90% of marriages that start after one year of dating FAIL. That is FAR too soon to get married for most people. Literally unless living together within the first month, and THAT would be cause for concern in another way (desperation, no sense of proper behavior, etc.), you barely know your SO in a year.
Almost ALL marriages where the spouse complains well Johnny wasn't abusive when we met and Sally wasn't a slob when we met are due to being rushed. They met, get married and fuck themselves over because that abusive or slobbish nature was ALWAYS part if their boyfriend or girlfriend they just DID NOT know the person long enough to realize that marriage would BE A MISTAKE.
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1 year is not anywhere near enough to know the other person. Unless you immediately click with someone and your lives merge well together 1 year is a silly idea.
At a minimum it should be 2 years, with at least 6-12 months living together. This why you have a decent understanding of your SO's behaviour, habits, personality, etc.
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Statistically at 1 year the average couple has just begun to think about moving in together so, really, you're still more stranger than you are someone a person is thinking long-term partner.
I would probably turn them down because it feels pretty soon for just one year of knowing each other. There are other things to look at. Have you tried living together for a year or two? Are you both on the same page for future life goals? Have you gone to marriage counseling or classes to learn how to communicate and tackle big potential problems that can come up in the marriage? That is what would stop me from saying yes. I am not turning them down, buy those are big things we need to consider.
I could imagine saying no because one year of dating isn´t enough for me to know if I want to marry them. Especially if it´s a LDR or a relationship where both work in different shifts and there is not much time together one year of dating doesn´t seem much.
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It looks like your relationship was not for marriage from the beginning. It might have been just for love or flirting, which is not the same as having marriage in mind. Marriage is a prerequisite for love, and not vice versa. I suggest you leave each other alone for a while and then propose for marriage if you are interested in her.
N. B. this is in the case she has refused your proposal.A year is not nearly enough time to have known someone will enough to marry them. If we'd been living together for a year then maybe, but just dating for a year, definitely no. It would also depend on how old I was at the time, I definitely wasn't ready to settle down in my early 20's, and only started to think about it in my late 20's
One year is a little fast, but if we really hit it off and were spending a lot of time together, I wouldn't say no.
I really don't understand these people who date for 4+ years and still aren't even engaged. If you don't know if your boyfriend/girlfriend is the one after 3 years max, it's time to move on.
Personally that's not even long enough time to really get to know someone. You don't even get real until the 2nd or 3rd year. I mean the first year y'all just being cute figuring each other out.
Yeah, for starters 1 year is barely any time when it comes to a serious relationship, but personally I would say no even after 5 years as I don’t want to be married.
I think the biggest contributor to a lasting marriage is premarital counseling. It forces couples to come to grips with concepts and ideas and beliefs and perspectives and their past, and make sure that they are aligned with their potential partner. Many people are either ignorant, or they are afraid to broach such subjects and lie to themselves, saying “love is enough“. Successful, premarital counseling I believe is the best indicator to a lasting marriage.
I don't feel I know her well enough yet, she still gives me trust issues. I'm only marrying once. So if I say "I do" you can be damn sure i mean forever. And I'm not going to do that unless I'm CERTAIN she means forever to. Because, as I said I WILL only do this ONCE.
One year is way too early for an engagement in my eyes.
If we had lived together for a year. That's a different story.A year is pretty soon. I’d have to be deeply in love
If I was to say no, it would most likely be because 1 year isn't enough time to decide if I want to commit to this person for the rest of my life.
I don't think that's long enough to truly know a person. Add a few more years.
I would say No only if I wasn't sure he was the right guy for me.
Unless we really vibed and connected i would say yes.
Some people are just not ready to settle down. Sometimes you can be in a relationship with somebody and you are both at different places in your respective lives.
I wouldn't say no. Cause if im with someone it is to marry them..
Well, for me it's because I don't want to marry them but I know who I want to marry within minutes.
Not, there could be many different reasons. One thing is certain, there is no going back.
1 year is good enough to know a person and then move on to the next stage provided they had a talk about it. If not then you need to have it once so that you can see where you both stand that's what I believe
If you ain't sure by then then you ain't really invested.
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