Is this a red flag if a woman tells me she likes the guy paying for dinner or making dinner?

[Anonymous]

Thought it was an odd thing to say … so may need to think about this

[dynamicyandere]

This by itself isn’t a red flag.


She sounds like she likes more traditional gender roles, in this context at least.


You could say that you like a woman who can cook.


It’s not immediately a red flag, right?


It depends on what you mean by that and if there’s any underlying misogyny that you’re not revealing right away.


So, not a red flag.


But, depending on where she is coming from, this could have some double-meanings.


It’s too soon to call it a red flag though.


Not enough info.

[madhatters4]

it's a red flag if you aren't ok with it

red flags are subjective. what's a red flag to one may not be a red flag to another. if you are bothered by it or expect your partner to pay their way or share the load then it should be a red flag to you. if you don't care, then it's of no consequence

[madhatters4]

thanks for MHO

[cuteangelprincess]

It depends if you're just dating or in a committed relationship. I too like to be taken care of and it's not like it's a one way thing. If my boyfriend pays for food, I cook for him later at home, clean stuff and do other things. It's a red flag if that woman doesn't put any love or care towards you in exchange for the paying. If a guy doesn't have enough money at the moment, she should understand that and pay her half. Dating situations and relationship situations differ.

[Reem12345reem]

no , and every girl like that , she's just being honest , and most of the time guys like paying for the bill so i guess it's not a problem , unless u don't like it , then u should tell her , bc that's not what she's looking for

[Reem12345reem]

likes*

[Miristheiss]

No, if that is her preference it is fine to be honest and up front about it.

It is desiring a man to display a male gender role... the traditional role. It is fair for the man to expect some female gender role behaviors from her.

If she doesn't act traditional and feminine then he is not obligated to fall into any male roles.

[jshm2]

Depends, is she buying all the expensive stuff on the menu deliberately because the guy is paying?

If she is, then it means she has little self control and that is a problem.

[Asker]

No. I wouldn’t say she ordered excessively. But I’m not sure how I feel because she is really hot but also kind of weird.

[Anonymous]

Yeah it is weird. It's kind of implied that the guys pays. But for her to say that outright just out of the blue is very telling about her. I mean that would be like they guy just out of the blue saying "I prefer when the woman purs out".

[BoopBoopBeep]

Tell her you like the woman giving roadhead on the way to dinner... then just shrug and say "tradeoffs"... see how that plays out.

Then report back.

[Beautyblossom2]

It is indeed odd. Comes off as a bit entitled to me

[Pacquet]

That’s not a red flag. Women like how these actions make them feel. It makes them feel feminine and taken care of.

[cuteangelprincess]

This is guy is completely right.

[sheikalana]

As you said it's an odd thing to say but I don't think it is immediately a red flag.

[Unit1]

not in itself. Just be aware when you are deliberately being used for free meals.

[Surely]

As long as she can cook. She is being traditional in one way and likes to be spoiled in another.

[shades777]

depends if she's a meal hoe or a good girl, chances are if she felt she had to say that she's a meal hoe,

[Shy_Steve]

Just tell her what you like and if She gives you the impression that She would never do it, You should move on.

[Grovermint]

No, it's her preference. Go find someone else that has a different mindset of you're against it.

[Anonymous]

Is that bad she would like the gesture coming from him? It’s nurturing in most cases when a guy is giving -
What if someone asked you if you pay on dates?

[caitycat21]

That’s not a red flag, that’s just her preference

[Billlewis]

I think it's fantastic.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yeah thats a big red flag.

[Christoff92]

She's just being honest

[Anonymous]

How is that a red flag?