He is active on social media but not responding to texts?

[Anonymous]

I have been talking to this guy for a while and we talk every day. I have noticed he has been a little distant but I understand as he actually has been busy with work and school. He texted me good morning this morning and asked how I am doing, I responded but he hasn’t texted me back and it’s been over an hour. I went on Instagram and noticed he posted a story 2 minutes ago. Should I just leave it be? Should I be worried?

[HollyK21]

I think you need to start facing a hard truth: texting every day, back to back within the hour is eventually going to wear itself out. It’s like with an LDR, this isn’t meant to be a long-term style of communication because after maybe 5-6 months, you run out of topics, it becomes boring and it’s very likely that one party if not both to get tired of it.



Aside from a busy schedule (or possibly dating other women), him becoming distant may just be because he’s running out of things to talk about. I think that’s when you have to face a very serious fork in the road, which is where you’re going with this connection. Like is the goal to hang out more in person so that you can actually build memories and experience things together so that there’s things to talk about? Or do you just keep up with the repetition of “good morning” “good night” “how’s your day going” “how’s work going” “did you hear about this” “look at this Meme”, just constantly fishing for some sort of thing to talk about in order to keep a connection, rather than creating one in person.


You have to figure out what he wants, and what comes next. Otherwise it’s pointless to panic over losing a guy if it’s not going anywhere in the first place.

[HollyK21]

Also, I notice now that you never responded to what I said to you, so I’m not sure if you sent the text, but a conversation would still be best.

[balyai]

He's ghosting you

[Asker]

Even if he texted me first this morning? He usually texts me first and continues the conversation

[balyai]

Yeah, he's ignoring you after all

[ivyowl]

cut it out