Why does it feel like its impossible to find a decent woman nowadays even with the most basic set of requirements? How do guys even find decent women?

[WhiteBoyChill]

Like my requirements are so basic yet its still like I’m asking for too much.

All I ask in a potential partner is this.

#1 They’re not a slut. They’ve never had any interest in hooking up with people.

I haven’t hooked up either, so no hypocrisy here.

#2 They’re not high maintenance and materialistic

#3 They’re not entitled and demanding

#4 They’re not feminist and “I don’t need no man”

#5 They’re not selfish and narcissistic

#6 They don’t blame me for all their problems.

#7 They’re willing to contribute equal effort to the relationship.

#8 They don’t constantly expose me to drama and a bunch of other BS.

#9 They don’t have daddy issues or emotional issues.

#10 They’re not easily jealous over dumb shit like a friend talking to their EX BOYFRIENDS.

Yet so impossible to find nowadays.

How the f*ck do guys even manage to find decent women?

It’s like literally impossible to find a halfway decent woman.

My requirements are literally just qualities every person in general should aspire to have.

But seriously, why the f*ck are there literally like no women that satisfy even the most basic of requirements?

[AmyHew1tt]

I do get why you think that's all there is. That is what the internet portrays after all. But I don't know what to tell you. I know many people who would meet those 'basic requirements,' so they do exist.

These girls feel the same way about guys, though. I mean, I know, logically, there are good guys out there who I'd be interested in, but all I ever see are either the jerks, the 'trod on me my queen' type, or the stiffly traditional. It's certainly a conundrum that many people are in right now.

[WhiteBoyChill]

What’s wrong with the traditional type of man?

[AmyHew1tt]

Nothing wrong with it, to a point. I resonate with a lot of traditional values, but there are some that are too deeply rooted that I wouldn't be compatible with.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Like what sorts of traditional beliefs are considered intolerable?

[AmyHew1tt]

For me? The idea that I wife should submit to a husband/obey him. I think being a traditional wife is fine, and it's stupid that so many feminists beat up on women for that, but I really value equality and putting equal effort into a relationship, without a designated 'place' for each partner in the household. I would like someone who wants me to make my own decisions, think for myself, and I would like him to as well.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Well I think the idea is that if there’s a needless argument where you can’t agree on something, the husband’s view should prevail over.

[AmyHew1tt]

And that's what I don't feel comfortable with, for myself. If others want to do it that way, they can. no judgment. But I pride myself on being reasonable and know I'd be doing myself an injustice bowing to someone else's decision based on a tradition.

[chrissykerdock]

you shouldn't date as it's not for you... think about going to church events and meeting a girl there who's ready to marry as you should be as you definitely aren't into the dating scene at all.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

It's because too many weak desperate guys throwing themselves at any girl and having absolutely no standards whatsoever, willing to accept anything. I've seen guys saying on here that they wouldn't mind marrying a pregnant girl carrying another man's baby or saying that it's okay if she is currently dating another guy while he's with her. It's sad.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Dude. Like I’ve met chicks from foreign countries before and they check pretty much all the boxes I listed. Its just for whatever the hell the reason, young women in America (and western countries in general like Canada and the UK) are just extremely cunt-like in general

[ImalwaysrightOK]

That's what I'm saying, too many pathetic guys throwing attention at unworthy girls in western countries with internet and feminism ruining men and making women think they are the best when they're just average.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Exactly man. And on this podcast here, just look at all these delusional ugly ass chicks ranking themselves 10’s
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=CzJILyLdT8k

[Exterminatore]

The men aren’t much better these days.


Church or a Christian dating site is probably your best bet.


This is the result of the moral destruction of our society. One of the many results of it.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Yeah but the thing is, after college I’m kinda worried I won’t have a better chance later lol

[Exterminatore]

Understandable to be worried. You have to have faith in God regarding this as the author and finisher of your fate.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I see what you mean. Its just at the same time though, you can’t be that person in life who just expects God to do everything for you. Faith does require a concious effort

[Exterminatore]

He brought you into this world, called you to his server and receive salvation.

The Bible says he who finds a wife, finds a good thing. What good thing would be withhold from you? He gave his son for you. I was where you were once. He’ll bring the right one at the right time.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Yeah but what I’m saying is if I were to just sit in a corner with my arms folded for the rest of my life, God wouldn’t bring me everything I need. He doesn’t reward the lazy

[Exterminatore]

There is some truth to that. You do what you know to do, he’ll grant your requests and you’ll find the one you’re looking for when he decrees it to be.

[richardcory]

I don't know for sure because those aren't the things I want, but there are probably women like that. Where have you been looking and what things do you offer to a traditional woman like that?

[WhiteBoyChill]

I’m in college dude. I meet literally hundreds of women a day. And every single one of them so far fails to satisfy the requirements I listed

[richardcory]

How can you tell? Some of those are things it takes a while to find out. But college probably isn't the best place to find traditional women - its more filled with women who want careers and more symmetric marriages.

Church social events may be a better place to look.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I mean, churches where I live are filled with old people.

[richardcory]

Surely there are still younger people in church. Some of my extended family is religious and lives in the midwest US, and their church has a lot of younger people as well as older ones

[WhiteBoyChill]

I’m not from the midwest US so maybe that’s my problem

[richardcory]

Yeah, I can imagine in some places its much more difficult.

[Rockstarrrrr]

Yeah they're harder to find but not impossible... Maybe because they don't draw attention as much as the toxic ones...