Is the only point for a man to go clubbing with his mates to find a one night stand?

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Miristheiss · Accepted Answer

I would say it is a bad idea in either case, for a man to go out clubbing without his girl or her going out clubbing without him.

The entire purpose of clubs is for single people to drink alcohol, meet, flirt, talk, dance and for the two opposite sexes to come together in a sexually charged atmosphere.

If there is a committed relationship... neither should accept single behavior from a mate. If that is what they are doing with their friends then you should probably just move on to someone else.

Don't get me wrong, it is fine and good for people to go out and do things with their friends but if staying out until 2, drinking at a club is what they do with friends then they need new friends or you should just set that mate free.

Girls should be going out for coffee, shopping, going to park, going to a restaurant, going to the movies, doing some hobby... etc. Not going to clubs and drinking and getting hit on all night and dancing with other men. That is SINGLE behavior.

Guys should be lifting weights, going to ballgames together, going and playing ball, going out to eat, hanging out at each others place, playing video games, going to movies,... etc.

Clubs? That's for single guys.

Nothing good can come of those in relationships going to clubs alone. Them even wanting to do that probably means they aren't going to be a good long term fit.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

Absolutely not, guys like to go and just have fun. Now would drinking with mates, dancing and clubbing make it 100% more likely that he might get a one-night stand? Well maybe, all depends on the guy. I mean if there is 0% chance he would cheat, then yes 100% more of 0% is zero.

You tell me, how much do you trust your man? I mean if there is 5% he might cheat, then once he is out, and in the moment, and this hot sexy thing is all up on him... yeah there is 105% chance he would do it.

provokeesmokee · Accepted Answer

Revolutionary idea: sometimes men go to the club with their friends because they like hanging out with their friends, and they don't care about the women there.

EmmaMary · Accepted Answer

I was always under the impression that was solely their intentions! lol

MrOracle · Answer

I would say that's the case about 75% of the time. The others are guys who actually enjoy dancing or maybe just drinking in group settings - and, yes, that does exist. Still, your assertion is largely true.

AviatorTom · Answer

Some guys, maybe. But most guys are just out to have fun with their mates. Maybe have a polite contest among themselves to see who can get the prettiest girl to dance and sit with them.

Finchie40 · Answer

It’s 50/50 , it’s something that Girls’ do as well , so to truly know what someone’s true intentions are , is something we really don’t have any control over period , we can assume they are being up to no Good or assume they are being Good , One thing I learned about relationships is you can’t fully commit to someone , that isn’t going to fully commit to you , and prioritize you , like you do to them , if you give your heart to someone , they need to give you the same back in return or the relationship will not last period and it will just be a waste of time , basically thank you for a good time, but not a long time , Most people in general are selfish people that only truly care about themselves, if someone doesn’t know how to remove selfishness in a relationship , then that relationship is not going to last period. Unless you are both selfish people that enjoy cheating on each other but to me that’s not even a relationship that’s just a convenience. For a real relationship to last and for love to grow , both partners need to wear each others shoes before making decisions, and understand they can’t always be right and their partner is wrong but sadly most people can’t do that for each other because they only think about what is best for themselves Cheating is a selfish act period , A person that cheats is only thinking of themselves , they do not know how to love the same way they want to be loved in return , because they are selfish. Basically you can’t expect someone to do for you, if you can’t do for them. I am far from perfect none of us are perfect period , I have made a lot of dumb choices and decisions in my life time and had my heart shit on as well I been on both sides of the spectrum But I look back at all those times as a learning experience to myself of what to trust and what not to trust , We can only love someone the same way we want to be loved in return , we can also love someone and not be with them as well So if someone chooses to walk away from you , or chooses to cheat on you let them Go and Walk away and realize you deserve better than that , if some truly loves you , they will not cheat on you period , they will resist temptation the same way they want you to resist temptation for them as well. We can only hope that our partner is doing the same for us in return , if not then Oh well they are t worth your time and they will eventually suffer the consequences of their actions and it will slowly eat them alive once they realize how much of of a POS they truly are , so my advice is to value your self worth and treat someone the same way you want to be treated , If you want to cheat or hook up with someone else , understand only you are digging your own grave and understand you do not deserve to be loved because you are a selfish person period , if a guy truly loves his girl , he wouldn’t put himself in those environments without his partner period. People that claim they need space in a relationship are people that only think of themselves, you shouldn't need additional space from someone you love period , when a partner tells you they need space , let them Go and move on , never be with someone that only likes the convenience of you , Never be with someone that says you are being insecure or you don’t trust me , it has nothing to do with that what so ever , They don’t respect you period so don’t respect them. Me personally is not going to stay committed to a girl that needs space from me period or plans trips without me , If I am not her top priority she will not be mine , never be a sitting duck for someone that doesn’t prioritize you the same , You will have Sucker written on your head

TheOldeMan · Answer

No, sometimes guys just want to spend time with their friends, the same way you do. Now, is there opportunity for some to step out? Absolutely. But the vast majority just want to go and have a good time.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I only enjoyed dancing back at my time of clubbing 5-6 months ago. Just dancing, nothing else.

inhua · Answer

yeah to hopefully find a woman who is looking to cheat on her boyfriend/husband and bang her thus when they get caught, he can plead innocence because he doesn't personally know the boyfriend/husband

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Probably, it's not a good way to meet a match unless you are in a band and meet another band member you relate to.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Either that or to dance on drugs till they pass out.

Staximus · Answer

Here in Southern California, most of the guys that go to clubs are sleazy male sluts looking for drunk female sluts. Guys don't go to clubs here just to dance unless they are gay.

WhitneySnow · Answer

No. They might just like the scene and hanging out with their friends.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Not the only reason. But a lot of guys will be looking for a quick thrill

LiamJHayden · Answer

Nope. I don't do "one-night" stands. I might go out to meet someone or just to get out.

Grovermint · Answer

I didn't seek a one night stand when I went. I actually was looking for a relationship.

RyanK9b · Answer

Just cut the Ons out. Mostly its to bang a chick, what ever happens afterwards is open.

Anonymous · Answer

Everything a man does and everywhere he goes is for the opportunity to see women.

Anonymous · Answer

@LittleSally Did your husband go clubbing or what?

Anonymous · Answer

I’ve never been to a club but I would go to see what it’s like I wouldn’t go just for that purpose, dk about everyone else can’t speak for them

Mallic00 · Answer

I mean i dont even like alcohol so why else would i go to the bar?

DextroShade · Answer

That's the only reason anyone goes to the club.

elizamichale1 · Answer

Maybe its half n half lol who knows

SeaStorm1 · Answer

some men will and some men will not.

noohair · Answer

That is stereotyping of men.

butterly248 · Answer

Not all the time

Anonymous · Answer

Nope

azgınteke · Answer

no maybe drink

Anonymous · Answer

Yesss sure

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