He invited me to a park for the first date, should I go?

Question

Isn't it so cringe that he invited me to a park for the first date? What should I do? Is it normal to just go for a walk in the park on a first date?

GoodManDave · Accepted Answer

Nope. If you want to go, go. If you don't want to go there, you make a counteroffer (that isn't an expensive date), and if you don't want to go out with him, you can say no politely. Don't go out with him in the expectation of a super swanky date.

Ok, let's say a woman asked ME out on a date. I'd be hoping for a fun night out and getting to know her. So already, I'd probably be into it, even if it wasn't my ideal of a first date. And if I absolutely hated the idea, but was interested in her, I'd at least counteroffer with something reasonable. Bungee jumping or roller coasters? No way in hell. But I'd go watch her do that stuff. A night at the arcade? Sure. Go grocery shopping with her? Why not? I'm in. If it isn't fun, and we don't get along (just say we're not "feeling it" but we haven't gotten into a screaming match), we can probably call it a night early on. But at least I will have had a fun time, and even if it doesn't fit perfectly, at least I got to know her a little, so it was worth my time. I can know what I wouldn't like (and what I DID like) the next woman I date, at least.

It's up to you on if you want to go, but no, I wouldn't call a hike in the park "cringey." If you would HATE it, and you don't want to go with him, that's up to you. Don't go to something you'd hate with a negative attitude, if you DO go. Go with the idea of "Hey, I'll get to see something he likes to do, which is gonna be cool. Maybe if there's a second date, you come up with something YOU'd want to do. That way, you get to experience their little section of the world.

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

The first date is when you start getting to know each other. A walk in the park is an okay first date, but it looks like you want something fancier.

Why not go anyway? You might like him, and the second date might be more like what you expect a date to be.

Lilibet · Accepted Answer

I used to think it’s weird and he’s cheap, now after so many awkward dates I think it’s a good thing to go to park first, you can make a quick walk and just go home if you don’t like each other. Worse if you go for dinner, you spend hours to look great, and then you are sitting in restaurant for at least 2 hours. It’s good when the date is great, but if you don’t have much fun then it’s just horrible
And if you have good connection then he would probably take you for lunch or dinner right away cuz he will want to spend more time with you after a walk

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

It depends on the park and on your starting location. I know parks with at least 50 people in every kilometre in any direction and I know parks where there are less than 4 people per kilometre. It also depends on whether they buy you coffee or hot dogs during the date. I think it’s okay for a guy to be cheap with his money if he is generous with his time or his effort or social investment. It might not be an appropriate anniversary date but for a nonchalant and commitment free first meeting, it’s a reasonable degree of sacrifice.

TheRealPepperPotts · Answer

I don't think it's cringe. A park is a public place and relatively safe. You could always counteroffer like others have said and meet at the library (that's actually my dream date...). :D Safety first, but once that's established, what's the issue? Just don't walk past big black vans and you should be fine...

The park offers a lot of flexibility and options. You (or he) can say, "Hey, you want to grab a bite to eat? There's this really awesome place that makes the best falafel..." or something. Or you can escape after 20 minutes if it's just awful.

Dating is different these days in that we've often never met the person IRL. In the past, people would see one another at work or school, and gradually be around each other enough to know there's a spark. Hence, going out to dinner. But now, until we've met, we don't know if we are just good friends or if there's serious chemistry.

Besides, there's so much you can do with staging your entrance in a park. I mean, you can parasail in if you want...:D

caring__1 · Answer

Apparently you're looking for a different type of person. There's nothing wrong with nature-loving people who want peace and quiet to get to know each other, rather than structured activities (like movies) that limit the ability to get to know the other person. The two of you have different priorities, so it makes sense to pass on this opportunity. That's not a negative judgement on either of you. You'll just be more likely to appreciate someone who is more similar and relatable for you.

Rosexøxø · Answer

That’s wholesome and gives plenty of time to chat. Make sure it’s a park you know and let people know your status before and after. Just in case. But that’s something along “when harry met sally” vibes. 🎞️

Enjoy it!

Lowly_Grump · Answer

First dates are like trying to catch a butterfly with a sticky lollipop: tricky and messy. But if this fellow is inviting you to a park, he's about as romantic as a wet sock. A walk in the park is for grandpas and grandmas who need to stretch their legs after dozing off in front of the telly!

This fella is as dull as a broken pencil. He's got the charm of a slug and the wit of a wet tissue. If you go on this date, you'll be bored stiff, like a scarecrow in a hurricane. Tell him to take a hike, or better yet, tell him to go fly a kite!

You deserve a date that's as exciting as a rollercoaster, not a leisurely stroll through the park. So, send this chap packing and wait for someone who'll sweep you off your feet, not put you to sleep!

Remember, if he can't handle your spice, then he doesn't deserve a taste!

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Lowly_Grump

(P. S. And if he tries to win you back with a cheap ice cream cone, run! Run like the wind, my friend! That's the sign of a real cheapskate, and you're worth a whole sundae with extra sprinkles!)

Constatine · Answer

I like you so much... lets go to the park.

I can think of the worst places to go. I really think you're thinking about this too much. (probably worst case). a park is a nice place to walk, talk and get to know each other. it's a romantic gesture. without forcing anything.

But he's probably saying, "I'm taking her to the park and not somewhere she'll feel uncomfortable"... and you're questioning his gesture.

Why? Don't you like him enough to trust him?

blueonblack22 · Answer

Well what were you expecting? An expensive dinner at a 5 star restaurant? At least he didn’t invite you straight to his bedroom.

Seriously lady what is “so cringe” is your attitude about this. He invited you to a public place that is very low risk for a nice walk. If he’s a decent guy you should be excited just to meet up with him, not being spoiled on a first date.

He’s likely doing this to qualify you to see what kind of women you really are. And yes it completely normal to ask someone to do something simple, free and easy on a first date. So yes, you should NOT go. If sound like the entitled type which he should avoid at all costs.

The scariest part is you are almost 50 and you still think this way which is insane.

Scary what this world is coming to.

DaBiggestBird · Answer

Not cringe, just weird to call it a full on date but also not really. Just try letting things happen, catch yourselves on a whim, that will show how good you two actually work together, instead of just putting on an act and treating this like a TV with the laughter of an audience in the background to tell the people at home watching when they’re supposed to laugh and end up utterly not doing that. People these days really just be wearing a costume like Halloween is everyday and then when they see each other’s real faces it usually ends up with someone crying for two months straight. What an L society we have, am I right?

Z1pTD · Answer

Lmfao

Pros:

1) You're moving, so silent moments are less awkward

2) You don't have to look at other person the whole time awkwardly

3) You can look at other things without seeming like you don't care

4) Either party can end the date less awkwardly because you can just say you're physically tired from walking and go home

5) if you have a good date you can just walk to a restaurant to continue, assuming it's within an hour or two of a meal-time

6) walking is literally healthy for you. 🤷.

Cons:

1) if the park is empty than that's a potential safety problem

2) same issue if the park has tons of very private spots

3) some people hate walking I guess

4) if the weather is bad it can suck unless you're a goof 🙃

Anonymous · Answer

Irs a first date. At 48 years old you’re lucky to even be going on a date. If you don’t want to go then don’t go. My gosh! What a crybaby spoiled brat. A first date doesn't have to be a 5 star restaurant.

If you have a problem with something COMMUNICATE. Maybe this is the reason you’re almost 50 and single.

provokeesmokee · Answer

Normal is entirely subjective.

Personally, a first date at a park sounds great to me. If they're a good fit, you can go to a café or restaurant to continue your date. If the fit isn't there, it's easy for either of you to leave early.

Outdoors, fresh air, a walk, and time to talk? Sounds like a great first date to me.

What were you wanting?

KrakenAttackin · Answer

"Cringe"? Why? If you like him fucking go. If not don't. Don't be a slave to the. sisterhood hive minds that say a man should take you to an expensive dinner. You haven't earned that dinner yet.

HawkPerception · Answer

Please do him a favor and don't go. If you're saying a park date is "cringe" that clearly implies that you're a high maintenance girl that just wants to be taken out to a restaurant or something and have him pay the bill. You can't enjoy the simple things in life and your sense of romance is different from him. You will not be compatible unless you have a major change of perspective, which is highly unlikely.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

A date is a date & whether he invites you to a park or a slinky factory it’s still a date. In life I always say if you never try you will never know & as for you something tells me you will never know. What you think is cringe may not be cringe to others.

Do him a favor, don’t go on the date because he deserves better & he deserves someone who will go on a date for a date & not because you think it’s cringe.

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

I would. A bar/restaurant with a Parkside view is usually quite nice if the date lends itself in that direction. I will say, it's much easier to sneak out of a park date than a seated dinner, particularly if you find at first glance or throughout the date in person, he is not particularly attractive or has off-putting mannerisms.

MisterWack · Answer

“Isn't it so cringe that he invited me to a park for the first date?” Answer: No, frankly you are being too judgmental.

He probably wants to talk, know you better, and show you a favorite spot for walking / do an activity that is serene & pleasant especially if it is a nice day out.

Go on the date and see how his character and personality is before you judge him based on a ‘walk in the park’.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I would say that is normal. Park's a great place to get to know each other, your not trying to eat something and talk at the same time. It's a public place that typically has ample parking as you are bringing 2 vehicles. Usually, the scenery is nice and it's relatively quiet so you're not trying to talk over loud music.

236color · Answer

1st dates should be #1 Public, and #2 Inexpensive. The main goal of a first date is get to know each other and ensure that, as best can be determined, your date is not an axe murderer. Keep it Inexpensive so if the guy is an asshole, he won't have much of an argument that he spent so much money on her. So yes meeting in the park is a good 1st date. That is if you're talking about a open city park, not Fox Creek Cabin in Yellowstone National Park.

Giddyup · Answer

What is normal, dinner or drinks? If your interested in the guy and not opposed then this is different. I actually like it, might think of that as an option. Although I tend to prefer anywhere with drinks for a first date.

You can always come back with another idea? If he wants to meet you, he would appreciate your idea😉.

Mamaliv · Answer

Cringe? I think it’s cute! In fact I’d much rather do anything outdoors for a date then dinner in an awkward setting.

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

First of all, a 48 year old using the word “cringe”?

Second of all, a 48 year old afraid to go for a walk in the park on a first date?

Third of all, a 48 year old not knowing that a walk in the park is a good idea for a first date?

Forth of all, is this question be generated by A. I. tech?

Fireguy17 · Answer

Why not providing the weather is nice.
It's quiet, usually they are pretty, there are things to do, it's very low keyed, no pressure.
If it goes well why not continue it with dinner somewhere, if not you had a nice day in the fresh air.
A date doesn't have to cost 500 bucks to be a good date.

Anonymous · Answer

What’s wrong w that? You were expecting him to take you out to a nice dinner or something? You know for me if a girl is willing to do that w me she’s got more of a chance of being the one for me. Nowadays girls seem like they’re about what can you do for me financially. I don’t get how this dictates his whole being. Someone said if he wants to be cheap that’s fine. That’s ridiculous.

Christoff92 · Answer

If he basically tell you it's a park full of people especially families. You're aware of the park then go.

If it's a park where he didn't describe the details of a park you're not familiar with. Then tell him maybe that you would let him know.

Guido · Answer

There is nothing wrong with a walk in the park for a date. Lots if time to talk and get to know each other. If things are going well and you like each other then it could wrap up with going for a quiet drink or somewhere for a light snack and coffee. Whatever you decide but first dates are for talking to get to know each other.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Cringe? Maybe. I always do something light and easy on a first meeting and usually the second. Then if we still have interest we'll go Pelican Hill or somewhere else nice. Why would I drop $200+ on a date with someone I do not even really know?

RealMarek · Answer

There is nothing wrong with a walk in the park. It’s a public place and I am assuming it will be during daylight, so that gives a measure of safety and an easy way out if you don’t like him. It’s casual with little pressure.

Tamera952 · Answer

WTF? Cringy? That’s not cringy…it’s adorable. It could be fun. What the hell is wrong with you? What’s cringy is you calling it cringy. God damn, go enjoy yourself & ya never know it could be great.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

I think it's sweet and intimate. I would enjoy it personally. Yes go for a walk. Have a picnic with wine or something.

ShesRad80 · Answer

to me its not cringe if you are asking gag community if you should go? i would say no do not go, you aren't feeling it or are looking for a different type of guy.

amber8894 · Answer

To me it’s perfect. You get to know him and wal around. I don’t see any negative thing here. I am bored with the let’s go get some drinks or dinner lol

Benplus10 · Answer

Make sure there are people kinda close in case things get weird. Parks are cool.. dog parks, arboretums, national parks that kind of park. Kids playground… red flag

iron_ninjs · Answer

First dates are for getting to know each other. A walk in the park is a good choice for that. Maybe, after a short walk, he's going to take you somewhere else, like a restaurant. Who knows.
But is it cringe? No.

milknhoneyy · Answer

I need more details before I decide. Where did you meet this guy? Is it a nice park? Did he have any reason to believe you'd like an outside date?

NotTacocaT6969 · Answer

Why would you consider going to the park cringe?  Makes it sound like you might be more interested in free food than getting to know someone. 👀

PatientZeR0 · Answer

No not at all. It’s classic, endearing, and best of all—ITS FREE (that’s what they are there for). You can go on a walk, swing set, or chill on a bench and chat. Most parks are public enough to be safe and quite enough to have private conversations

Randogirl491 · Answer

I would say don't go but not because it's cringe (personally I love outdoor activity dates) but because it's not safe. These random men are too likely to psycho out on you

Anonymous · Answer

If dating is only about spending time with another to get to know them then there is nothing wrong with going to the park. This is the problem with dating today, it has nothing to do with that...

sage2021 · Answer

Uf the weather is nice, sure, I'd go. Just don't step in any dog poop 💩

bneano · Answer

Yes you should go. There is nothing wrong with going for a walk and having a nice chat. As long as there are not any major red flags, then i would go.

Bricealan · Answer

Sure. Go. It is very public, and he can't sexually assault you in a park in broad daylight!!! 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣❤❤❤

Foxeyes · Answer

Walk in the park isn't cringe its a nice way to get to know eachother, it's better then going to the movies I think

Shark_61695 · Answer

Public, cheap, easy to leave if not interested. There are a lot worse places to go and it can easily be moved on from if you are both interested in doing something else.

Andres77 · Answer

In the daylight and someone knows where you are and when to call and check on you (it’s your job to tell a friend). Nothing wrong with a date in the park in broad daylight.

DummyThiccFeraligatr · Answer

Not for a first date, unless there is an event or y'all would be there at peak hours with lots of people.

I wouldn't consider that to be a safe option for either of you without having some experience with each other.

Anonymous · Answer

What are you talking about, you're dumb!! First dates should be short and sweet to see if you all click. If you do then the guy usually prolongs the date and takes you somewhere else. You should be grateful you have a date at your age lady.

Paris13 · Answer

Good Way to Get To Know each Other but During The Day Only. xxoo

Mamaganja · Answer

These days, don’t go. Too many weird ass mf out there. Tell him you want to go somewhere more surrounded by people.

Subflics · Answer

Whats wrong with a park? You clearly aren't interested enough so don't waste his time

Sparkie460 · Answer

There is nothing wrong with going to the park for the first date. It's a perfect way to talk and get a know each other. I'm sure that's not the only thing he has planned for the day.

LivingExample · Answer

You must keep in mind he Doesn’t know you and you Don’t know him. A public place is a good place to have a first date. Most parks nowadays have vendors to get something to drink or eat. This gives both of you an opportunity to get to know each other!

Dargil · Answer

For a first date, yes. Good place to talk and read each other.

Sasha0426 · Answer

Well, you just answered your own question. Tell him no since you’re not interested.

chrissykerdock · Answer

park dates usaully means he wants a blowjob in his car or behind a tree

SugarSugarplum · Answer

I'd go. Of course, it depends what the parks are like around you.

Gopnik · Answer

Maybe a bit old bit a Picnic in the park would have been a better offer, it's certainly what i'd have asked

GuitarGirl20 · Answer

I don't know I think it’s a good idea. A cute first date, just hanging out, talking, having fun & being yourself

Jazzy54 · Answer

Not cringy at all. I actually think that’s beautiful. Anyway, if that’s not your thing, tell him you’re not interested.

Wisdom-Strength-Love · Answer

First off, if he took you to yosemite. That be the best first date you ever been on.

Adaeva · Answer

If he was hot, you would without asking question. Since he not hot, don't go.

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