspicious if you ever forget to add salt in your food? Or put one step differently than usual?

This is not going to help you both. Before you loose him, do yourself a favour and help yourself.

If you feel nothing is wrong with you. Then you must get on a healthy relationship where one gives you everything you want like your pet.

[VikingWarLord]

I live in the SF Bay for over 10 years. Puussy gets thrown at dudes there, especially in the bumfuuck Egypt boonies areas like Modesto, Stockton, Sacramento, Fresno, etc.. On Tinder and Bumble you can find 7s and 8s all over the Bay who are willing to hook up. So unless you're at least a 7 in looks, he's probably cheating. Send me a DM with your pic and I'll be BRUTALLY FUUUCKIN HONEST if that's the case.

[LiamJHayden]

If I have trust issues with a girl I do not hang around, but that's just me. Other people try to deal with it. In your case, you know he misses exits, etc. when he's tired so maybe try to find the best excuse instead of the worst.

[Anonymous]

That sounds like a healthy relationship lol

He might be cheating. Or he's an idiot and doesn't know how to get home some nights

[Cass510]

It happened one time 4 years ago but throughout our 4 yr relationship I noticed he forgets exits and drives absent mindily

[Opinion Owner]

He could just be one of those people that gets spaced out when he's driving. Especially if he smokes weed.
I wouldn't assume he's a cheater because of that. There would be some other obvious signs too. Guys are not very good at hiding it, I can tell you that. We always get caught if it's a regular thing

[Cass510]

He just missed an exit to get to my house and had to go another route the other day so I just assumed he’s like that. He’s put up with my crazy trust issues for years and we are still together

[Opinion Owner]

Lol, well that's good.
I'd save yourself the headache and try to let all that go if I were you, you'll be much happier.
But I also get it, I used to be the same way

[Opinion Owner]

Just think of it this way... a cheater is going to cheat, regardless. Keeping tabs on him might prolong it, but it won't prevent it.
So you can either be stressed out and worried all the time, or you can let yourself be happy and let whatever happens happen. Because you can't stop it either way.
Learn to be ok with the idea that he might cheat, but only cross that bridge when you get to it.
Anyway, good luck