Whats the best way to get over jealousy in the early stages of dating when a girl is very outgoing and loves to entertain lots of people?

[New2this2]

I woman I just started seeing this month is very outgoing and loves to entertain lots of people. This includes her ex man, and others at the bar he owns, which is where I met her. He's a nice guy so I don't feel crazy jealousy towards him as a whole but when she gets drunk and hands on with guys like him and others I feel a little overwhelmed in my thoughts. My close friend had a talk with her, when I didn't know he was going to, and he said everything is going well between the two of us, and that those guys are just her friends and she is just a friendly person overall! Any thoughts on how I should handle this? Cheers!

[_Maya_]

What do you mean hands on? That can be taken lots of ways. If you have no reason to suspect her cheating then there is no reason to be jealous or insecure. Being outgoing and sociable is not a bad thing. It is only bad if you've got a reason to think she wants to cheat or is cheating. You need to trust your partner until you have a reason not to. Without trust you don't got much.

[New2this2]

Great response! By hands on I mean touching and dancing with the person. She’s told me, she likes this guy but in a different way that she likes me. She says I will hang with him and I enjoy my time with him but I want to do sexual things with you. Another thing that bothers me is my other girl friend tells me how cute this guy is, and he is a very nice guy too, but “I’m in scenario that they’re both drunk” could something happen. This girl I’m dating gets very outgoing and touchy when she’s drunk and I personally don’t drink much but I’d hate for things to go overboard by accident. Would hurt me a lot!

[_Maya_]

I totally get what you're saying. Sounds like she needs to respect some boundaries about being so handsy.

[New2this2]

That’s the conversation I hope to have one day. But for now I don’t want to be too controlling. Not willing to lose someone because she’s being her outgoing self. I’m at a standstill between “she can do what she wants around her friends and ill have my one on one with her later vs would love to spend a bit more time with me during the party”. It bothers me more when she’s paying attention to these people and then will come over to me and just look at me, obviously caring but continue on.