Guys, What do you think about a girl making the first move?

[Anonymous]

For example, adding as a friend on facebook /instagram etc. We suppose that the boy and the girl never met on real life.

What message would be ok for her to send to him?

Like it

Dont like it

[Finchie40]

Nothing wrong with it , I feel flattered when a girl hits on me first , whether I am attracted to her or not I am still flattered that she spotted me and had the courage to approach me , I usually put myself in her shoes and think how nervous she must of been to introduce herself to me. So I am never rude to a girl that makes the first move, there is no reason to be rude to anyone that likes you. We don’t walk around with signs flashing over our heads stating what we are into , and what are relationship status is , so I am never ride whether I am attracted to her or not , People that are rude from the start are assholes to me , they are people that need a wake up call that their shit stinks as well , I can’t stand people that think they are better than everyone else. It’s immature and disrespectful period. The only time you should get rude is if the person isn’t taking No for an answer then you can get rude and tell them to get away from you but from the beginning there is no reason for it.

[ohsheeT]

I absolutely love meeting new people

And it's usually strange the way it happens it's usually by accident but there's always this beautiful feeling that I get that pulls me into them especially if it's online but there has been many people that I have met online that I really really like and we have never met in person but there's always something to learn there's always a message between the two of us one from me to that person and one from that person to me so there's always something beautiful about it

[Avicenna]

It's perfectly fine. It makes more sense to do that than to expect a guy to figure it out on his own.

[Leapfrog00]

I love when a girl makes the first move. I'm a shy person, so it's doing me a favor. Tremendously! Adding someone on social media, doesn't. matter who adds who first. Any message would be fine. Id start off asking how he's doing, and then ask him what he did today, or what he's doing today, and then go to hobbies, asking about them. Like for example, if a girl asked me what my hobbies are, I'd say I'm a writer, and I enjoy writing horror fantasy, and then you could say, "oh, do you like any horror movies or have you read any good books" but point being, hobbies are always a good conversation starter that lead to other topics. Hope this helped!

[patrick994]

I think it is very appreciable on the girl's part, I think we need to get out of the stereotype of roles for men and women, a woman who makes the first move shows that she is confident and not afraid, there are no roles in courtship or love, there are people.

[soulOnDisplay]

It's not about liking it, or not liking it, it's often just unexpected. It's doesn't matter if she is making the first move because it's still up to me to formally ask her out, and plan something that is interesting for both of us.

[TipsyFr]

Yeah adding me on Facebook or instagram if I don’t know you I won’t accept but if a girl finds a way to talk to me in real life completely different story.

[Starrrboy]

I'm kinda used to it.. It's okay but keep in mind that most guys would probably find the girl a little desperate lol.. as for conversation starters , I don't think anyone can teach you that but just be bubbly and friendly and it should work out fine..

[TheSpaceGnome]

I'm fine with women doing that. She can send whatever message she wants, as long as its honest. Even if I turn out to be not interested, I'd be polite about it.

[MysticDevice]

Thats literally the dream lol.

As far as a first message, somthing at least a little creative. But no need to be a poet or philosopher right off the bat.

Definitely not "hey"

[Kaamraj]

It'll be great as it'll take some pressure off men, but it's extremely rare.

[jshm2]

I'll level with you. Sure I'm late 40's and the "online social dating" thing is not my scene, but be serious. Do you really think that is going to get the sort of "attention" that is going to make them move?