Guys, What do you think about a girl making the first move?

[Anonymous]

For example, adding as a friend on facebook /instagram etc. We suppose that the boy and the girl never met on real life.

What message would be ok for her to send to him?

Like it

Dont like it

[Finchie40]

Nothing wrong with it , I feel flattered when a girl hits on me first , whether I am attracted to her or not I am still flattered that she spotted me and had the courage to approach me , I usually put myself in her shoes and think how nervous she must of been to introduce herself to me. So I am never rude to a girl that makes the first move, there is no reason to be rude to anyone that likes you. We don’t walk around with signs flashing over our heads stating what we are into , and what are relationship status is , so I am never ride whether I am attracted to her or not , People that are rude from the start are assholes to me , they are people that need a wake up call that their shit stinks as well , I can’t stand people that think they are better than everyone else. It’s immature and disrespectful period. The only time you should get rude is if the person isn’t taking No for an answer then you can get rude and tell them to get away from you but from the beginning there is no reason for it.

[ohsheeT]

I absolutely love meeting new people

And it's usually strange the way it happens it's usually by accident but there's always this beautiful feeling that I get that pulls me into them especially if it's online but there has been many people that I have met online that I really really like and we have never met in person but there's always something to learn there's always a message between the two of us one from me to that person and one from that person to me so there's always something beautiful about it

[Avicenna]

It's perfectly fine. It makes more sense to do that than to expect a guy to figure it out on his own.

[Leapfrog00]

I love when a girl makes the first move. I'm a shy person, so it's doing me a favor. Tremendously! Adding someone on social media, doesn't. matter who adds who first. Any message would be fine. Id start off asking how he's doing, and then ask him what he did today, or what he's doing today, and then go to hobbies, asking about them. Like for example, if a girl asked me what my hobbies are, I'd say I'm a writer, and I enjoy writing horror fantasy, and then you could say, "oh, do you like any horror movies or have you read any good books" but point being, hobbies are always a good conversation starter that lead to other topics. Hope this helped!

[patrick994]

I think it is very appreciable on the girl's part, I think we need to get out of the stereotype of roles for men and women, a woman who makes the first move shows that she is confident and not afraid, there are no roles in courtship or love, there are people.

[soulOnDisplay]

It's not about liking it, or not liking it, it's often just unexpected. It's doesn't matter if she is making the first move because it's still up to me to formally ask her out, and plan something that is interesting for both of us.

[TipsyFr]

Yeah adding me on Facebook or instagram if I don’t know you I won’t accept but if a girl finds a way to talk to me in real life completely different story.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I'm fine with women doing that. She can send whatever message she wants, as long as its honest. Even if I turn out to be not interested, I'd be polite about it.

[Starrrboy]

I'm kinda used to it.. It's okay but keep in mind that most guys would probably find the girl a little desperate lol.. as for conversation starters , I don't think anyone can teach you that but just be bubbly and friendly and it should work out fine..

[MysticDevice]

Thats literally the dream lol.

As far as a first message, somthing at least a little creative. But no need to be a poet or philosopher right off the bat.

Definitely not "hey"

[Kaamraj]

It'll be great as it'll take some pressure off men, but it's extremely rare.

[jshm2]

I'll level with you. Sure I'm late 40's and the "online social dating" thing is not my scene, but be serious. Do you really think that is going to get the sort of "attention" that is going to make them move?

[Tortoise_Lover]

No id demy her because dating is dumb in my eyes and I'll just be stronger single, make more money for me, won't have to worry about divorce and some lady stealing half my shit. Kids? Nah. Got tortoises. Will outlive humans anyway.

[serious]

Of course I will appreciate her courage for doing so. Yes of course I won't take things forward though

[BoopBoopBeep]

I wouldn't think anything of her adding me as a friend on facebook. That means nothing in my culture.

[Jamie05rhs]

Nothing wrong with that.

Yes, do send a message. That's a good idea. State your intentions. Use the writing skills that you learned in English class: every essay should have an introductory paragraph.

[spartan55]

Anything on social media is NOT making a move... 😂

[Pohjolan]

You do realise that we get friend requests from all sorts of people including members of the opposite gender?

That by itself isn't making a move.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Tell him if he's interested, then contact you for a chat.

[exitseven]

I was really shy with girls and would like to have a little help.

[fluffyninja0505]

Guys actually prefer it , I remember my old guy saying that in old days girls selected guys , my old maa dropped a kerchief which had her name embroidered on it , and hence the story

[Nifrayu]

That's definitely preferred. In fact I've never been comfortable making the first move.

[Nifrayu]

As for a message. Here are some examples of messages that were sent to me.
"Hi. This is pretty forward but I think we we could benefit from talking to each other." Soon after that she asked for my phone number.
"You're really cute." I said "thank you" and then nothing. I was in a relationship at the time and it ended a few weeks later. About a month later she sent me another message asking if I was single and we went from there.

[Charliefretz329]

Say that you’re interested in me, or that you really like me, really really like

[Anonymous]

In the new world of false, sexual harassment, accusations and entitled false victim complex females, guys do not want to approach first

[TheUniqueOne96]

Like it, sounds cool.

[Kingofkings1992]

Love it most men would find it a humongous relief.

[Deuce-Li84]

Let the women make the move, better chance of sparking up something special.

[Anonymous]

To all the guys that want women to make the first move, they need a skirt

[KostasKouvalis]

I wish y'all would do it more often

[Sonorous]

I'd prefer that tbh.

[OddBeMe]

Like it. But you’re going to hell.

[Guardian45]

I don't like it; I LOVE it!