He said we should take some time apart?

[Anonymous]

I am beyond confused because I have been wanting to talk to him and he said he needs time yet as soon as I basically gave him a way out of the relationship by saying I wanted my belongings back and I accepted it already because it shouldn’t take him this long to think. he’s like “I do want to talk still” “I also feel like I need more time” “it hurts so f*cking much I miss you everyday” and says but he doesn’t wanna waste my time?

[definitelyNotHer]

Everything you did in this situation is completely mature and you should be proud of yourself for handling it that way.

Basically the exact same thing happened to me, and I'm going to tell you right now that if you get back with him he will end up cheating. You handled it the right way and you were right by saying it shouldn't take him that long to think. It's simple- either you want a relationship with someone or you dont and unless something traumatic happened where he would need time to think, he doesn't need anymore than 2 days.

From someone who's been there, don't take him back you'll end up getting hurt. You already handled this in the best way and said you had accepted it so stick to that. Maybe even block him so you don't feel pressured into going back.

[Asker]

I don’t know if him saying we should take some apart means as breaking up or if we are still faithful just need time apart to reflect on ourselves because we would fight yes and I remember him saying he has so much stress, we saw each-other everyday and woke up together too. It’s true tho I told him he shouldn’t have to think.. but it hurts. He hasn’t removed our pic on insta and I would think he would have blocked or unfriended me on social media.

[Asker]

Like it hurts bc he’s making me overthink and hurt. I shouldn’t have to feel that way. He gives me hope by saying he wants to talk still and because he dodged me wanting my belongings back. He gives too many mixed signals and it hurts.

[definitelyNotHer]

Girl I'm not even exaggerating this exact same thing happened to me. Him saying he was stressed and all. You don't deserve to feel that way and Ik taking some strangers opinion on the internet is hard but I really would just end it. He seems to be emotionally immature and not ready for a relationship whereas you seem to be.
When my ex told me he wanted a break we were still together and faithful just not talking and sometimes that can be very helpful, and in my case it was for a while. From what you've said it seems like he is unclear about his feelings for you which isn't fair to you. I would ask him if he's losing feelings and ask him to be honest.

[Asker]

I appreciate your replies they mean a lot :( I told him this earlier “ I support spending time apart 100% but I also want to assure we are on the same page before. are we going to be taking this time apart to focus on hobbies, family, and self care and kind of reflect on this relationship and what we can do for ourselves while remaining faithful to one another until we are ready to talk it out for the benefit of us?” Because I wanted reassurance you know? I support time apart so we can genuinely miss eachother and come back strong but he hasn’t replied yet I know he has had to seen it since I sent it earlier.

[definitelyNotHer]

That is exactly what breaks are for, reflecting on your relationship and coming back stronger. Not excusing his not replying but maybe he's busy? I'd suggest just sending leaving him be. If you don't get a reply -as awful it sounds- you have your answer

[Anonymous]

It sounds like your partner is feeling conflicted about the relationship and needs some space to sort out his feelings. It's important to respect his wishes and give him the time and space he needs to process his emotions.

While it can be difficult to hear that your partner needs time apart, it's important to remember that taking a break can sometimes be helpful for both partners to reflect on the relationship and determine what they want moving forward.

In the meantime, focus on taking care of yourself and your own emotional well-being. This can involve spending time with friends and family, pursuing your own interests, and engaging in self-care activities that help you feel grounded and centered.

When your partner is ready to talk, try to approach the conversation with an open mind and a willingness to listen. Remember, communication is key in any relationship, and it's important to work together to find a solution that works for both of you.

[Asker]

Thank you for this! I agree too but it just hurts because I texted him “ I support spending time apart 100% but I also want to assure we are on the same page before. are we going to be taking this time apart to focus on hobbies, family, and self care and kind of reflect on this relationship and what we can do for ourselves while remaining faithful to one another until we are ready to talk it out for the benefit of us?” And I have yet to get an answer from him because I want reassurance and to knows he’s serious about this. :(

[Opinion Owner]

You’re welcome and i understand. It’s understandable to want reassurance and to make sure that you both are on the same page during this time apart. However, it's important to remember that this person may need some space and time to sort through their own feelings and emotions, and may not be ready or able to provide the reassurance you seek. It's important to respect their boundaries and give them the space they need, while also taking care of your own emotional well-being. If and when this person is ready to talk and work things out, it's important to have open and honest communication about your needs and expectations in the relationship. Remember to prioritize your own happiness and well-being, and to communicate your needs and boundaries clearly with your partner.

[In_Trance]

It means he wants to bang other girls guilt free while you wait around until he's done