Calls me Gorgeous & Sweetheart after (seemingly) great first date, then ghosts and blocks randomly, WTH?

[KatieNorCal]

I went on a dinner date with a guy about 1 month ago. He liked and reached out to me via a dating app. I was under the impression the date went great. We talked for hours, some of the last guests in the restaurant. He walked me to my car and we kissed for a bit. He said I was “so cute” and “sexy”, asked me what I wanted to do on our next date. He was texting every day, calling me Gorgeous, Sweetheart & Babe. He did cancel our second date last minute, said he had to go in and work overtime (I guess that prob wasn’t true). I replied to a good night message a couple days ago and randomly the next day I’m blocked. WTH happened?

Updates

8 mo

Thank you for the feedback, it is really weird. I texted a very simple “hope it’s a good night, sleep well”, nothing crazy.

[OlderAndWiser]

Maybe he is in a relationship, had an argument, he goes online and meets you, your date goes very well. . . but then they reconcile. He doesn't know what to do about you, so he takes the coward's way out and ghosts you.

Maybe he actually was unattached, had a date with another lady, their relationship was slightly head of yours, and he chose her over you.

In 2015, I had a date that I considered the best ever first date. Sparks, chemistry, mutual interests, holding hands, nice kiss at end of first date. She ghosted me the next day. She reconciled with the guy against whom she had recently obtained a restraining order, married him, and divorced him six weeks later. Maybe she wasn't quite as great as I previously thought she was.

[KatieNorCal]

Thank you, this helps me feel a bit better about my sanity. I’m really having a hard time with this, first time I’ve been ghosted and blocked

[OlderAndWiser]

For a while, I was wondering "what did I do wrong?" I knew where she lived and where she worked, but I never made an effort to go see her unannounced. Later, when I learned that she had married the guy, it all made sense, I felt relieved, and I stopped wondering that I had done wrong.

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[Finchie40]

It sounds like he was cheating on his girlfriend or wife with you , and he realized he was going to get busted so he blocked you from preventing that to happen. He is a POS period

[_Maya_]

No idea. That is really weird. So weird that it feels like there is something missing in the details. What did you reply in the goodnight message? Did he send anything back then? Just makes no sense and the only one that will know is him. I'm just going to be speculating and not even really well because it doesn't make any sort of sense that the date went great and texts were as you say they were and then that. Really strange.

[_Maya_]

Wow. About the update... so weird!

[Billlewis]

It sounds like a case of sour grapes to me. He probably realized that he didn't have a chance with you, so he left.

[Cbird5488]

Could it be he isn’t completely over his ex? And therefore either got the fear of getting attached again too soon or feared you’d be second best and it wouldn’t be fair on you?
Do you know long they had been apart?

[KatieNorCal]

That’s very possible. He said it’s been 5 years

[Anonymous]

You can't forge relationships with texting. It never works.

[KatieNorCal]

Sure, yet you don’t understand

[KatieNorCal]

You’re a bit younger than I, isn’t texting the communication of your generation?