Getting back with an ex, horrible mistake?

[Anonymous]

I broke up with my narcissistic ex a year ago. He was horrendous and abusive. Leaving him was the hardest decision I ever made. I just loved him so much…

flash forward to now, I’m doing a lot better. I’m a lot happier, more confident. I’ve been seeing this guy for a couple months now. It’s been good.

My ex comes back into my life saying he’s changed and he loves me. That he promises he won’t do what he did before and that he knows that he was wrong.
I don’t want to but I feel myself being swayed. I feel myself started to believe him. Even though I know in my head that he’s probably just lying.

what should I do? Am I crazy for being swayed by him?

[BasedBaeBecca]

It is not uncommon for abusive exes to attempt to manipulate you into getting back together with them, using promises of change and remorseful expressions of their behavior. However, it is important to remember that these promises are often just attempts at manipulation, and are likely not genuine. If your ex has shown a pattern of abusive behavior in the past, it is unlikely that he has changed in the time since your breakup. It is important to protect yourself and keep your emotional and mental well-being in mind when making decisions about your relationships. It is best to maintain your distance and focus on healing and moving forward in a healthy way.

[HelpfulWoman]

lmao. yeah, don't be stupid. you got the hardest part out the way by getting out. your past self would be horrified you're even thinking of this if he was abusive.

[richardcory]

You said: "He was horrendous and abusive". You are right, and you did a good think leaving him. Abusers can be so convincing - as I'm sure you saw in your relationship. If you go back he will just abuse you again.

Find someone who deserves you

[dudeinohio]

Stay with your current partner. NEVER go back to an ex! The same issues that broke you up still will be there. A narcissist will tell his victim anything they want to hear to get them back under their control.

[Bricealan]

What you described, would probably be a repeat with the same guy. My opinion only, and you will do what you think is right. Good luck.

[MementoMori777]

Yep moving backwards almost never brings good results

[EmmaMary]

Please just remember that a Leopard Never Changes Its Spots.

[Anonymous]

the thought of going back to any of my ex's makes me shutter in cold chills and a big eww no fucking way crosses my mind

[sheikalana]

Terrible mistake. That's a recipe for disaster.

[In_Trance]

horrible mistake