Can I assume the guy is not even interested in me at all?

[Anonymous]

I had meet up this guy a few times and I like him, we are comfortable with each other during date. However, I feel that he is distancing away from me. Before we meet up, he used to reply instantly. But now our text daily is like one or two message including weekends. He might have seen the message but just won’t open it. Our relationship are just friends..

He say beforehand that he is busy juggling with family and work issues hence I do not want to disturb him.
Guess I had to move on.

[Summeroflove]

Well. If he’s genuinely busy you need to be understanding of that. If you don’t feel it’s a good fit then sure move on. But I’m sure you get busy too and…. I’m sorry I don’t wanna come off as rude but you have to see that people have lives outside of yourself.

I think you need to directly express how you feel to him… and have a real conversation. If it’s not meant to be then it’s not meant to be. But you need to express your feelings like a adult and either talk to each other and see if you’re still into each other OR…. Break it off and move on.

[Screenwriter]

If someone is THAT busy, though, then maybe they don't have TIME to invest in a relationship.
"Look, I've been really busy. I'll get back to you in a few days!"" Granted, I typed that on a laptop, which is far faster. Took me 20 seconds. But on a phone, that'd be less than a minute. I don't think "too busy" is an excuse. IT's more like, can't fit you in, or don't care enough.. People have different priorities. If they can't or won't contact you, you've learned that YOU are NOT their priority.

[Summeroflove]

@Screenwriter if someone is at work or sleeping. Yes it is bust. Especially if someone wants to have a full on conversation.

But sure sometimes people aren’t in the right place for a relationship. But if you feel entitled to someone’s time and don’t feel they should have a life outside of you. Best of luck finding someone

[Summeroflove]

I agree if someone takes DAYS to respond. That’s a bit much

[Screenwriter]

I was not considering feeling "entitled" to someone's time in the sense that you always come "first" before anything else in their lives... Never occurred to me, cause since I have a life, I think other people have lives too!

[Summeroflove]

@Screenwriter well. If I have someone dying in the hospital. They come first. I’m not gonna loose my job just to have a conversation.

I agree if you’re deeply committed BOTH people should prioritize the other. One people seem to only want it one way around

[D_Bone_Steak]

Did he smash?

If there is not much else he wanted, then he's about to dash.

Smash'nDash.

[MJackson1234]

It depends. I will be honest with you. If you had sex or if he tried to sleep with and you didn't give in, well do I need to say more.

If not the above, sometimes things happen. Give him little space and see once he deals with his end if he reaches out. In the meantime live your life. If another guy catches your interest then move on but never go back to the guy that ignored while you are with someone else.

[jennifer_bloom]

A guy is not losing interest unless he does not have a reason for why he is not maintaining regular contact with you. My friend was engaged to her boyfriend and only talked to him for one hour on his birthday because she was busy studying and working. He understood she had a life outside him and was not offended, he married her.

[MJackson1234]

They were already in a relationship and committed. These two just met.

[Screenwriter]

You've answered your own question. If you were a priority, he'd message you. How much time does it even TAKE to message someone? Less than 5 minutes. Move on.

[es20490446e]

NO!

It's 5 after 5 after 5. All fucking day!

[TracyF]

Yes he probably isn't interested right now. Good way to make him take more notice in you is to stop pursuing him. Just be that undeniably sexy friend and keep it just friends till he makes a move or asks for more.

[strateguy632]

it was a polite way to separate. find someone else.

[es20490446e]

I don't like to spend the day texting people, even women I'm attracted to.

[shades777]

well you said it, your just friends

[In_Trance]

Yeah

[Cheerfull009]

He may be busy