Would it be shallow to not date someone based on looks if they have everything else you’ve been looking for?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been dating for 5 years now, have met many guys, some very attractive but none of them had the personality I was looking for or any respect for me. I’ve finally found a guy I have such a genuine connection with his personality is honestly perfect and we have a great time together, we make eachother laugh loads. But I am not physically attracted to him. He has features I like but overall I can’t say he is a very good looking man, but still I feel attracted to him because of him personality and the way he treats me and others. Should I still give him a chance? Would it be shallow not to date someone solely based off looks?

[DaveJord]

I am going to say yes it would be shallow but that does not make you wrong.

I spent my 20's chasing 8 to 10s... at 46 I would be totally happy to find a 5 with all the same qualities you have described this person as having. But your in your early 20's so by time you figure out I am 100% right you would be my age. But in your early 20's you still have time and this beleive that your man should be your everything, and when he is only 90% of that... well you think you can still do better.

Unitl you don't and your 46 and you at this computter responding to a 20 something and thinking only if I could back in time. But I can't, just like you can't imagine yourself being with somone your not 100% physically attracted for the rest of your life. So you will never 100% appreicate this man for who he is, because you will always ask yourself what if I made different choices, i could be wth this other totally hot guy.

But thats what you have been doing and you see how that works out for you.

[MrOracle]

Good-looking people almost never have good personality traits, because they've never needed to. They tend to be shallow, selfish, and self centered, because they can easily get away with it. If you chase looks, as most women do, you will end up dating all the same guys they do - the same good-looking guys who use them and dump them without a second thought.

[Screenwriter]

Well, you're pretty young. Looks are often the No. 1 thing someone in your age range considers when dating.

However, you cite the most important attributes: how he treats you and others, his personality.

So, you have to decide if his average looks and his exceptional other attributes are good enough for you.

My feeling is that the more you know a good person, the better they look to you. But no matter how pretty a lousy person is, they just get uglier and uglier over time because, well, they're LOUSY people who treat other people, i. e. you, badly and disrespectfully.

Consider carefully.

[boggboss]

If u need to ask if u should give him a chance then don't nobody wants to be dated out if pity especially if their partner is not actually attracted to them

[TracyF]

If you're not attracted to him then a core part of the foundation of you relationship is missing.