u 1. A guy should not need "permission" to do something. That suggests that he is on a leash. Unless he thinks of himself as a puppy dog, that is a horrible sign of things to come in the relationship and it will probably fail.
2. If a guy is in a committed relationship, he should stay out of strip clubs as a sign of respect for his partner. It should be his VOLUNTARY action, not something which he avoids because he can't get permission.
3. Once again, the Golden Rule applies. Would a guy want his partner going to watch other guys getting naked?
Very true and wise!
@DianaWest Freedom does not mean that a guy is going to do something disrespectful to you. No freedom means you have a prisoner, not a partner, and you should expect your prisoner to look for a way to escape.
i just don't understand the need for men to go to strip clubs. how am i supposed to know he is going to be "respectful?" isn't browsing the internet enough? excuse me for having trust issues. anyways, if he wants to have freedom, i'll have some freedom as well. see if he likes it like that.
@DianaWest I understand your concerns and I don't think you are being unreasonable but "getting even" does not set the right tenor for a relationship.
@DianaWest I don’t think freedom equals going to the strip club. The opinion also stated that when in a comitted relationship one should stay out of these things, but of own free will and because they don’t desire to. If you have to tell them don’t do this, don’t do that for everything and they want to do these things but only reason they don’t is because you are nagging is it then really worth it.
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Like most things, I think they should be *allowed* but have the common sense to not.
I'm probably gonna get a lot of flack for this but.. why not?
Hell it's like watching porn; it's not like they're cheating on you. As long as they look, but don't touch... and aren't there too regularly to where most of their paycheck is going to a stripper (lol), it's not a big deal. Besides if he goes to one, I'm going to a female strip club then and he can't complain 😂
There is much touching going on in Strip Clubs especially if you get a lap dance!
Lol! I know but those women are paid to do that. I personally wouldn't do it... ever. But as long as it doesn't go past that and the clothes stay on my guy? That's fine.
You have to trust your partner for sure!!!
Okay!
@Thotkiana I am sure there are some really sleezy clubs out there with back rooms like you mentioned but most wouldn't want to go out of business and take that risk. I mean lap dances can get kind of heated!
@Girther10 Yes, thank you! It's like the old saying, "Look but don't touch." As long as he's not cheating on me with those women, let him look! Hell, there are strip clubs for women so I can't even say it's something just men do... sorry ladies; I'm just speaking my mind here.
(Good grief, I woke up to a shit storm of replies to this comment- saw that coming!)
This is probably an old thread... and I don't have much of an opinion either way as it is between each unique couple, but to say it is the same as viewing porn is far from the reality. Going to a football game is far different than watching it on TV. Seeing a live concert is much more intense than watching it on TV. So to say that watching a nude woman dance around on TV is the same as sitting in front of her is again, not a realistic comparison.
If my boyfriend wants a sexy striptease, I'd love to give him one.
I dont like the use of the word "allow" but I dont think it's a good idea. That makes me sick. I dont want to be in a relationship were the person I love goes to a strip club. I'd rather just be alone.
What if he wanted you to get a lap dance at the strip club?
I would not want a lap dance.
I dont think that's the case for every man. But if that's the case, maybe he'll be lucky enough to find sister-wives that can give him that. I'm out.
I agree with this.
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I hate how this is worded. Of course men are 'allowed' to go because they are their own person and can do what they want.
I think the question you should have asked is do their partners have a right to be upset if they go to a strip club. To THAT question, my answer is yes.
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@cavmanier You are correct. It was done on purpose.
Did you want that exact question addressed? We may have thought you meant "is it appropriate." If so, your answer is really quite obvious. It would be as silly as a woman asking if she's allowed to walk down a dark alley with 10 rapist hiding in bushes. We would probably think she meant is that a smart idea.
@cavmanier I wanted people to think whatever they wanted to think. Many people believed ALLOWED meant by SO, boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife, some thought crazy stuff like a new law being enacted. Specificity is the killer of engagement.
There was a better way to word this question, though. You worded it in a way like men need permission to do something when they don’t because they are independent people.
I word questions the way I do to get the most engagement.
No, if my partner wants to see a striptease, sexy dancing and want a lapdance, I'd gladly do it for him. I don't want him to go to stripclubs.
If my partner looked like YOU, I wouldn't want to go to a strip club !!! LOL
@loveslongnails is your wife ugly?
@Bishop-Brennan I don't have a wife and currently choose to be single.
@loveslongnails just creepin on other people's then.
@Bishop-Brennan Huh? What does that have to do with my reply, referring to having a girlfriend who looked like that? Chill out, man.
@loveslongnails So if a wife or girlfriend doesn't look the way she did when you first got together or got married, it's OK to check out other chicks?
What if you don't look the same as you used to? Is it OK for your wife or girlfriend to go to Chippendales?
I believe it's ok, just no lap dances or anything like that, look but don't touch
@Girther10 
Because your thread is popular and haters going to hate!
That's an access to say, sorry it just happened never meant to. Stay at home imma strip for ya😂😂
Lmao right! That’s my money he is spending on them, not his.
Correct. Like she needs it more? Lmao. She has a thousand juice boxes to suck WHY SHE NEEDA SUCK MINE? Hahaha
Nope. A man with a girlfriend or wife has no business wanting to see other women getting naked.
They shouldn't want to. And the reason I know this is: there are a lot of men who wouldn't "allow"/like it if their girlfriend/wife went to a male strip club.
And what if the guy isn't satisfied with just watching? What if he wants a lap dance or there's touching involved? When does it stop being "it's no big deal/it doesn't mean anything" (which is what a lot of guys say when their significant other finds out they've been to a strip club, watched porn, etc.) and when does it become cheating?
And I don't get why some guys still want a bachelor party where there are strippers. I know it started back in the day (a long time ago) 😄 when marriages were sometimes arranged and the man really didn't want to get married, where he felt he was losing his freedom and this was his last hurrah, etc., but (hopefully) that's not the case any longer.
Hopefully, if a man gets married, it's because he wants to get married. I know it may be an excuse for his friends to see half-naked or even naked women but if they're married/in a committed relationship, should it be ok for them to want to see other half-naked or naked women? Would they be comfortable with their wives seeing half-naked or naked men?
I think enough people have already mentioned why using "allowed" in this context is problematic so I'll just move past that.
I just don't see why going to a strip club would be a) necessary and b) respectful when you're in a relationship. There's so much free porn you can see on the internet. Why waste money on going to a strip club? I also think there's a pretty big difference between just watching a video on a screen vs. seeking out half-naked ladies in real life and paying them money for it. Honestly when it comes to the latter, I'd be wondering what else he's seeking out or paying money for, potentially behind my back. Not to mention that I think dudes who frequent strip clubs are in general quite sleazy individuals. Even for a bachelor party it's like... really? You have zero imagination and couldn't come up with anything that's less unoriginal, trashy and pointless?
I dunno. I just don't have any interest in paying men to strip for me. I kinda want my partner to be on the same wavelength in that regard. I just don't think it's respectful to seek shit like that out, and even pay for it.
I don't look at relationships from the standpoint of what you are or are not "allowed" to do. I look at it in terms of what terms have you "agreed" to abide. Because now it's a matter of character and your word. It's not, THIS IS A RULE AND YOU BETTER LISTEN OR YOU'LL BE IN TROUBLE!
But to your question. If the terms he agreed to is that he would not go to strip clubs. Then he shouldn't go to the strip club, unless he's willing to walk away from the relationship just to have this one thing. It's all about whether or not he cares that much about it vs his relationship with this girl and how much she cares about him going or not vs her relationship with him. If you look at it realistically. Just imagine you had your perfect partner on every level, but one thing he just will not agree to is not going to stripclubs. He's not going there and sleeping with strippers. Almost always going out with coworkers and just chilling out with the boys. How many girls would be 100% unwilling to bend on this a little?
Personally, I've had relationships where my girlfriend would take me to a stripclub when I otherwise would not have gone. So my view on stripclubs is a little different. It's not a naughty thing. Like there is that element obviously, but I would be okay with my girl going to an male stripclub as long as she's not going there to get fucked. That would all be a part of our conversation regarding the terms of the relationship agreement.
I'm not even big on stripclubs, but I don't think any man should ever agree to NEVER going in his life. Especially if he has that fantasy. If he just doesn't care, never goes, never plans to go and has zero fantasy around it. Then sure, have that agreement. Because he doesn't even want it. But if even 5% of him is curious and wants to go. Then I don't think he should agree to that. You're just building it into something that it doesn't need to be.
allowed? sure can do what he wants. good idea.. prob not unless it helps to amp up their relationship sex life. I know a guy who goes... as his relationship is probably flat. what does one do to fill in the void and amp relationship... that is the question... not sure this is the answer...
was dragged to one once for bachelor party. I was disgusted and felt bad for my friend. no thanks! I'll take a real woman, thought was gross. I drive by one every day to church, no interest. I'd rather have a real woman and God rather than be teased by women.
Yes but proceed with caution 😆.
My friends sister got pissed at her husband for going to the local Friday night titty show every Friday and coming home shit faced.
My dad went off on a boys night out with the Air Force guys, it's was my mum's 19th birthday, she was 8 months pregnant and living in Malaysia on a Raff housing base.
Guys don't do either of these.
I actually wouldn't date a guy who felt the need to go to a strip club on a regular basis.
The last time my husband went to a strip club was on his bucks night 14 years ago.
I also will get a lot of flack from this, why not why shouldn't they go, on our girls night out we call in a male strip club sometimes, and most of us are married, in fact how I understand it women at male strippers are often worse than the men at their strippers party
I refused to even go to a strip club when i dated one that said she would give that up. but later on continued and lied to me about men never have touched her while dancing. to get me to cope with it. and then everytime she went ro work. she would come home and tell me that thats what happend. and wouldent even let me kiss her when i would drop her off at work. not giving me the choice to want that or not. and be hurt all the time because some man had his hands all over her. and wo der why i was so depressed and feeling like i needed to get high and smoke weed. its ok for people to decide for them selves. but not ok when they lie to you about it. that would be like being a swinger. but never agreeing to it. just somehow you one day realized thats what was going on. but niw your in love with them and can't change that and always feeling hurt and betrayed like ur other half of ur body is eating the other half away slowly. with all this. and then you slowly find ur self self medicating because your so tired of hurting.
He's allowed to do whatever it is that he wants. He's not married. But that does not mean that that person has to stay with them or date them. I would never want to be involved with a person who wants that. You might as well just stay there.
What do you mean "allowed"? The business allowing them? The girlfriend/wife? Businesses of course would. In terms of the partner, well, it's ultimately up to the guy to decide if he will or not, but I would hope that they have a strong enough relationship that he wouldn't have the desire to.
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Well first off, I am not his mother. I can't "allow" or "disallow" him to do anything. He is a grown man and can make his own decisions.
I think if a strip club is an idea, just be honest about it. I used to be insecure over the thought of a strip club. But that was also because underneath it all, I didn't trust him.
If there is a solid foundation of trust and honesty there, and he has a good moral compass nothing bad is going to happen. (Tbh, it would be a good night for me to order pizza and relax or do what ever u want I don't know lmao). And there is nothing to worry about. At the end of the night, he is coming home to you.
I'm just callin' it like I see it. Women have no idea, sometimes, what goes through a guys mind. Guys talk to each other. My pessimism is reality. I'm just trying to give women a heads up. If a guy goes to a strip club, watches porn, it's disrespectful to his woman.
Guys put stuff in other people's drinks for a laugh. It can happen to anyone.
I'll counter that with this question: Should women be allowed to go to a male strip joint if they are in a committed relationship? I don't know what goes on in a guy's strip joint, but when women go see naked men in a girl's strip joint they sometimes give the strippers blow jobs and get down with them. But don't you think what is good for the goose is good for the gander?
Good points stuff like that goes on too at the mens strip club so it really comes down to the couple and what they agree on!
I thought there were rules at a strip club that men weren't allowed to touch the girls or they get tossed out, or is that just on TV?
What... hell no.. men can touch the girls all they want in most clubs that are nude... they give dollars to the girls to get their face smashed in between their tits! Over and Over and lets not get into what happens during lap dances.
It might be a good idea to ask the girl's opinion. If you're in a strong committed relationship communication is key. Plus you don't want it to seem like you're sneaking behind her back. Some girls will be okay with it, and some won't. How long you've been together will be a factor but other things will too.
in moderation yes...
for instance, we had 3 friends that were all in relationships. one guy was in the military> He came to visit us once a year and once a year we would all go to a strip club once for some beers and background noise... we barely went there to creep on girls --> we spent most of the night yapping away and catching up... but every so often you'd look up and see a sexy girl and it would just heighten the whole experience...
that was very innocent, we didn't get personal dances mostly just getting drunk and leaving --> now I think anything more than that is too much... and when most of us got married... that tradition has now stopped which I also think is the right thing
should see how much attention you get from a girlfriend after you come back from a boys night out to the strip club hahah... its like she all of sudden wants to reclaim whats hers lol
Haaaaa! The fact that so many people voted no is hilarious to me. The question used the word "allowed", essentially asking if they have the right or if it's legal. The wording makes it a fact based question and the factual answer is yes. Therefore everyone who voted otherwise is wrong.
Allowed was used on purpose to trigger a response to whatever they deem the word means to them. Allowed by their girlfriend, some law that might be introduced, etc etc...
Then your question fulfilled its purpose. I suppose my answer reflects what I think the word 'allowed' means.
Sure.. I mean for some what comes to mind is their significant other... for others they think like you! Overall I got close to 500 votes and a couple of hundred comments... that is a good day on GAG LOL.
if i find out about this shit, i am leaving his ass right away. i don't respect any man who disrespects his woman like this. men who go to strip clubs clearly don't give a fuck about their wives or girlfriends and are looking for a little "excitement" and diversity. probably got bored with the woman they supposedly "love." i think more women should start enjoying strip clubs from now on. we should also take some pics and leave our phones unlocked for our lovers to see. look babe, i had some fun last night. sorry, i felt the need for "diversity."
Got it! Thanks for the comment!
I personally have no problem with a strip club. It's like watching porn, you are looking but can't touch. And wouldn't stop a partner watching porn if we were together. Wouldn't stop them going to a strip club either if they wanted.
They are allowed to do whatever they want, it is their choice. But if it was my man doing that, I would be very upset and hurt. Honestly, if he wants to see a woman strip, I'll be that woman lol good thing my boyfriend isn't into that stuff and only enjoys seeing me naked and not some random Whores in a club.
as a frequent strip club goer I say yea. when we go to strip clubs we go there to see and barely touch. we dont go there to date or even fuck the strippers which a lot of the times is not possible to accomplish.
unfortunately not a lot of people are going to agree with me because people have somehow become too insecure nowadays and can't seem to understand the true concept of a relationship. a lot of people will think you're cheating on them just by you THINKING about someone else
That is a good point!
Depends on the night my friend!
@dipta "Maybe they just don't want that lifestyle for themselves regardless. "
that sounds pretty hypocritical and contradicting. maybe they really dont want that lifestyle but I DO and they ATTACK ME FIRST over that for a reason. if they weren't insecure and SELF-RIGHTEOUS they would of keep their opinions to themselves and not try so hard to attack me for having a different preference than theirs
Sure, they can whatever they want. Free will. Just don’t be surprised when your girl is pissed and leaving out the sore with her stuff.
Unless you're in an open relationship or non-exclusive one, it's the most stupid and redundant idea. If you're committed to one person, what's the point of wanting to go feel up others? Is the sex-life or emotional part of your relationship that bad? Damn, just break up and go have fun with the strippers then.
The only reason I'd be fine with my boyfriend going to one is because I know he doesn't actually want to go and he doesn't want lap dances and shit from other women, so he'd refuse it. We have complete and utter trust in each other with these kinds of things. For his brother's birthday, his other bro really wanted to go to one and he told him no. He said he didn't want to. And I didn't even know about this, his brother told me. When I found out, I went to my boyfriend and told him I know he's not gonna do anything, so he can go if his bro urged him, but he just didn't like it~
That's how you know you have a stimulating and healthy relationship.
I'm not a big fan of strip clubs or guys that go to them. But I said yes because you shouldn't allow anything- you shouldn't have that kind of power over anyone in a relationship. Make your feelings known... then stand back and watch how he conducts himself... then decide if it's a guy you want to be with. For example I would not stress if it was once or twice a year.. but daily or weekly is a different story. Signing up to be "the Keeper of His Morality" is not a rsign of a healthy relationship... your not his mom.
Yes, but they shouldn't go. Just like my boyfriend "allows" me to wear "no room for the imagination" type of clothing, but I choose not to out of respect for both of us.
Very nice !
Thank you :)
I hate to be controlling but yes it may drive me a little curious insecure of losing someone I coveted or have , but I also fear that if I do control then it can be upon me too. I hate compromising and being told how to be. So fear of reciprocal control may let me overlook their choices. This does not include being repeatedly disrespected. There’s a difference there.
If he wants a striptease I’ll be happy to give him one, but him going into a strip club while he’s with me (unless it’s his bachelor party) would make me feel like he thinks I’m not enough for him. That’s hurts
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Look, if you need to go see naked women that you can't touch to fill some need, you should be able to go for it. If my lady wants to go see "thunder from down under" and get all revved up, as long as she is coming home to me to get that itch scratched, I am all for it. I am 50. I have never been to a strip club. I have no desire to go to a strip club even though I obviously see the appeal.
I wouldn't go if I was in a committed relationship. Wouldn't want another girl besides mine.
The only way I would go in there if I was in a relationship would be for the following reasons. One, if I was acting as DD for my crew. Two, for a friend's bachelor party. Three, if she wanted to go for some reason.
I would say it all depends on what your relationship is like.
Personally i would say it is okay if you went there with a mate just to chill like in a normal bar.
Also every relationship i have seen, normally the girl has watched magic mike or something just cause they find the guy hot.
So isn't it pretty much the same thing, it's just eye candy, longs if there is no touching or personal feelings for the strippers i say it's all good.
Also i had a friend who wants to be stripper so what would be the problem of me popping in just to say hi.
But Again all depends who your with.
I think it depneds on the girls, girls who dont think highly of them selves dont like that very much. I wouldn't like it, not becasue I think he cheats or something, its just I dont see why he should go somewhere he pays for seeing beautiful girls dancing and undression themslwes when the has me who can do that everythime he wants to for free. And also a place where they is a change she can sit in underwear on his lap and dancing, It makes me feel really unconfortable. He can do as he likes but I will be in an uneasy feel even after he comes back for long time.
It’s a straight no for general visits for his pleasure/amusement but for his friends bachelor parties I don’t have an issue.
I trust my husband to go to places like that but there is something about men who regularly visit strip clubs I find unattractive (and a ridiculous waste of money)
They are allowed to do whatever they want as they are free individuals, but the other person is free to stay or go according to how their partner going to strip clubs make them feel.
It changes with the couple, if the one that is not going anywhere is ok with their partner doing so then "it's allowed" or meaning that their partner won't get mad or end the relationship. If the other person is not ok "it's not allowed", you put in risk your relationship.
"allowed" implies some sort of imperial structure. I think couples should be able to be honest with each other and discuss their feelings about issues which may be concerning and decide whats best for each other and the relationship. While relationships are supposed to be 50/50, on any given day they may actually be 80/20 or 40/60 or 95/5
Yeah it's fine. I don't mind if he's flirty or even a little handsy with someone else when i'm not around, I trust that he won't go having sex or falling in love with someone else. He has respect for my boundaries and wouldn't do anything he knows I wouldn't like hearing about the next day.
Just depends really if it a once in a blue moon thing I see no problem. But I can see were it may cause a huge problem in retrospect. I also feel like I would problem be like: this is where you spending our money... on a bitch who doing the same thing she has done to 10 other Johns. I would advise strongly for my SO to think long and hard before entering... 😐
I'll be honest.
I hate strippers, I hate what they do, I think they are worthless, I hate strip clubs and I think a man in love with a woman who has committed his heart to her shouldn't even want to go to a strip club and I'd support her 100% for leaving him for going to one.
I find it a bizarre world situation that so many think it is ok and normal to leave your mate to actually go PAY other women to sexually arouse you and turn you on and to provide sexually themed enjoyment for you.
That's sick.
If so, don’t get jealous if we grind against another guy’s bulge. Seriously.
Dude go away
Lmao
Okay man 😂😂
Not on a regular basis, but there's no harm in going to a titty bar with the guys occasionally, and of course no problem with her going to a men's strip club too.
I would not be in a long term committed relationship with a woman who is so insecure and untrusting that she has a problem with that.
Good point!
The problem arises with men who go to gentleman’s clubs, but don’t want their girl wearing revealing clothes or posting bikini pics. It’s the double standard.
However, if you don’t have that double standard I don’t see an issue.
@Coffeebeanz That's not a double standard. A man in a committed relationship going to a gentlemen's club occasionally with friends for an event like a bachelor party or whatever, or a committed woman going out with the girls for an occasional night at Chippendale's, has nothing to do with a woman in a committed relationship wearing revealing clothes in public or posting revealing pics of herself online. Not a double standard at all.
Generally, women don’t have the same desire for male strip clubs that men do.
The double standard I’m talking about is when a man goes to a club, looks at naked women but feels insecure when anyone looks at his partner
@Coffeebeanz It has nothing to do with a man being insecure about other men looking at his woman. It's about the fact that his woman deliberately dresses to get the attention of other men when she's in a committed relationship with him. The fact that she is so insecure that she needs other men's attention is not healthy for a relationship.
Another good point!
Allowed? Well, yeah. He's his own person and can do whatever he wants, though I'd hope he'd be satisfied with me and didn't feel the need to go get lap dances and watch other girls strip... Honestly, I don't think I'd stay with him if he was doing that.
Sure I'll give him that freedom if I can have that freedom as well. I've been to a male strip club though and it wasn't at all interesting. Most of the audience were fat old ladies and fat soon to be married women. The guys were pretty hot though but it wasn't something I was into. But it's nice to know I have the freedom to go to one if I wanted to.
@GingerGuy the set up is an auditorium. There are four chairs on the stage. I paid $20 to get in. To get a lap dance on stage you need to pay an extra $15. Your lap dance is probably 5 minutes long. When the show starts, one guy would come on stage. His theme song is playing and he slowly starts taking his clothes off down to a thong. The women in the audience are screaming for him. After his 20 minute dance the women who want to get a lap dance from him in front of everyone would sign up. There isn't a limit to how many women can sign up. The women sit on the chairs while they play another song and the guy just mainly performs sexual positions on them and dry humps them really rough. He especially does these crazy positions and puts his junk in her face a lot. And all of these guys are muscular, they need to be because they are just picking up these heavy ass women the entire time. They probably feel so freaking sore at the end of it. They have to perform endless amounts of lap dances to these women. They have to be different lap dances every time. Let's say he performs on one lady, after he's done with her she leaves the stage and another lady waiting in line off stage takes that chair and there is a line of 15 other women waiting to sit on the chairs. Their lap dances are like 5 minutes between each person. When the guy is done he looks like he's about to pass out he's so tired. They deadlift all these women who are very overweight. No offense to them but they are fat. Call a spade a spade. Each guy has his own show where he performs and then women pay to go on stage. And during breaks other guys come into the audience and you can get a free lap dance. The audience can't see the men full blown naked. But the women who paid for a on stage lap dance got to see the guys junk with his back turned to us.
@GingerGuy Yes the women can touch him. They touch everything. No private dances. That's how it was at the place I went to but I bet other places have it different. They seemed to really enjoy having his junk in their faces. The women would go crazy screaming with excitement lol. There is this crazy position the guys would do. On stage he would take this ladies hand and walk her over to this chair. Have her hands rest on a chair bending over. This chair is placed in the front of the audience. Then he would take another lady and pick her up and put that lady on the back of the other lady, if you can picture that. And then he would dry hump the both of them. I always thought what if the lady who's bent over collapses and the woman on top of her falls with her lol sounds funny but maybe a lawsuit waiting to happen. They definitely enjoy his body a lot. The women rub their hands up and down his body. Some would take liberties, taking their singles and shove it inside their thongs trying to touch it directly.
Depends on how often he goes🤷🏾♀️ every once In awhile I dont care.. it’s a visual. I wouldn’t mind going to a higher end classy place where the strippers actually dance myself.
@bailey11 okay... I've accepted 100 % monogamy as a myth... lie to yourself and say you want ONE VAGINA to look at and to have for the next 50-60 years? Looking at attractive women is a pass time for me. I can not and willl not blame my man for wanting a sexy ass dance I can't give him. It's fine! As long as I know whats going on i'm fine. They all trade in their wives, or cheat on her eventually anyway🤷♀️
YOU called it cheating... I called it looking. Get yourself tf out of here...
@coachTanthony As a wise individual once said: "You have heard that it was said, 'You shall not commit adultery.' But I say to you, everyone who looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart."
So I ain't gettin' out of here. lol I got as much right to be here as you do. If you can't put up with someone having a different opinion than yours, maybe it's you who should leave.
Eeeeeh…what?
I didn't know that the government monitors your relationship status and base on that it issues permit papers you need to go to strip club.
Oh, wait, I already know why. Because it's bullshit! Yeah, that explains things.
LMAO I meant would your SO allow you to go? Relax!
But you didn't say that! How are we supposed to know, what you mean when you say something completely different? Do you know, how guys laugh at girls expectations of doing just that?
My reaction is intentionally stronger.
And I don't have SO, which is surprise to exacly nobody. But I don't go there even now.
I am pretty sure there will be no law ever that would be put in place that would stop committed guys from going to strip clubs so Yes.. you are right I am sorry I wasn't specific! LOL.
Thank you. God, finally someone on the internet able to admit own mistake.
Holy shit man. You should get some prize for that. Or something.
Just your praise is enough man! Thanks! LOL
"Allowed" suggests that he needs permission. Other than the management of the club, who has the authority to deny him? He, much like his partner, has all the authority he requires. While his wife or girlfriend may prefer he not go, that is their personal failing, and they lack the wherewithal to compel or veto his choice. Likewise, his partner is sovereign in her life, and does not require permission to pursue other entertainment.
Being someone's romantic partner doesn't give you authority over them, like a parent over a child. If you think it does, you need to stay out of romantic entanglements.
Men who are in committed relationships can do whatever they want. Women don't love them for their morals or loyalty. They like them because they're hot, and part of being hot as a man is being inconsiderate and reckless and doing stupid, wasteful, frustrating things like going to the strip club. This is the adult version of the boy who pulls the pig-tails: "It's just because he likes you." I'm not saying this man I'm describing is healthy, but as to whether he's ALLOWED, sure. Men who women are attracted to can get away with pretty much anything because there aren't a lot of them.
@Denz1510 Even if that's true it's anecdotal. With a google search I can find a hundred articles about how being "nice" is disingenuous. They'll of course throw in the caveat that there are genuinely nice men, but they never really define what that looks like. I need to only look at the men who the most women are attracted to to find that the common denominators are things that aren't seen as good, but are seen as masculine, like risk-taking and impulsivity. I'm not saying that a man can't be sufficiently attractive to overcome a "self-righteous moralistic personality" or a "boring careful personality", or that there are no women who are attracted to moral men. But the amount of men who are willing to be team players and consider others' feelings far outnumbers the women who are willing to give them a chance. Masculinity is attractive. Masculinity is also self-aggrandizing and violent.
It never bothered me whenever he went out to the nudie bars with his friends to have some fun & entertainment.
And it shouldn't in my opinion. If you trust your man and he is a good man let him have a little fun once in a while... it's not a brothel.
Precisely!
I would be very mad at my boyfriend, he wants to see other women naked, he not happy with me, I don’t want him to get excited over some other woman naked. If he continues, I can see men naked too.
Of course they should! Otherwise, how could you pick the one who has enough respect not to do it lol?
I have not been with a man who fancys strip clubs. So no need to worry.
I look at myself as one who picks the man who like myself with integrity and respect that I am good enough for him.
Call me arrogant.
If I know about it, then I'm fine with it. If its a stag do/bachelor party, I'm fine with it too.
But if you do it behind my back, I'd be really hurt.
So as long as you know its all good.. . okay cool! Thanks for the comment!
I hear ya!
No, although it's not another person with whom he's sleeping with, he's still lusting over a girl with his eyes and I'm not into that. I'd be more than happy to sit my man down and give him a dance and a tease.
together with me? no problem
asking me if it's okay to go with his best friends? don't like it much but okay why not.
doing it secretly behind my back? he's in trouble
I hear ya !
My boyfriend went once when we were about a year into our relationship. I “let him” because he’d never been to one before and he has the right to know if it’s his thing because if it is I know that for the future and can give him strip teases and sexy dancing of my own. He hated it. He said everywhere he looked there was a girl trying to sit on him so he’d give them money. I saw on friends social media’s how awkward he was. He was just sort of sitting there awkwardly laughing 😂
@bailey11 he does enjoy it when I do it. He said he just felt awkward because whilst he was there he knew I was sitting at home waiting for him to come back. I wanted him to experience new things and I think everyone has the right to. I don’t know why he’d never done it before when he was single but that’s not important. He’s just very small minded and I wanted it to open it a bit.
Allowed? By whom?
MEN don't need 'permission' to go to a strip club.
Though I don't know why you'd want to go to one. What's the sense in paying a prostitute (which is what strippers are) to NOT have sex with you, just tease? If you want to just look, there's this thing on the internet called PORN, and it's free.
"to NOT have sex with you, just tease?"
you're very wrong on this one my friend, i think you should go to a strip club first before you say such thing. ever heard of lapdances or the champagne room?
"there's this thing on the internet called PORN, and it's free."
yea not everyone wants to be lonely and sheltered under a roof all the time. a lot of us like to go out and have a good time. also comparing porn to strip clubs is like comparing a Need For Speed game with actual street racing
@CasaNorba
I've been to strip clubs, thanks. If your listed age is correct (mine is not), I was going to strip clubs before you grew your first pubes. I've seen strippers in 7 different countries, on three continents. And yes, most of the strippers will fuck for money. And most strippers also have severe mental health problems, emotional problems, and/or substance abuse problems. So why would I want to go somewhere where very damaged women will have 'witnesses' who will back up whatever bullshit story they concoct? Spend a bunch of money and *maybe* get laid by a diseased, drug-addled whore. Or, go to a brothel, where there's at least something resembling standards as far as drugs, condom use, and disease prevention, pay less money, and DEFINITELY have sex?
not sure why you need to lie about your age. anyways yea I agree on the brothel part, but is too bad that brothels and prostitution are illegal in America so I have no choice but to comfort to strip clubs. till then i'm not sure why you worry so much about women there being broken or not because you're obviously dont go to them to date and commit to them
@CasaNorba
Just being in the vicinity of them can be dangerous. One of them trips out on drugs, falls down, and blames you, saying you attacked her. Next thing you know, you're in jail on felony assault charges. Or there's some simp that thinks a stripper loves him, and he decides to fight whoever touches 'his' girl. I've seen both of those happen. Strip clubs are too much trouble for too little gain.
The US is very backwards in some regards. Between the bible thumpers and the pussy cartel, brothels are likely to never be legal like they are in many places in Europe, Asia, the Middle East, etc.
" One of them trips out on drugs, falls down, and blames you, saying you attacked her."
OTFRL! dude do you live under a rock? non-prostitutes do these type of shit (or even worst) on a daily basis. if these things ever happens to you at the strip clubs the worst that can happen to you is the bouncers kicking you out of the club. oh well I never came across any territorial simps at strip clubs. dudes where I live are very leveled at the strip clubs, totally the opposite of bars and nightclubs where simps have literally killed just to have the chance to score with the club rats.
yea I agree with you once more. I think the reason why it will always stay illegal here in America is because it will destroy marriage, relationships and dating. lets not forget that americans are very hypocritical
Uhm.. that depends on the individuals involved in the relationship.
I would personally let my boyfriend go, we could even go together.
But he better not have a problem with me going to a strip club as well (probably won't. Waste of money).
Yes they should but there is often a double-standard. A lot of women will see nothing wrong with watching male strippers but will throw a fit if their guy wants to watch women strip.
True... there are a lot of women who think there man if given the chance would cheat that is why.
Going to strip clubs is already silly. You go to a place to pay for them to tease you.
Having an SO, while paying for someone to tease you is asinine.
I’ll just watch FREE porn.
Not sure I understand the question. Obviously that's something that only the two partners can decide, but the question is phrased as if it was about whether men should *generally* be allowed to do that. Am I misunderstanding it?
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