Where's your preferred 1st date with someone?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

The main criteria is that you have lots of time to talk to each other, which is why movies are usually a bad choice.

You can (weather permitting) just go for a walk or hang out at a park, take a picnic, or walk around a swap meet or farmer's market, or go bowling, skating, play pool or darts, or even go shooting if she's up for it. One girl loved sea creatures - especially otters and sea lions - so I took her to the Monterey Aquarium and we walked around there for 4 or 5 hours, and she was thrilled.

As long as you are relaxed and comfortable, and you can talk most of the time, almost anything could work.

jamesgoldman · Accepted Answer

Somewhere with steak and single nalt

SueShe · Accepted Answer

I don't date but if I had to, then it would obviously be a public place where there are a lot people around and that is well lit. This is for my own safety because under those conditions, it is less likely that he would try something that is inappropriate.

I could think of a busy restaurant during daytime, most likely on a Saturday or Sunday. That lunch (not dinner) could be followed by the visit of a museum. What I would avoid is a noisy place because it does not allow for a normal conversation.

At the end of the visit, still in daytime, both parties leave on their own, so as not to give the wrong impression.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Honestly the fair or theme park. But i fear the relationship being like that of a rollercoaster again. Secondly would be a cafe/coffee shop though i dont eat anything from there. I really dont eat on first dates at all. Too nervous

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Are you an experienced dater? Are you dating for companionship, long term relationship, or casual sex? Are you confident and extroverted? Shy? Is money an issue for you? Are you having a first date wth someone you already know or someone who you have met only online?

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Somewhere semi public but not too crowded so as you can have an actual conversation without having to shout over the noise…

somewhere inexpensive so there’s no “who pays/who paid/ who expects, expected what” drama…

AviatorTom · Answer

I almost always planned the first date at a restaurant... for lunch or dinner. It gave us time to sit and talk, get to know each other, in a completely safe environment.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Lunch date. A girl gotta eat

Guy13 · Answer

Daytime and outdoor food truck

jennifer_bloom · Answer

A cafe or indoor garden

MarkHrdman · Answer

It depends on the circumstances for which woman to date because theyre all different:

A restaurant after sex to be the dominant provider.

A club to have a drink with a woman to get her in the mood.

The cinema for someone that I can be friends with and want to hang out and not just want to have sex with like a real partner.

A strip club comes to mind. Nothings impossible but it all depends on who you meet but this is more likely to be with someone who is already intoxicated (generally already out drinking) and wants to be a stripper or likes woman.

I wouldn't rule out shopping but im yet to dominate a hot woman just because they like pretty things (gold diggers are a common example but I believe there's some that dont want to reach the level of whore with being paid for sex regardless of being bought something of monitary value).

In general though id rule out coffee. I've only ever went with a woman to get a coffee who I have already had a long history with, once and even that was a dead end but ideally a woman is more inclind to want to go for a coffee with a guy to size them up, so to question the 2 hour coffee would be to wonder if coffee is what theyre really doing and yet its more likely to be a trap or to put someone in the friends zone or to treat you gay for woman to have a bitch as if you're one of there female friends, regardless if whether or not they have 1.

StormChaser838 · Answer

I guess the back seat of a car or a closed restroom, any empty place where there is hardly a place to even sit. That way we can get rid of all the trappings and see each other in all our nakedness. Now, if we can hit it off and be in splits of laughter till 3 , 4 in the morning and not know how the time went,,,, we are in business. When u meet someone, they,, have to be the main attraction. Thats a real relationship, every other that, u have to go to this place and that, you are just trying to put lipstick on a pig. Its sad but most relationships really need that place or as the high-society-wanna-bes say " high mantainence" to survive. To me such relationships are like a bum who needs a tuxedo to go around, kind of ridiculous. Sadly I somehow get dragged into to many such relationships.

Lliam · Answer

Once I had a good job, I would ask a girl out to a decent local restaurant with a nice atmosphere (not too expensive but nice). I asked them if they had a preferred restaurant. We would meet there the first time.

I never had a lady pick someplace that was opulent or expensive. But her choice did tell me something about her taste and character.

I dressed well, often with a casual sport coat. Never a tie. And I assessed the way she presented herself.

Prior to my later 20s, I don't recall asking girls on dates other than maybe going someplace fun together. I had girlfriends from the time I was 16 and usually knew them already from school, work, or friend circles. I already knew that they were into me. I didn't have to ask total strangers on dates.

GoodManDave · Answer

Meet up for coffee, maybe picnic at the park or hiking. Meeting (driving seperately, some place public (my peace of mind as well as hers), with something interesting going on. If it doesn't work, you can call it an early evening.

Generally, it's best if you can talk during the date, so avoiding loud clubs, movies, sports, that sort of thing is probably for the best.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

If it is spring, summer or fall, I tend to suggest walking in the park, if it's winter, head to the coffee shop.

I would dress appropriately for the park in the winter, but I find some people don't know how to dress properly during the winter season.

TheorionMage · Answer

Some semi-public place offering both physical safety and mutual anonymity. This IS an interview to ascertain 'common interest' . Getting to 'know' one another. Private enough  to afford candid honesty yet  public enough  to permit either to get up and leave,  without fear of retribution  of 3rd party ridiculing censure.

MichaelEspinoza · Answer

Well here's my opinion on this , my preferred place to go for a first date is a Pizza place to eat or going to the movies. Well the reason I said Pizza is because to me it's so romantic to be eating delicious Pizza while on a date with a girl. Or going to the movies & watching a movie with your date ♀️

Anonymous · Answer

Some popular first date ideas might include going for a walk in a park, meeting up for coffee or drinks, or attending a fun event or activity like a museum visit, a concert or a movie screening. Ultimately, the most important thing is that both parties feel comfortable and can get to know each other in a relaxed and enjoyable setting.

Guardian45 · Answer

If I go on a first date, I like meeting for coffee or going for walk on a boardwalk or to park. I have met for breakfast too. The key is to make it for a fixed time, so that if it's not going well, then you have an escape. If it IS going well, then you have the possibility to extend the date and spend more time together.
On my first date with an old girlfriend; we met for brunch, but extended it to the whole day!

Boomchakalaca · Answer

Movie theater is my go to because of that hour and 30 min time, ill see if I like them or not and vice versa. It is a simple date that each party can leave fast if they don’t like each-other or make plans thereafter if it goes well.

Sukaaa · Answer

I think it needs to be somewhere we can both speak and at the same time do something so it's not totally awkward but it doesn't have to be such a fancy place or somewhere you both are used to go to so you don't have to pretend to be something

Capricornunicorn92 · Answer

Doing something fun like bowling or arcade or skating followed by dinner. I find just going out to eat to be very boring.

ElGato31 · Answer

A walk in a park then a coffee at the cafe in the park. We can chat, it's cheap, it can be finished quickly or it can be escalated to having food. It's a chilled, no pressure first date.

Kabluie · Answer

Some of the best first dates are looking what's happening locally, could it be a public event, you know things that are coming up this season like renaissance fairs, expo/cons kind of things. Very public to just hang out.

Adam1978 · Answer

I prefer to just check if we get along so a longer walk or a fika is best. If there is chemistry we can go and do something more serious, otherwise we end it after 15 min or so.

UncleBilll · Answer

A walk to get to know each other, then if that works, then either lunch or dinner, then a few glasses of wine or beer. A walk to her place, holding hands and kissing, and then some great lovemaking and sex..

Crmolon · Answer

I think a walk is nice grab some coffee or something that involves an activity later in the date

Jdjfjcjj · Answer

My "preferred" would be in my house, starting in the living room, making our way to the kitchen, and then eventually the bedroom

alice55 · Answer

coffee shop, it's cheap and there's lots of people around so it's safe

Fabiloso · Answer

Honestly their place and not for sex, just a normal talking

Nikki1989 · Answer

Dinner + live band.

jgirl99 · Answer

For me somewhere with an ice breaker, movies roller blading something like that, with an activity to give some conco topics

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

Either my place or her place. I've never been on a date.

Justneedtokno · Answer

I really wouldn’t mind just going to the park or those farmers markets

Twalli · Answer

If we could go anywhere, not worrying about my health issues a baseball game. We live in a baseball city and everyone knows about baseball, and most take an intense interest in it.

GoingDownSouth · Answer

I like your ideas because they are smart.
I don't think you need to extend the first date past the meal and conversation though. Obviously it's smart to have a plan just in case you want to extend the date.

lottiebannotie · Answer

I prefer some kind of restaurant or a coffee shop somewhere we can talk get to know each other and see if we hit it off

Pirate_Jay · Answer

Someplace social but still allow is to talk and get to know each other. A club is too packed, the movies is kinda distracting and sitting in a park sounds nice until neither person says something

krin_m · Answer

It has been a long time since I dated, but usually it would be either for drinks or for dinner somewhere so we can talk and see if there is chemistry!

hismave · Answer

I'd like a date at a park. Like a picnic under the sun with fresh air and cool breeze. Food and snacks. Ending with rain and joy

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Coffee, dinner, meet at a park or beach. Something you enjoy to do that’s not too complicated so you can leave without too much hassle if it’s weird.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Something low key and easy where we can talk and end it quickly if we don't mesh well.

Iron_Man · Answer

Depends what’s going on, but usually traditional

TheFirstMan · Answer

Somewhere silent, like a silent hill or movie teater

Manuel2 · Answer

My bed and naked Or Macdonalds. Yes! I am cheap and nasty

Djaay · Answer

I don't date to get to know someone, I date if I already have established I want to date them.

msc545 · Answer

Dinner - it's quiet, and gives a chance to talk and get to know someone.

oixto · Answer

Somewhere inexpensive. Some of us find a woman going easy, financially, on a man and letting him do something fancy for her in his own time, sexy.

Bergy37 · Answer

Somewhere public, where she is comfortable. It should be something we both enjoy (like a sporting event, lunch, etc)

Weirdess · Answer

Somewhere fun for the both of us. Doesn't have to be fancy. As long as we enjoy each other's company on the day.

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Coffee at Starbucks and her giving me a BJ in the car afterwards

Justcurioustoday · Answer

Wine tasting. If he sucks the wine will make is less crappy.

GreenEyes_2020 · Answer

It's simple dinner would do.

serious · Answer

I never wish to date.

LoveBuggy · Answer

To the beach or park.

hafinjun · Answer

Her bedroom,😁, or mine

SweetTwistedSatanist · Answer

A drink, a talk and a walk.

FeminineHSP · Answer

My home. Preferably a naked date.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Park. I love parks.

billluc69 · Answer

in the bedroom

SnowedIn · Answer

Coffee shop.

JarneG · Answer

Somewhere public so nothing bad can happen

invalid1 · Answer

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