He invited me to a park for the first date, should I go?

[spice]

Isn't it so cringe that he invited me to a park for the first date? What should I do? Is it normal to just go for a walk in the park on a first date?

[GoodManDave]

Nope. If you want to go, go. If you don't want to go there, you make a counteroffer (that isn't an expensive date), and if you don't want to go out with him, you can say no politely. Don't go out with him in the expectation of a super swanky date.

Ok, let's say a woman asked ME out on a date. I'd be hoping for a fun night out and getting to know her. So already, I'd probably be into it, even if it wasn't my ideal of a first date. And if I absolutely hated the idea, but was interested in her, I'd at least counteroffer with something reasonable. Bungee jumping or roller coasters? No way in hell. But I'd go watch her do that stuff. A night at the arcade? Sure. Go grocery shopping with her? Why not? I'm in. If it isn't fun, and we don't get along (just say we're not "feeling it" but we haven't gotten into a screaming match), we can probably call it a night early on. But at least I will have had a fun time, and even if it doesn't fit perfectly, at least I got to know her a little, so it was worth my time. I can know what I wouldn't like (and what I DID like) the next woman I date, at least.

It's up to you on if you want to go, but no, I wouldn't call a hike in the park "cringey." If you would HATE it, and you don't want to go with him, that's up to you. Don't go to something you'd hate with a negative attitude, if you DO go. Go with the idea of "Hey, I'll get to see something he likes to do, which is gonna be cool. Maybe if there's a second date, you come up with something YOU'd want to do. That way, you get to experience their little section of the world.

[Paris13]

NP and It is a Good way to Communicate. xxoo

[AviatorTom]

The first date is when you start getting to know each other. A walk in the park is an okay first date, but it looks like you want something fancier.

Why not go anyway? You might like him, and the second date might be more like what you expect a date to be.

[Lilibet]

I used to think it’s weird and he’s cheap, now after so many awkward dates I think it’s a good thing to go to park first, you can make a quick walk and just go home if you don’t like each other. Worse if you go for dinner, you spend hours to look great, and then you are sitting in restaurant for at least 2 hours. It’s good when the date is great, but if you don’t have much fun then it’s just horrible
And if you have good connection then he would probably take you for lunch or dinner right away cuz he will want to spend more time with you after a walk

[Romeo0071234]

Finally a woman that gets it. Some of these others have no clue and calling the guy cheap this has nothing to do with being cheap. It can be a way to build connection and get to know the other person. I would only say not to go if it was somewhat in a secluded area or if late night and it’s dark etc.. otherwise a walk in the park can be very intimate and then can carry on to dinner afterwards or other things if you too are enjoying the company and really want to be around each other longer.

[Sugar100]

@Romeo0071234 I think park dates r awesome. Intamite walking together alone. I had a date with my ex boyfriend once at a park and the park was nice & there were horses then we had walk up this hill and he grabbed my hand and it was romantic. You can have a. Picnic there , kiss.

[Paul09]

Exactly! But also no need to take 2 hours to put on a face lol. You being you is the most attractive thing.

[jennifer_bloom]

It depends on the park and on your starting location. I know parks with at least 50 people in every kilometre in any direction and I know parks where there are less than 4 people per kilometre. It also depends on whether they buy you coffee or hot dogs during the date. I think it’s okay for a guy to be cheap with his money if he is generous with his time or his effort or social investment. It might not be an appropriate anniversary date but for a nonchalant and commitment free first meeting, it’s a reasonable degree of sacrifice.

[caring__1]

Apparently you're looking for a different type of person. There's nothing wrong with nature-loving people who want peace and quiet to get to know each other, rather than structured activities (like movies) that limit the ability to get to know the other person. The two of you have different priorities, so it makes sense to pass on this opportunity. That's not a negative judgement on either of you. You'll just be more likely to appreciate someone who is more similar and relatable for you.

[Constatine]

I like you so much... lets go to the park.

I can think of the worst places to go. I really think you're thinking about this too much. (probably worst case). a park is a nice place to walk, talk and get to know each other. it's a romantic gesture. without forcing anything.

But he's probably saying, "I'm taking her to the park and not somewhere she'll feel uncomfortable"... and you're questioning his gesture.

Why? Don't you like him enough to trust him?

[DaBiggestBird]

Not cringe, just weird to call it a full on date but also not really. Just try letting things happen, catch yourselves on a whim, that will show how good you two actually work together, instead of just putting on an act and treating this like a TV with the laughter of an audience in the background to tell the people at home watching when they’re supposed to laugh and end up utterly not doing that. People these days really just be wearing a costume like Halloween is everyday and then when they see each other’s real faces it usually ends up with someone crying for two months straight. What an L society we have, am I right?

[Z1pTD]

Lmfao

Pros:

1) You're moving, so silent moments are less awkward

2) You don't have to look at other person the whole time awkwardly

3) You can look at other things without seeming like you don't care

4) Either party can end the date less awkwardly because you can just say you're physically tired from walking and go home

5) if you have a good date you can just walk to a restaurant to continue, assuming it's within an hour or two of a meal-time

6) walking is literally healthy for you. 🤷.

Cons:

1) if the park is empty than that's a potential safety problem

2) same issue if the park has tons of very private spots

3) some people hate walking I guess

4) if the weather is bad it can suck unless you're a goof 🙃

[provokeesmokee]

Normal is entirely subjective.

Personally, a first date at a park sounds great to me. If they're a good fit, you can go to a café or restaurant to continue your date. If the fit isn't there, it's easy for either of you to leave early.

Outdoors, fresh air, a walk, and time to talk? Sounds like a great first date to me.

What were you wanting?

[strateguy632]

wanted a free steak. lol

[Static_In_The_Attic]

A date is a date & whether he invites you to a park or a slinky factory it’s still a date. In life I always say if you never try you will never know & as for you something tells me you will never know. What you think is cringe may not be cringe to others.

Do him a favor, don’t go on the date because he deserves better & he deserves someone who will go on a date for a date & not because you think it’s cringe.

[Xoxocutekitty]

I would. A bar/restaurant with a Parkside view is usually quite nice if the date lends itself in that direction. I will say, it's much easier to sneak out of a park date than a seated dinner, particularly if you find at first glance or throughout the date in person, he is not particularly attractive or has off-putting mannerisms.

[Anonymous]

Irs a first date. At 48 years old you’re lucky to even be going on a date. If you don’t want to go then don’t go. My gosh! What a crybaby spoiled brat. A first date doesn't have to be a 5 star restaurant.

If you have a problem with something COMMUNICATE. Maybe this is the reason you’re almost 50 and single.

[OfMiceandMen]

I would say that is normal. Park's a great place to get to know each other, your not trying to eat something and talk at the same time. It's a public place that typically has ample parking as you are bringing 2 vehicles. Usually, the scenery is nice and it's relatively quiet so you're not trying to talk over loud music.

[236color]

1st dates should be #1 Public, and #2 Inexpensive. The main goal of a first date is get to know each other and ensure that, as best can be determined, your date is not an axe murderer. Keep it Inexpensive so if the guy is an asshole, he won't have much of an argument that he spent so much money on her. So yes meeting in the park is a good 1st date. That is if you're talking about a open city park, not Fox Creek Cabin in Yellowstone National Park.

[Giddyup]

What is normal, dinner or drinks? If your interested in the guy and not opposed then this is different. I actually like it, might think of that as an option. Although I tend to prefer anywhere with drinks for a first date.

You can always come back with another idea? If he wants to meet you, he would appreciate your idea😉.

[Peter_Penetrator]

First of all, a 48 year old using the word “cringe”?


Second of all, a 48 year old afraid to go for a walk in the park on a first date?


Third of all, a 48 year old not knowing that a walk in the park is a good idea for a first date?


Forth of all, is this question be generated by A. I. tech?

[Fireguy17]

Why not providing the weather is nice.
It's quiet, usually they are pretty, there are things to do, it's very low keyed, no pressure.
If it goes well why not continue it with dinner somewhere, if not you had a nice day in the fresh air.
A date doesn't have to cost 500 bucks to be a good date.

[KrakenAttackin]

"Cringe"? Why? If you like him fucking go. If not don't. Don't be a slave to the. sisterhood hive minds that say a man should take you to an expensive dinner. You haven't earned that dinner yet.

[Anonymous]

What’s wrong w that? You were expecting him to take you out to a nice dinner or something? You know for me if a girl is willing to do that w me she’s got more of a chance of being the one for me. Nowadays girls seem like they’re about what can you do for me financially. I don’t get how this dictates his whole being. Someone said if he wants to be cheap that’s fine. That’s ridiculous.

[Christoff92]

If he basically tell you it's a park full of people especially families. You're aware of the park then go.

If it's a park where he didn't describe the details of a park you're not familiar with. Then tell him maybe that you would let him know.

[Guido]

There is nothing wrong with a walk in the park for a date. Lots if time to talk and get to know each other. If things are going well and you like each other then it could wrap up with going for a quiet drink or somewhere for a light snack and coffee. Whatever you decide but first dates are for talking to get to know each other.

[Mamaliv]

Cringe? I think it’s cute! In fact I’d much rather do anything outdoors for a date then dinner in an awkward setting.

[LiamJHayden]

Cringe? Maybe. I always do something light and easy on a first meeting and usually the second. Then if we still have interest we'll go Pelican Hill or somewhere else nice. Why would I drop $200+ on a date with someone I do not even really know?

[RealMarek]

There is nothing wrong with a walk in the park. It’s a public place and I am assuming it will be during daylight, so that gives a measure of safety and an easy way out if you don’t like him. It’s casual with little pressure.