u 1. A guy should not need "permission" to do something. That suggests that he is on a leash. Unless he thinks of himself as a puppy dog, that is a horrible sign of things to come in the relationship and it will probably fail.
2. If a guy is in a committed relationship, he should stay out of strip clubs as a sign of respect for his partner. It should be his VOLUNTARY action, not something which he avoids because he can't get permission.
3. Once again, the Golden Rule applies. Would a guy want his partner going to watch other guys getting naked?
Like most things, I think they should be *allowed* but have the common sense to not.
I'm probably gonna get a lot of flack for this but.. why not?
Hell it's like watching porn; it's not like they're cheating on you. As long as they look, but don't touch... and aren't there too regularly to where most of their paycheck is going to a stripper (lol), it's not a big deal. Besides if he goes to one, I'm going to a female strip club then and he can't complain 😂
If my boyfriend wants a sexy striptease, I'd love to give him one.
I dont like the use of the word "allow" but I dont think it's a good idea. That makes me sick. I dont want to be in a relationship were the person I love goes to a strip club. I'd rather just be alone.
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I hate how this is worded. Of course men are 'allowed' to go because they are their own person and can do what they want.
I think the question you should have asked is do their partners have a right to be upset if they go to a strip club. To THAT question, my answer is yes.
No, if my partner wants to see a striptease, sexy dancing and want a lapdance, I'd gladly do it for him. I don't want him to go to stripclubs.
I believe it's ok, just no lap dances or anything like that, look but don't touch
That's an access to say, sorry it just happened never meant to. Stay at home imma strip for ya😂😂
Nope. A man with a girlfriend or wife has no business wanting to see other women getting naked.
They shouldn't want to. And the reason I know this is: there are a lot of men who wouldn't "allow"/like it if their girlfriend/wife went to a male strip club.
And what if the guy isn't satisfied with just watching? What if he wants a lap dance or there's touching involved? When does it stop being "it's no big deal/it doesn't mean anything" (which is what a lot of guys say when their significant other finds out they've been to a strip club, watched porn, etc.) and when does it become cheating?
And I don't get why some guys still want a bachelor party where there are strippers. I know it started back in the day (a long time ago) 😄 when marriages were sometimes arranged and the man really didn't want to get married, where he felt he was losing his freedom and this was his last hurrah, etc., but (hopefully) that's not the case any longer.
Hopefully, if a man gets married, it's because he wants to get married. I know it may be an excuse for his friends to see half-naked or even naked women but if they're married/in a committed relationship, should it be ok for them to want to see other half-naked or naked women? Would they be comfortable with their wives seeing half-naked or naked men?
I think enough people have already mentioned why using "allowed" in this context is problematic so I'll just move past that.
I just don't see why going to a strip club would be a) necessary and b) respectful when you're in a relationship. There's so much free porn you can see on the internet. Why waste money on going to a strip club? I also think there's a pretty big difference between just watching a video on a screen vs. seeking out half-naked ladies in real life and paying them money for it. Honestly when it comes to the latter, I'd be wondering what else he's seeking out or paying money for, potentially behind my back. Not to mention that I think dudes who frequent strip clubs are in general quite sleazy individuals. Even for a bachelor party it's like... really? You have zero imagination and couldn't come up with anything that's less unoriginal, trashy and pointless?
I dunno. I just don't have any interest in paying men to strip for me. I kinda want my partner to be on the same wavelength in that regard. I just don't think it's respectful to seek shit like that out, and even pay for it.
I don't look at relationships from the standpoint of what you are or are not "allowed" to do. I look at it in terms of what terms have you "agreed" to abide. Because now it's a matter of character and your word. It's not, THIS IS A RULE AND YOU BETTER LISTEN OR YOU'LL BE IN TROUBLE!
But to your question. If the terms he agreed to is that he would not go to strip clubs. Then he shouldn't go to the strip club, unless he's willing to walk away from the relationship just to have this one thing. It's all about whether or not he cares that much about it vs his relationship with this girl and how much she cares about him going or not vs her relationship with him. If you look at it realistically. Just imagine you had your perfect partner on every level, but one thing he just will not agree to is not going to stripclubs. He's not going there and sleeping with strippers. Almost always going out with coworkers and just chilling out with the boys. How many girls would be 100% unwilling to bend on this a little?
Personally, I've had relationships where my girlfriend would take me to a stripclub when I otherwise would not have gone. So my view on stripclubs is a little different. It's not a naughty thing. Like there is that element obviously, but I would be okay with my girl going to an male stripclub as long as she's not going there to get fucked. That would all be a part of our conversation regarding the terms of the relationship agreement.
I'm not even big on stripclubs, but I don't think any man should ever agree to NEVER going in his life. Especially if he has that fantasy. If he just doesn't care, never goes, never plans to go and has zero fantasy around it. Then sure, have that agreement. Because he doesn't even want it. But if even 5% of him is curious and wants to go. Then I don't think he should agree to that. You're just building it into something that it doesn't need to be.
allowed? sure can do what he wants. good idea.. prob not unless it helps to amp up their relationship sex life. I know a guy who goes... as his relationship is probably flat. what does one do to fill in the void and amp relationship... that is the question... not sure this is the answer...
was dragged to one once for bachelor party. I was disgusted and felt bad for my friend. no thanks! I'll take a real woman, thought was gross. I drive by one every day to church, no interest. I'd rather have a real woman and God rather than be teased by women.
u Yes but proceed with caution 😆.
My friends sister got pissed at her husband for going to the local Friday night titty show every Friday and coming home shit faced.
My dad went off on a boys night out with the Air Force guys, it's was my mum's 19th birthday, she was 8 months pregnant and living in Malaysia on a Raff housing base.
Guys don't do either of these.
I actually wouldn't date a guy who felt the need to go to a strip club on a regular basis.
The last time my husband went to a strip club was on his bucks night 14 years ago.
I also will get a lot of flack from this, why not why shouldn't they go, on our girls night out we call in a male strip club sometimes, and most of us are married, in fact how I understand it women at male strippers are often worse than the men at their strippers party
I refused to even go to a strip club when i dated one that said she would give that up. but later on continued and lied to me about men never have touched her while dancing. to get me to cope with it. and then everytime she went ro work. she would come home and tell me that thats what happend. and wouldent even let me kiss her when i would drop her off at work. not giving me the choice to want that or not. and be hurt all the time because some man had his hands all over her. and wo der why i was so depressed and feeling like i needed to get high and smoke weed. its ok for people to decide for them selves. but not ok when they lie to you about it. that would be like being a swinger. but never agreeing to it. just somehow you one day realized thats what was going on. but niw your in love with them and can't change that and always feeling hurt and betrayed like ur other half of ur body is eating the other half away slowly. with all this. and then you slowly find ur self self medicating because your so tired of hurting.
He's allowed to do whatever it is that he wants. He's not married. But that does not mean that that person has to stay with them or date them. I would never want to be involved with a person who wants that. You might as well just stay there.
What do you mean "allowed"? The business allowing them? The girlfriend/wife? Businesses of course would. In terms of the partner, well, it's ultimately up to the guy to decide if he will or not, but I would hope that they have a strong enough relationship that he wouldn't have the desire to.
Well first off, I am not his mother. I can't "allow" or "disallow" him to do anything. He is a grown man and can make his own decisions.
I think if a strip club is an idea, just be honest about it. I used to be insecure over the thought of a strip club. But that was also because underneath it all, I didn't trust him.
If there is a solid foundation of trust and honesty there, and he has a good moral compass nothing bad is going to happen. (Tbh, it would be a good night for me to order pizza and relax or do what ever u want I don't know lmao). And there is nothing to worry about. At the end of the night, he is coming home to you.
I'll counter that with this question: Should women be allowed to go to a male strip joint if they are in a committed relationship? I don't know what goes on in a guy's strip joint, but when women go see naked men in a girl's strip joint they sometimes give the strippers blow jobs and get down with them. But don't you think what is good for the goose is good for the gander?
It might be a good idea to ask the girl's opinion. If you're in a strong committed relationship communication is key. Plus you don't want it to seem like you're sneaking behind her back. Some girls will be okay with it, and some won't. How long you've been together will be a factor but other things will too.
in moderation yes...
for instance, we had 3 friends that were all in relationships. one guy was in the military> He came to visit us once a year and once a year we would all go to a strip club once for some beers and background noise... we barely went there to creep on girls --> we spent most of the night yapping away and catching up... but every so often you'd look up and see a sexy girl and it would just heighten the whole experience...
that was very innocent, we didn't get personal dances mostly just getting drunk and leaving --> now I think anything more than that is too much... and when most of us got married... that tradition has now stopped which I also think is the right thing
should see how much attention you get from a girlfriend after you come back from a boys night out to the strip club hahah... its like she all of sudden wants to reclaim whats hers lol
Haaaaa! The fact that so many people voted no is hilarious to me. The question used the word "allowed", essentially asking if they have the right or if it's legal. The wording makes it a fact based question and the factual answer is yes. Therefore everyone who voted otherwise is wrong.
if i find out about this shit, i am leaving his ass right away. i don't respect any man who disrespects his woman like this. men who go to strip clubs clearly don't give a fuck about their wives or girlfriends and are looking for a little "excitement" and diversity. probably got bored with the woman they supposedly "love." i think more women should start enjoying strip clubs from now on. we should also take some pics and leave our phones unlocked for our lovers to see. look babe, i had some fun last night. sorry, i felt the need for "diversity."
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